Recently, my best friend has fallen in a terrible pit of hopelessness. He is always drinking, and getting high, and he's been skipping school a lot too. I want to help him but he seems like he doesn't want any help, and he also makes it seem as though my caring about him is not important. I have been prioritizing him for a very long time even though he has treated me poorly and he has turned his back on my family. However, I understand that he is struggling to get his things together, and he feels so worthless that he will not accept any help. Lately I've been losing hope.
My parents don't want me to speak to him since he is a bad influence, and he treated me awfully a while back. I tried to make them understand that he is hurting and he needs support, but my parents say I cannot give him support because I myself am unstable. I also found out recently that my friend is involved with a girl who is not particularly helpful to him, and I am deeply saddened by this. They say the best thing to happen to him is something drastic, like being sent to rehab. However, I fear the worst will happen before this and I am very anxious.
This has taken a huge emotional toll on me. I want to help him, but I can't even help myself. He seems to not want me in his life anyway, but I feel that somewhere inside of him he still cares about me and wants to get better. I don't want to stay here anymore. I want to leave for a few days, and I've been getting things ready to leave. I feel that it will give me some time to cool off, and will also be that "drastic" thing that will snap him out of his spiraling out of control. I certainly have issues that contribute to leaving being my last resort (I am constantly being bullied at school, I am not doing well in my classes, I am extremely saddened and exhausted from all that has been going on). I honestly feel that my only other option is too drastic and irreversible. I am preparing everything and figuring out where to go. I cannot forsee if that will be an eye opener or just make everything worse.
My parents don't want me to speak to him since he is a bad influence, and he treated me awfully a while back. I tried to make them understand that he is hurting and he needs support, but my parents say I cannot give him support because I myself am unstable. I also found out recently that my friend is involved with a girl who is not particularly helpful to him, and I am deeply saddened by this. They say the best thing to happen to him is something drastic, like being sent to rehab. However, I fear the worst will happen before this and I am very anxious.
This has taken a huge emotional toll on me. I want to help him, but I can't even help myself. He seems to not want me in his life anyway, but I feel that somewhere inside of him he still cares about me and wants to get better. I don't want to stay here anymore. I want to leave for a few days, and I've been getting things ready to leave. I feel that it will give me some time to cool off, and will also be that "drastic" thing that will snap him out of his spiraling out of control. I certainly have issues that contribute to leaving being my last resort (I am constantly being bullied at school, I am not doing well in my classes, I am extremely saddened and exhausted from all that has been going on). I honestly feel that my only other option is too drastic and irreversible. I am preparing everything and figuring out where to go. I cannot forsee if that will be an eye opener or just make everything worse.
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