I want more time with my boyfriend

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Im 15 and me and my boyfriend have been dating for 8 months. Hes my age and in the same grade as me. Me and my boyfriend where having an intimate talk over text and my parents caught us, But that was 7 months ago. My boyfriend has already met both of my parents because of the football games we go to. But the only time me and him get to hang out is at school / after school and its annoying because i barely get any time with him at all. My parents wont even let me talk to him when i'm home. Ive always been told that a relationship needs communication so i still text him. I want to facetime and call but im not aloud. My parents say that they like him but when i wanna go out with him or something like that their answer is always No. My boyfriend would like to get to know my parents like i have with his but my mom and dad don't let us spend time after school and stuff. I have made valid points and reasons of why we should and my parents just wave it off. They say i'm not responsible or mature. I am but they dont take the time to see it. I love him very much and i dont want to grow apart. and Literally all me and him can talk abt is all of the cuddle times, kisses, and game time we could get if i was aloud over at his house. I sometimes think of sneaking out but i dont want to be caught. And ever since that first month we learned our lessons. Both me and him have been trying to earn that trust back but its rly hard. Ive been proving how trust worthy i am for 7 months. But my parents dont take any notice to it. Is there anything that i could possibly do to be able to spend any sort of time with him out of school?? I really want more time with him. We are always talking about getting married and we are both crazy about eachother. But my parents are controlling and think i should focus on school when i already balance school friends and a boyfriend. I just want more time with him and my parents trust back, Is there anything that i could do that would fix that??

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Hey there,

Thanks for reaching out to us. What you want is normal and makes sense but just a matter of figuring out what to do next. One idea might be to write a letter to your parents explaining how you feel and reassuring them of any concerns they may have about your relationship. Or perhaps there is another adult you trust that can approach your parents with you that can advocate for you. You know your situation best, but it might take some brainstorming on your part. One thing you may want to keep in mind is that everything is temporary and sometimes just being patient is a good idea. Things can often just change on their own in time.

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