My girlfriend wants to run away

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I don’t know where to put this, she wants to run away in a few months. She wants to live with me, but idk if that would work. Her backup plan is going to her aunt who lives even farther away. I did the math and she would have to go over 600 miles to get to me, I want to be able to support her and I want her to be able to be safe and happy and be able to safely transition (she’s a trans girl)

but we’re 14.... i really don’t think I can talk her out of it tho, over half of their system agreed to it (DID system or whatever) including the host and the caretaker, and I agree that she really does need to get away from her “family” it scares me how often she’s offline for like an hour and comes back crying after being shouted at and threatened and stuff


again sorry if this is the wrong place to put this

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Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like your girlfriend is going through a lot at home, which can be very overwhelming. You are very strong for being there to talk to and support her.

You mentioned that she is being yelled at and threatened by her family. She always deserves to be treated with respect and to feel safe at home. One option she has is to reach out to tell someone about what is happening. She could reach out to a trusted adult to talk about how she is feeling. This could be a family member, teacher, counselor, coach, or any other adult that she feels comfortable talking to. One of those people could be her aunt that she is considering going to live with. She could also get in touch with an organization called Childhelp. They provide support to youth living in abusive situations. They can be reached at their hotline (800) 422-4453 or through chatrooms on their website at www.childhelp.org/.

Your girlfriend’s identity is valid and should be respected. She deserves to be supported and feel accepted for who she is. One resource that might be helpful for her is called the Trevor Project. They provide crisis support to LGBTQ+ young people and can help to connect her to resources in her area if she is interested. Their hotline is (866) 488-7386, and they can also be reached in chatrooms on their website www.TheTrevorProject.org.

There are several things to consider if she is choosing to come and stay with you. This includes transportation and how you will support yourselves. If you or your girlfriend would like to speak more about your situation, please reach out to us at our hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or our chatrooms on our website https://www.1800runaway.org/.

Good luck,

NRS