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**ccsmod4** · 01-10-2009, 04:38 AM

Re: i love him he loves me butt

Hi,
thanks for your post. It really sounds like you've been agonizing over your parents not accepting your boyfriend and we're sorry you have been going through such emotional and physical turmoil because of it. We see your point about them not liking your boyfriend because of your age difference. Are there any other concerns that they'ved voiced as to why they don't find him acceptable. We appreciate your honesty about how you feel for your boyfriend and how you have started to self injure. You said you started three months ago what happened where this became an outlet? It sounds like your boyfriend cares a great deal that you are doing this and would like you to stop and you said you would like to but can't.
What if any options have you sought for help? You stated that there are days you want to die.We're sorry to hear you have such low points. Is there anyone besides your boyfriend you might turn to for support? You are welcome to call our 1-800-Runaway 24hr Hotline for possible referrals for help in your area. We understand how stressful this has been for you and it is our hope things turn for the better. Has there been any consideration from you or your boyfriend indroducing your parents to one another in an effort for them to get to know each other? What do you think your parents would say? It would give them an opportunity to experience where he is from. How do you feel about that possibility? You said your parents are not what you want them to be. What do you mean exactly? This situation has been difficult for you yet there are occassions when you manage to find time with your boyfriend to get away and have some fun. Are there any other positive interest you can turn to that might relieve your stress? We want you to know you can call us to talk about your feelings and discuss some options and hopefuly formulate a plan. We really appreciate you contacting us at NRS and hope to hear from you soon on our 1-800-Runaway 24hr Hotline. We are also listing a couple of 24hr crisis hotlines for you as options.

National Suicide Hotline
1-800-273-Talk (828

Covenant House Nine Line
1-800-999-9999

Take Care,
nrs

**Guest** · 06-02-2009, 06:45 PM

Re: i love him he loves me butt

I turned 15 a few months ago, i have a boyfriend with whom i've been dating for 1 year also. I love him, and he loves me back. And my parents hate him too; and I've been cutting since November '08 now. My parents think he is a bad influence on me and discriminate against him just because of how he grew up and where he lives. They treat him like a scumbag when i think he is the most sweetest guy ever, and he's never hurt me, and i'm pretty sure he never would. He makes me so happy, and they just don't like him and won't even give him a chance, and now they've been doing everything just so i can't see him. I want to runaway with him, he said we could, and he'd take care of me, because he has his dad to help us. I don't know if i should because I like school, and I want to go to college. But would i still be able to go if i runaway when i'm in the 10 grade? If i do runaway, and my parents call the cops, I won't go back. They can lock me up in Juvie for all i care, because at least i tried. I'll do anything then stay here living with people who make me feel like i don't belong. Yes, my family loves me, but they don't know me, not anymore. They don't try, they just assume. I'm proud to say I haven't turned to drugs or alcohol because of them. And i hope i can keep it like that, but i'm just not sure. Sometimes my parents make me feel like i just want to end my life right there, and then when i look depressed, they think its all my boyfriends fault and blame it all on him :'( I just know i can't end my life though, because i have dreams, and hopes, and a select few people who love me, and also i have a 5 year old brother who i love dearly, and i would hate to leave him, i couldn't do that too him :'( But i dont know what to do anymore. I just have to hold my impulse in, so i dont do anything stupid that i'll regret. Any suggestions for me?

**ccsmod8** · 06-03-2009, 12:01 AM

Re: i love him he loves me butt

Hello,

Thank you for reaching out to us again at the National Runaway Switchboard. We are really proud of you for trying to set things in motion for your life to get better and commend you for standing up for your boyfriend. We imagine it is tough to stand up to your parents to defend his honor. How have you been coping with this issue since you last wrote to us? Have you given any thought to calling us for support. We truly care a great deal for your safety and wish to hear from you. We can be reached 24 hours a day at 1800RUNAWAY and which to speak with you if you desire a listening ear or whether you want to assess if your plan for leaving is a safe one. We are not here to tell you what to do and are in no position to force idea on you. We simply care a lot for your issues and want to look into whether you can benefit from any of the services or programs.

Are there alternatives to leaving at this time? We have a service we provide to our callers that enables us and you to engage in conversation with your parents at home. It works by you calling us to talk to one of our liners about your situation. From there, if you choose, we call home to speak with your parents about compromise or a list of things that can change at home for you to start feeling home is an option for you.

If your boyfriend's father is willing to help, are you aware of what risks he is taking? Running away is not illegal but harboring is runaway has its consequences. Have you talked to your boyfriends' father about these things?

We also want you to know if you choose to leave that we are still going to here for you. You can reach us from any payphone or house phone toll free. We hope to hear from you soon. Please stay strong and Good luck.

-NRS

**Unregistered** · 05-29-2013, 03:38 PM

i love him, he loves me but his parents

im 13 and my boyfriends 16 i love him and he loves me my parents are fine they dont mind as long as im happy but me and his sister (his sister is 13 in my year at school) hates me and always has and she **********es about me to her and his parents so they now hate me.... his dad said they will move away if we carry on dating so we faked a break up but we are still secretly going out but i dont know what to do we cant keep sneaking around like this i have to sneak out his house and its hard we have almost been court loads of times and if we are court then hes gonna move away i love him so much and i cant just give up we have to work something out but i need help??? <3 xxx

**ccsmod5** · 05-29-2013, 04:13 PM

Re: i love him, he loves me but his parents

Hello,

Thanks for contacting us. It sounds like you are in a really difficult situation.

It makes sense that trying to keep a secret like this from his parents would be really difficult and frustrating. It's a little surprising that his parents would think about moving away over something like this, and if you have almost ended up in court then I wonder if there is something else going on that we should consider here. Is it possible that what's causing you to end up in court is why his parents are reacting so strongly. If so, is there anything you and your boyfriend can do about that? Also I wonder how well your boyfriend's parents really know you?

Do you think it might help if you and he could just sit down and talk with them together about your feelings for each other and let them get to know you. Maybe they have specific concerns that you could talk with them about, and work out an understanding that would allow you continue dating.

If you'd like to get more support with this situation and talk about what your options might be, please call us at 1800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We're anonymous, confidential and available 24/7.

Best,
NRS

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