boyfriend in rehab

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I'm 19 years old and hes 26, I've never loved anyone as much as I love him . He went to rehab for drugs and alcohol, I dont know how long he'll be away for but he just left and I already miss him so much . My parents dont like the idea of me going out with him they think I deserve better and I can do better but I hate when they say that they dont understand me . I feel very alone and confused because I feel that maybe my boyfriend will change his feelings about me and that makes me sick to my stomach because we get along so well and understand each other . I never had a boyfriend before because I never wanted one I felt whats the point if I dont love someone liking someone is just a waste of time . He said he would call me while hes away and not to worry . Ive been feeling very down because Im used to talking to him almost everyday . My parents wont let me grow up and think for myself I feel like Im suffocating . They wont let me see him because they dont want me alone with him but they should trust me since I never gave them a reason not to I try to be very open with them but all they do that is shut me out and yell at me . Thats why I love my boyfriend so much because he listens to me and understands me and makes me want to be a better person . He told me he wants to marry me and have kids with me, I know that sounds stupid because Im young Im not naive I understand people tell you things you want to hear but when he says it he says it with sincerity and the way he looks me in his eyes I know hes true to me . Ive always liked people older than me I cant see myself with anyone else he has my heart and I hope I have his . He took a cab to see me at night and he stayed the night at my house we just watched tv all night laughed and he slept with me on my bed and we held hands when we slept . That night was the best night of my life cause that was the first night I spent with him and it was the simple things that made me smile . He said that night he forgot about his problems but when we woke up in the morning he was very down because he knew he was going to rehab soon . I get nervous when Im around him so he always kisses me first I wish I hugged him and kissed him more before he left . Im glad hes getting help and I just want him to get better not for me but for himself because hes an amazing person and such a sweetheart . I just feel alone and empty I dont have a lot of friends to talk to and my family dont support me . I wish I could go somewhere for a while and just think I dont like my home so much .

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Reply: boyfriend in rehab



Hello,
Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

We appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
Some situations can be disappointing and even upsetting thus making things uncertain about what to do or where to turn. It can be tough trying to sort out your own feelings let alone trying to figure out the actions of others.

It sounds like you would just appreciate it if your parents would come to trust your decisions and not only except but respect the relationship you have with your boyfriend.
We understand and we want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

You expressed your feelings about the situation very well. Good job.
It must surely be of some comfort to your boyfriend knowing he has your support.
It can help tremendously. He is lucky to have you on his side.

If you would like to talk more about what’s going on and maybe explore some options to better cope with the situation, please contact NRS. We are here to listen and here to help.
We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.org.
Again tell us what it is you would like us to help you with and we will be happy to explore some options with you.

You’ve shown great courage by reaching out today and we hope that it was of some help sharing your feelings.
We wish you both the best.

Take care,
NRS