I hate my mom

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She will tell me I do things every kid does but then holler and berate me when I do a “child-like mistake”
How do you say your depression is worse than mine because your dad was a bad parent when I say I’m literally unmotivated to get out of bed and turn it into a competition. I don’t belittle her mental health issues but she takes every chance to tell me I’m a manipulative lying ********** and that she wouldn’t care if I killed myself knowing damn well I’ve tried to. It’s NOT normal to hit your kids over the head and punch them for saying they forgot to clean the desk in their room. She acts like a bully but then asks me the next day why I act like I don’t like her when “she gives me everything I need” and throws herself a pity party. She has literally called my friends and I the f slur when none of us have come out and has called me a boy girl and the t slur, and when i try to say something about it and tell her those are transphobic. homophobic, hurtful things to say she swears she isn't homophobic.

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https://bulletinboards.1800runaway.org/core/images/icons/icon9.png I hate my mom



Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to us, we understand it can be a difficult step to take and we’re glad you did. We hope to help as best we can. You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it, emotional/verbal abuse just as much as physical abuse. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

You made a great first step to finding the help that you may need. It sounds like you are going through a lot and the people around you are not being supportive. You deserve to be treated with respect, to experience acceptance and to feel safe.

We want you to know that you are strong for having gone through so much already. It is perfectly okay to deviate from what others or the common population believe to be “normal”. You’re bravery and resilience is so admirable. You are so strong for having gone through so much without having the acceptance that you do deserve for just being you. Remember that you are not alone. If you ever want to talk more about what you are experiencing or get additional support we are here 24/7 at 1800-RUNAWAY or our live chat service. The GLBT National Hotline at 1888-843-4564 is another option to gain great support from those that are familiar with the issues and experiences of those that are also a part of the LGBTQ community. You can access their website link bellow to utilize all the other possibly useful resources they have to offer: http://www.glbthotline.org/

Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

Stay safe,
NRS

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I felt what felt like hatred towards my mom for a long time too . But I came to learn its not hatred its hurt . From trauma . And I had to suck it up and find distractions . So that's what I did I smiled at school and cried at home and this probably doesn't help your situation but i'm just telling you how I lived .

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Thank you for your response to another user’s post. Often forums are a place of support and understanding for many youth. It often may be validating and helpful for users to read similar situations as well as exchange feedback to one another. For anyone experiencing any difficulties or challenges, the National Runaway Safeline encourages youth to reach out to our 24/7 crisis support line either by phone or chat for immediate services.
Thank you,
NRS