Am I doing something right?

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I'm 13, planning to move in with my boyfriend (15) my parents hate me and I hate them and basically my life is a freaking mess, I'm turning 14 in December and my boyfriend is turning 16 in April. I just want to know If I'm doing something right because I never did something like this before because I was scared. I'm planning to move in with him when its my birthday.
I just dont feel safe in the house I'm in right now, and these are my foster parents. My other parents abandoned me at the age of 1 and I feel like if I leave my foster mom and dad would absolutely kill me and lock me in my room again and delete all my social media. I just cant live like this anymore so I have decided to move in with my boyfriend, because I dont want to be treated like this anymore.

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I'm 13, planning to move in with my boyfriend (15) my parents hate me and I hate them and basically my life is a freaking mess, I'm turning 14 in December and my boyfriend is turning 16 in April. I just want to know If I'm doing something right because I never did something like this before because I was scared. I'm planning to move in with him when its my birthday.
I just dont feel safe in the house I'm in right now, and these are my foster parents. My other parents abandoned me at the age of 1 and I feel like if I leave my foster mom and dad would absolutely kill me and lock me in my room again and delete all my social media. I just cant live like this anymore so I have decided to move in with my boyfriend, because I dont want to be treated like this anymore.

We're glad you're reaching out for help; it sounds like you've been in a really stressful environment for a long time, and you don't have to work through this alone.

It sounds like your foster parents haven't been treating you with respect and haven't made you feel safe. You do not deserve to feel this way, and your desire to get out is valid.

Running away to live somewhere else can be difficult at 14, because your guardians still have legal custody of you, and law enforcement can enforce that. If you leave to stay with your boyfriend, if you imagine your parents would contact the police to report you missing, the police would then investigate places where you're likely to be, including your boyfriend's. His family could get in trouble for allowing you to stay there, even if they do create a safer environment. We're not telling you not to do so, just letting you know some of the challenges you might face.

Since it sounds like your parents at home have been emotionally abusive or neglectful, you have the option of filing a report to child protective services, which could result in an investigation of their behavior, which could bring about change. If you wanted to do that, you could contact us (1800runawy.org or 1-800-RUNAWAY, available 24/7) or contact a trusted teacher or counsellor at school. We're also available by chat or phone if you want to talk in more detail about what's been going on, which can be helpful. We are here for you, please make use of the resources available and be safe!