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  • Im 19 and my parents wont let me move out

    I'm the baby of six kids, I turned 19 in February of this year. My parents are pretty strict when it comes to me. I've been in a relationship for about a year now and well things have happened where he's going to be moving two cities over. He wants me to go and I want to go with him. I work and I take care of myself. I have a way to get to work and everything from there. The only problem is my parents. When I tried asking my mom about it she said "your ass is staying here so don't think you're going anywhere". I don't know what to do. I want to move out and get my life started but if I do my mom and dad will disown me and I love them so much that don't want them to. Please help me.

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    Reply: Im 19 and my parents wont let me move out

    Hello,
    Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

    It sounds like you are having a dilemma over moving out of your parent’s home and in with your boyfriend because of your parents possibly cutting off contact with you.
    As you stated you are 19yrs of age self-supporting with the right to make your own decisions.
    However we understand that having your parents in your life is pretty important to you.
    That’s honorable of you.

    We would like to hear more about your situation and how you were hoping NRS might help. Consider giving us a call at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or visit www.1800Runaway.org (Live chat).

    Another option might be to consider having a sit down with your parents along with your boyfriend (your option) and communicate your plan to them.
    Hopefully you can have a constructive conversation with positive results.

    We wish you the best.

    Take Care,
    NRS
    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

    National Runaway Safeline
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    1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

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    • #3
      I'm 19 now but I feel like I can't do anything without being ********** our at and can't go do anything wirhouw someone knowing. I met guy I resrea loved but he wants me to move in with him but my mom and grandpa and twin sister wont let me I don't know what to do I don't wanna sit here forever not do anything

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      • ccsmod9
        ccsmod9 commented
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        Since you are 18 you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. Some things to think about before moving are perhaps evaluating if the guy you want to move out with is someone you can trust. Often times people just want to lure us into coming with them for their own reasons. Making sure you have a backup plan if things go wrong is always good as well. Perhaps having a friend you can reach out might help. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can.

    • #4
      I’m 19 years old I work and go to school so that means I’m barely at my mothers house , I’ve been saving up some money so I can get my own place . I’ve been approved for an apartment but....my mom isn’t letting me move out of her place and it’s really frustrating because we both know that I can take care of myself but she isn’t letting me leave. Should I leave without telling her or should I get some legal help ?

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      • ccsmod0
        ccsmod0 commented
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        Hey there,

        We're sorry you're struggling with your mom letting you out of the house. Legally, you are allowed to move out of your parents' home if you are of legal adult age, which is usually 18. Since you are 19, you legally are allowed to leave whether or not your mom supports your decision. If you are in fear for your safety or your mom is physically not allowing you to leave, you can call the nonemergency police number in your area and ask for their assistance.

        Best of luck,
        NRS

    • #5
      I'm 19 and my parents wont let me move in with my boyfriend. I told the this morning as we were leaving that I am going to live with th boyfriend until school statts back up. They took my keys from me and my mom drove me home saying that I am not allowed to move out. I have no clue where my car keys are now to even try and escape during the night. They have been helping me with college but most all my college is student loans, I am aware that they are paying for my phone and insurance but my bf and I have already figured that and are already looking for insurance for me. I was planning on sneaking during work but with all that is goong on they are now working from home. I dont want to be here I feel like I'm stuck

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      • ccsmod2
        ccsmod2 commented
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        Hello There,
        Thank you for reaching out to us here at The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time right now.
        Feeling stuck and wanting that independence can be super frustrating. We are not legal experts but in most states the legal age to leave home is 18 years old. To find out what age you can legally leave you can call your local police department and ask. If the car is under your parents name, if you were to leave you may have to leave the car otherwise they can report it as stolen. One option to consider is trying to talk with your parents and find out the reasoning of them not wanting you to leave.
        If you would like to explore more options or if you have more questions please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support to you. Best of luck!
        NRS

    • #6
      I’m 19 and my parents won’t let me move out with someone I love. They think he is not the right one for me but I know he is and I’m turning 20 in 2 months. I don’t want to be here I want to leave.

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      • #7
        Hello,
        Thank you for reaching out to us during this difficult time. Since you are legally an adult and over the age of 18, you can leave at any time. We are sorry to hear your parents are not supporting your decision. If your parents will not support you financially or emotionally during this time, it might be a good idea to plan ahead and make sure you are ready to live independently with the person you love. Best of luck and feel free to call us at any point in time at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

        National Runaway Safeline
        [email protected] (Crisis Email)
        1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)
        https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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        • #8
          I am 18 years old im in oklahoma and ill be 19 soon my adopted mom is telling me i cannot move out until I graduate well I finish school in May but because of covid-19 my graduation isnt until August my brother and his wife and 2 girls are gonna let me stay with them while in college but my adopted mom said I cant leave till after graduation but since I'm 18 cant I leave now without her doing anything

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          • ccsmod6
            ccsmod6 commented
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            Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. While we are not legal experts, we do have a great deal of experience working with runaways. It is our understanding that if you are 18 in OK, then you are considered a legal adult and have the right to live where you choose regardless of whether or not you have graduated. If you would like to talk in greater detail about what is going on and what options you have, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

            Take care,
            NRS

        • #9
          I am 19 have everything going good for me I’m financially stable payed for everything that I have now like a car and apartment I also have a job but the thing is I can’t move forward happily if my mom is in the way she talks down on me and makes me feel like I’m still under her roof and rules she’s never been happy for me I even had the chance to buy her a car and help her out with other things but she still calls me a ******** up and won’t give me space to be free idk what to do

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          • ccsmod15
            ccsmod15 commented
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            Hi there,

            Thank you for reaching out to us and sharing a bit about what's going on. We are sorry to hear your mom is mistreating you like that. You certainly don't deserve to be talked down to or made to feel inferior. That must be very frustrating. Fortunately, at least it does sound like there are some good things going on in your life right now.

            The best way we can help is if you give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us via www.1800runaway.org. We can discuss your options, including how you might be able to communicate how you feel to your mom. We also have a large database of resources; for example: counseling if you would like ongoing support. You don't have to face this alone and the more help you can get the better. We hope to hear from you soon.

            All the best,
            NRS
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