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    Hi! I'm K****and I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend Z***. Before I start with my boyfriend, let me tell you about all of my parents. When I was young my mom and dad got a divorce and I was currently living with my grandparents. I rarely had time with my parents but I was very close with my mother. when my mother finally came back from the military she came back with a guy I had never really knew or talked to very much, I was very clueless abd didn't know that they had been dating for a while before I met him. The same time my mom got a new boyfriend, my dad also got a new girlfriend. In the beginning I wanted my parents to get back together and for us to be the happy family I thought we were. The first year was very difficult and rough. I got spanked everyday for supposedly lying to my mother all the time. I would've never lied to my mother and I thought she hated me. My father became a Christian and I really depended on him at the time as well as god. After a while I started writing in a journal and was scared to come home. At first I didn't want anyone to know, I cried myself to sleep every night. After a couple months I told my father and step mother, my step mother is a social security person I think. I told him what was happening and I had red markings on my butt. After a month someone came to school and talked to me i repeatedly told them I didn't want my mother in trouble i just wanted to leave. At the time I was scared out of my mind and every so often thought of suicide. One day my mom went top court and I had no clue. I came home after school and saw my stuff packed at the door. At first I thought this is it there kicking me out they don't live me anymore. I waited at home and my step dad came affirming into the house with so much anger and I thought this its it im going to die. He scared me so much he made me daddy stuff that wasn't true that I wanted my mother to go to jail, but I didn't. I never wanted that after a long time of talking and so many tears. At the end of the day I got everything back and I wasn't leaving. After awhile the events became a distant memory. But deep inside I was still scared of my mother. I still am scared of my mother but she doesn't see it. Now I'm turning 15 in June, he will be turning 15 in August and have been with Z*** for about 2-3 years. Throughout these years I have griffen to love him and care for him deeply. We aren't the perfect couple we've gag or fair troubles of fights abd disagreements. And after having those disagreements his mother has now grown to not like me. And I know in order to have a future with him I need to be on his mother's good side. I would love to run but I'm very scared. I feel at this point my mother and step father are just buying my love. I am scared of what my mother will say. She does know of our relationship I couldn't hide it from her. Now I am confident that I love him. I want to run but I'm scared, I want to tell my mom but I'm scared. Can you help me in some way?

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    Hello,

    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline and sharing with us some of what has been going on the last few years. It sounds like there is a lot that you have had to process, such as your parents divorced, them remarrying, and then the mistreatment by your mom and her husband. It also sounds like things have been difficult for you, and we are so sorry to hear this. It must be nice to have the support of your boyfriend and he and your future with him sounds like it is important to you. We understand how you would want to get on his moms good side.

    You had mentioned that you are thinking about running and are wondering if we can help you. From what you had been mentioning, it sounds like you have been thinking about leaving for a while. Leaving home can be a big step for some, and it is great that you are reaching out in trying to figure out what is best for you. We are not legal experts, but we can speak in general terms what could happen if you decided to leave. Leaving home without your parental permission is not a criminal offense, it is a status offense. This means that you are not allowed to do it because of your age. If you do, your parents have the option to file a runaway report with your local police. Again this is not a criminal offense, just a status offense. If you are found you will just be brought back home to your legal guardian. However, anyone that you stay with could be charged with harboring a runaway, which is a misdemeanor offense for them.

    We hoped this helped and if you would like to discuss your situation in greater detail you can always give us a call on out hotline or you can chat with us on our website. We look forward to hearing from you and we wish you the best of luck.

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      How do I get to him and get on his moms good side without causing trouble?

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      • #4
        Re: I'm 15 years old and want to run away to my long distance boyfriend

        Hello again,

        It sounds like at this point you'd like to focus on your relationship with your boyfriend and try and strengthen things with his mom without causing trouble. We'd also like to share a few resources with you since you mentioned previously thinking of suicide every so often and getting spanked and ending up with red marks. If you begin having suicidal thoughts or feel unsafe because of how you're treated at home the following resources might be helpful:

        National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: You Matter
        http://www.youmatter.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

        Child Help USA
        https://www.childhelp.org/

        We're here to further discuss your situation and possible options with you and encourage you to try reaching out to us directly either through our Live Chat or by calling our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

        National Runaway Safeline
        [email protected] (Crisis Email)
        1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

        Tell us what you think about your experience!
        https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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