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    I can barely see my gf bc her parents dont want her to have a bf
    And we love eachother deeply.
    And we are thinking to runaway.
    But we arent sure it it will be better or worse.
    I need advice
    We think it will be better bc we can see eachother everyday.
    But we think it will be worse bc we would never see eachother again bc we would get in big trouble
    We have been going out for awhile now
    And we want to get married
    Soo someone or somebody give us advice...Plz..

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    Re: Love


    Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Switchboard with your situation and we hope that even if you choose to leave or stay that you know that you can count on us for support from home or away from home. We were touched by your words of being in love and your willingness to do whatever it takes to protect that love. We were also glad to hear that you are thinking outside the box and that you recognize that there could be trouble ahead if you are not careful with your plans. We are not able too tell you what to do or to give advice but we can talk about suggestion for staying safe if you opted to leave home. We also have lot of referrals for most cities you choose to go or even in your own town if you were interested in such resources.

    It sounds like you and your girlfriend truly care a lot for one another and we admire that you are willing to think things through because it is best to consider all your options. Why do you think it is hard for her parents to allow you access to your girlfriend? Have you thought about setting up a time to meet with her parents or is this out of the picture? Sometimes, parents just do not know how to judge a situation if they do not know the other half of the relationship. After all, some parents fill the best remedy to protecting their child is to clamp down on their child and taking away every chance this child has to do the things they dread the most. But, this only makes the relationship more attractive to both of you and by the time they have the chance to pull back it is too late. Is this the case for you? Have you spent time with her family? Have they gotten the chance to know the real you? Do they care about this? Do you care to allow them the chance to get to know the real you?

    We are not in your situation and cannot speak for you. We hope that you are able to look at the big picture and it seems that you are willing to by what you wrote. The main thing we want to stress is you and your girlfriend's safety and how you might survive out in the world if you decide to leave home. Do you have a plan? What have the two of you come up with for where you are going to stay or how you are going to get there? Generally, the rules surrounding runaways is one in which, it is not necessarily a crime to run away but it can give you a status offense which is like a crime committed by a minor. However, you can either be taken back home or held by the police if you are caught. It comes down to police discretion. Another thing to consider is where you stay because staying with friends, family or strangers is grounds for these people risking harboring you. The issue comes down to how old you are but it also is a matter of whether your parents file you as runaways or find out later who was harboring you. This is illegal and can lead others to get into trouble and risk jail time.

    The last thing we want you to think about is the fact that we are here first and foremost to help you communicate with those involved. Whether it is a matter of calling home or leaving a message for your girlfriend’s family or your own, we can do our best to assist. We have a message service and conference call service for you to take advantage of in the event you decided that it was time to return home. We can also find resources such as shelters for you to stay but they are expected to call your parents if you are minors. If you are not minors, then that changes everything and means you are able to move away from home. Please let us in on a bit more about your situation with a bit more specifics for age and what you are planning to do as the days go by. We can be reach 24 hours a day at 1800RUNAWAY and want to hear from you. If any of you need some support or ideas for a plan, please consider calling us and we would do our best to assist you. Until then, please stay strong and be safe. Good luck.

    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

    National Runaway Safeline
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    1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

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