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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out, we understand it can be a difficult step to take. We hope to help as best we can. It sounds like things are tense at home, and you mentioned abuse, this could be from parents/legal guardians or from a partner/roommate. Either way we want to help you with getting out of the situation as safely as possible. If you are unable to communicate with us over the phone, we do also have a live online chat, where we can help by finding shelters in the area and other resources. You have been so strong, and brave to reach out to us. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    I am 20 and I would get abused if I go to a new house help me

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  • ccsmod9
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    Thank you for contacting NRS,
    We appreciate you contacting us and being brave to share your story. From what you have written it seems as though your mom is not letting you move out of the house yet even though you are 19. In some states the legal age of majority is 21 or 19. If you are in these states where the age is higher we suggest perhaps calling us here at NRS or your local non-emergency number. They would be able to assist you with any specific legal questions you might have. If you are not in any of the states where the legal age of majority is higher. A simple call to the police can help. You can let them know you'd like to be escorted out of the home and even try and file a restraining order against your mom if you feel like she might try to harm you later. As you are above the age of 18 most states consider you an adult at this time. The only time this is not the case is when you have a power of attorney or the court has granted someone to be your permanent guardian for whatever reason.
    You are welcome to come to our chat through this website or call us at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) to discuss your plan for moving out.
    Good luck, and we hope to hear from you soon.
    Sincerely,
    NRS

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    I'm 19, I've told my parents I want to move out and my mom told me I'm not allowed to move out until she decides I'm ready. She said it's her decision if I leave or not because im not ready to take care of myself.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out to us. We are sorry to hear your mom is pressuring you like that and even getting other family members to threaten you. If the threats become serious you may want to talk to the local police to get assistance. Or if you are ever in immediate danger you can call 911. Again, we are very sorry to hear your mom isn't respecting your desire for independence at your age.

    Since you are 18 you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live.  We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses.

    Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can.   Feel free to call us anytime to discuss your options or just talk about what's going on at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat with us via our website: www.1800runaway.org.

    All the best,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I’m 19 years old I’m turning 20 in 3 months and my mom won’t let me move out with my boyfriend of 4 years and she has gotten other family members to threaten me in order to stay but I just want to live my life with the person I love and she’s preventing me from doing it because she thinks he’s pressuring me into leaving but he isn’t. I just want to start a life with the person I love and she’s preventing me

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us and sharing a bit about what's going on. We are sorry to hear your mom is mistreating you like that. You certainly don't deserve to be talked down to or made to feel inferior. That must be very frustrating. Fortunately, at least it does sound like there are some good things going on in your life right now.

    The best way we can help is if you give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us via www.1800runaway.org. We can discuss your options, including how you might be able to communicate how you feel to your mom. We also have a large database of resources; for example: counseling if you would like ongoing support. You don't have to face this alone and the more help you can get the better. We hope to hear from you soon.

    All the best,
    NRS

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    I am 19 have everything going good for me I’m financially stable payed for everything that I have now like a car and apartment I also have a job but the thing is I can’t move forward happily if my mom is in the way she talks down on me and makes me feel like I’m still under her roof and rules she’s never been happy for me I even had the chance to buy her a car and help her out with other things but she still calls me a ******** up and won’t give me space to be free idk what to do

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. While we are not legal experts, we do have a great deal of experience working with runaways. It is our understanding that if you are 18 in OK, then you are considered a legal adult and have the right to live where you choose regardless of whether or not you have graduated. If you would like to talk in greater detail about what is going on and what options you have, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I am 18 years old im in oklahoma and ill be 19 soon my adopted mom is telling me i cannot move out until I graduate well I finish school in May but because of covid-19 my graduation isnt until August my brother and his wife and 2 girls are gonna let me stay with them while in college but my adopted mom said I cant leave till after graduation but since I'm 18 cant I leave now without her doing anything

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello,
    Thank you for reaching out to us during this difficult time. Since you are legally an adult and over the age of 18, you can leave at any time. We are sorry to hear your parents are not supporting your decision. If your parents will not support you financially or emotionally during this time, it might be a good idea to plan ahead and make sure you are ready to live independently with the person you love. Best of luck and feel free to call us at any point in time at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

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    Guest replied
    I’m 19 and my parents won’t let me move out with someone I love. They think he is not the right one for me but I know he is and I’m turning 20 in 2 months. I don’t want to be here I want to leave.

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to us here at The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time right now.
    Feeling stuck and wanting that independence can be super frustrating. We are not legal experts but in most states the legal age to leave home is 18 years old. To find out what age you can legally leave you can call your local police department and ask. If the car is under your parents name, if you were to leave you may have to leave the car otherwise they can report it as stolen. One option to consider is trying to talk with your parents and find out the reasoning of them not wanting you to leave.
    If you would like to explore more options or if you have more questions please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support to you. Best of luck!
    NRS

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    I'm 19 and my parents wont let me move in with my boyfriend. I told the this morning as we were leaving that I am going to live with th boyfriend until school statts back up. They took my keys from me and my mom drove me home saying that I am not allowed to move out. I have no clue where my car keys are now to even try and escape during the night. They have been helping me with college but most all my college is student loans, I am aware that they are paying for my phone and insurance but my bf and I have already figured that and are already looking for insurance for me. I was planning on sneaking during work but with all that is goong on they are now working from home. I dont want to be here I feel like I'm stuck

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hey there,

    We're sorry you're struggling with your mom letting you out of the house. Legally, you are allowed to move out of your parents' home if you are of legal adult age, which is usually 18. Since you are 19, you legally are allowed to leave whether or not your mom supports your decision. If you are in fear for your safety or your mom is physically not allowing you to leave, you can call the nonemergency police number in your area and ask for their assistance.

    Best of luck,
    NRS
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