I can't live here anymore. Please help.

[Guest]

It's so so dirty and the people are so illiterate. I hate touching anything and everything here. I hate my family, and don't feel any connection to them. I want to runaway from this country. I am 18, in college. My passport has expired and not been renewed. I don't know how much money i have in my bank account. I have never had a job. But i really really really want to runaway. I wish to run away to South Korea. I can read Korean and understand basic sentences. I have been there on vacation once, and i loved it. Please help me.

I am 18, in college. I hate my family, and feel no connection to them. I hate living in this dirty country. Everyone and everything here is so so filthy. I hate touching anything here. I am unable to survive like this. I can't do it anymore. I hate it when anything or anyone touches me. I want to runaway from this country. My passport has expired as I am not a minor anymore, and has not been renewed. I have no idea how much money I have in my bank account, and it is a joint account with my parent. I have never had a job. I wish to runaway to South Korea. I have been there last year and loved it. I can read Korean and speak, understand basic sentences. Please help me.

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Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We would like to be of help to you exploring options for your situation.

NRS is here to listen and here to help.
We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).


Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

my moms boyfriend is just too hard to handle and he keeps threatening to take all my belongnings and says that all i am is a lying piece of sh*t

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Thank you for taking the time to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. NRS is a safe and confidential space for young people to receive support and resources. We are a non-directive and non-judgmental space for you talk through your situation, explore your options, and receive resources. We are here 24/7 to listen and help.

It sounds like you are in a tough spot at home and your mom's boyfriend has been making it even more stressful. You deserve to be treated with respect and it is not okay for other household members to talk down to you. You mentioned you are 18 which means you are most likely a legal adult and have the legal freedom to choose where you live. Having a solid plan in place and thinking about what is realistic and do-able for you can help you put together a plan to leave home safely.

Our email and Bulletin services are different in that we can only respond twice. If you would like to talk more in detail about your situation and receive immediate help, we encourage you to reach out to us through our hotline at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at 1800runaway.org (click on the CHAT button on our website homepage).

We look forward to hearing from you soon so that we can help,
NRS

[Guest]

I’m 16 and want to run away, I live with my mom and sister. My moms has kicked me out many times through the past few years, and constantly and consistently puts her boyfriends needs before mine and my sisters. Ive been emotionally abused by her for years, I come home from school or work and she just cusses me out, calls me every name you could think of. Then the next day she’s normal again and we don’t discuss it or nothing. I’ve had enough man. She’ll break down my bedroom door, hammer off my lock, I don’t feel safe at all. She threatens to call the police on me for the smallest things, and for running away. Legally in Ontario I can runaway at 16, but I’m a bit nervous to do so. I work full time right now, and plan to go back in September once schools open. What do I do? Should I run away or live hating everyday for 2 years?

Thanks

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Hi there,

Thank you for taking the time to contact us here at NRS. We appreciate you sharing a bit about your situation and we want you to know it was very brave to reach out to for help. It sounds like your mom has been making home dangerous for you and you are thinking about leaving. It is not okay for your mom to kick you out or for her to make you feel unsafe at home. You deserve to feel safe where you are living and to be treated with respect.

The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in Ontario, Canada you can contact a youth crisis line based in Canada, https://kidshelpphone.ca/ , for support during this difficult time and help exploring your possible options. We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your area.

If you are currently living in the United State, you can contact us directly by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or through live chat services at 1800runaway.org. We want to talk more in detail about your situation with you so that we can better discover your possible options and offer any needed resources( ex. youth shelter).

Stay safe and good luck,
NRS

[Guest]

Im 17 and i need to move out, I have very bad trust issues with parents, and today my mom told me I am grounded till she can trust me again, and that I'm the biggest liar she knows, in the past, I have been called a hoe or slut. I'm not the most innocent person alive, I have done bad things, but I can't take it anymore, I have suicidal thoughts and running away, I am tired of verbally being abused by them, I wanna leave before it breaks me completely. They always tell me I never do anything around the house when I do so many things. my boyfriend of 3 years said I could live with him and his family if my parents agree. i doubt they will but I don't know what to do anymore.

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

Someone PLEASE, help me. I'm a 12 year old girl, a LGBT+ girl. I like girls, and my grandma, and parents are homophobic. They also make me super stressed and overwhelmed. I am pretty sure they're the reason I have MDD. I plan to run away a little after Christmas since I get a lot of money during that time. What should I do? There is nobody I can turn to and it seems to be my only option

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Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. You made a great first step to finding the help that you may need. It sounds like you are going through a lot and the people around you are not being supportive. You deserve to be treated with respect, to experience acceptance and to feel safe.



We want you to know that you are strong for having gone through so much already. It is perfectly okay to deviate from what others or the common population believe to be “normal”. You’re bravery and resilience is so admirable. You are so strong for having gone through so much without having the acceptance that you do deserve for just being you. Remember that you are not alone. If you ever want to talk more about what you are experiencing or get additional support we are here 24/7 at 1800-RUNAWAY or our live chat service. The GLBT National Hotline at 1888-843-4564 is another option to gain great support from those that are familiar with the issues and experiences of those that are also a part of the LGBTQ community. You can access their website link bellow to utilize all the other possibly useful resources they have to offer: http://www.glbthotline.org/



You mentioned that you were considering the options that may be best for you. By all means, if you do fear for your safety either now or in the future, do not hesitate to take the necessary steps to regain your safety. This may mean calling the authorities or possibly reporting the things you may be experiencing. Other options to think about may be other family members, friends, or a trusted adults that would be able to provide you with support or a safe place to stay. It is great that you thinking ahead. Should you feel like leaving home is best, it may be a good idea to think about how you will provide necessities for yourself such as food, clothing, showers, healthcare and other basic needs. You may want to also consider how your parent’s will react to you leaving without permission. We are not legal experts here, but typically as a minor (under the age of 1 you need permission from your parents to leave home. It is not illegal to runaway, but it would mean that your parents could file a runaway report with the police. This is usually done in an effort to try to return you home as the police are required to do so.



If you can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or reach out through Live Chat we can try to find some youth shelters that may be near your city and state by utilizing our database of resources. We can also try to call out to shelters with you or on your behalf to advocate for you. 

 

Stay Strong,

NRS

[Guest]

Hola,escribo desde Perú...por un tema de un familiar que vive en usa ella es una niña de 18 años que durante toda su vida la mamá a abusado psicológicamente de ella..ella tiene problemas de depresión ella nació en usa pero tiene a su padre en peru,y ella quiere ir a Perú..pero su mamá le escondió sus documentos y es tanto el miedo que siente hacia ella que queda inmovilizada,como se le puede ayudar!

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Hola,
Gracias por contactar a National Runaway Safeline, estamos aquí para ayudar y aquí para escuchar. parece que su pariente está pasando por un momento realmente difícil, es genial que se haya comunicado en su nombre. Queremos que sepa que no está sola.
En Estados Unidos se la considera adulta, por lo que podría irse sin el permiso de su madre. Si su madre no le da los documentos que necesita, puede comunicarse con la policía y es posible que ellos puedan ayudarla.
Esperamos que esta información sea útil en su situación. Si ella o usted tiene más preguntas o le gustaría hablar más sobre la situación. Por favor llámenos, estamos disponibles 24 horas al día, 7 días a la semana. Buena suerte
NRS

[Guest]

Hola un menor sacado de la escuela y ponerlo a trabajar es un delito?

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Hola,

Gracias por comunicarse con nosotros. Lamentamos el hecho que esté en una situación potencialmente difícil. Reconocemos que aveces es difícil pedir ayuda, y queremos que sepa que estamos aquí para apoyarle.

Parece que tiene preguntas sobre la legalidad de tener a un menor trabajando sin acceso a estudio. Aunque no somos expertos en la ley, en algunos estados, hay un requisito legal de mantener a un menor en la escuela hasta los 16 años de edad. Si el joven es menor de los 16 años, no asiste a la escuela, y el menor no recibe instrucción a domicilio, es posible que el departamento de servicios infantiles y familiares comenzaría una investigación sobre el suceso. Para más información sobre las leyes de su estado particular, es necesario hablar con alguien que tiene más conocimiento de las leyes estatales, como un abogado o un agente del departamento de servicios infantiles y familiares de su estado.

Si gusta más información sobre recursos locales que puedan contestar sus preguntas con certeza, siéntate libre de comunicarse con nosotros por teléfono o vía chat. Estamos aquí para apoyarle, y estamos disponibles para proporcionar recursos comunitarios, o igual, para platicar con usted sobre su situación. Estamos disponibles 24 horas al día, 7 días a la semana. Nos puede llamar por teléfono al 1.800.RUNAWAY (786.2929) o por nuestro servicio de chat. Suerte!

-NRS