My friend just confided in me tonight. I feel a bit bad about talking about this because I feel like I'm betraying her trust, but I can't let her go on living how she's been living.
Here's the story:
In May, her mom went to pick them up from school. Her sister was the only one outside at the time and noticed that she was drunk when she went to pick them up. Her mom got mad when she refused to get into the car and she drove off. Her sister got a ride home from a friend and called her and her brother, who were still inside, and told them she was calling their dad to pick them up and not to get into the car with their mom if she came back because she was drunk off her ass.
When her sister got home, her mother was there and still mad at her because the other two wouldn't get in the car when she came back. She then proceeded to assault her.
She went to jail and there was a court case. Her dad said that he was divorcing her after the case, but guess who's back?
My friend says that her mom begged them to let her stay and said that she'd turn around and go to church and be a better person. I don't know why SS didn't get involved after the case, but they didn't and they don't check up on them anymore.
The entire "change" episode lasted only a bit. She stopped going to AA meetings as soon as SS stopped getting involved. My friend says that she's been verbally and physically abused by her since then while she's drunk.
She's been dragged by her hair. She's been hit. Her mom hit her once when she stepped in front of her brother to keep her from hitting him.
She tells my friend to go to hell, that she'll never amount to anything or get into the military, and that the past sixteen years have been a waste of time.
Her father is an enabler. He always tells her not to pay her mom any mind "because she's drunk and she doesn't mean it". Nobody's doing anything about the situation, but everyone wants her to leave. Her dad only took her back because she doesn't have anywhere else to go. Her boyfriend is concerned about it. Her grandparents live next door (with her sister who moved in with them to get out of the house) and want her to leave. I want her to leave. Her siblings want her to leave.
I told her that she should talk to someone from the school. She said that she wasn't sure that she wanted to because her dad had gotten upset with her before when she told someone about what was going on. I offered to talk to them in her place, but she said no and that if it got worse she'd talk to them. I can't make her do anything, but I don't want her to wait until it gets worse. I'm seriously worried about her safety and I'm not sure what might happen to her when "worse" comes.
She didn't tell me anything about this until tonight. I asked her why and she told me that she knew that I'd been going through things myself and she didn't want me to worry about it. I appreciate that, but I wish she'd told me earlier because I want to do something about it.
Can someone help me?
Here's the story:
In May, her mom went to pick them up from school. Her sister was the only one outside at the time and noticed that she was drunk when she went to pick them up. Her mom got mad when she refused to get into the car and she drove off. Her sister got a ride home from a friend and called her and her brother, who were still inside, and told them she was calling their dad to pick them up and not to get into the car with their mom if she came back because she was drunk off her ass.
When her sister got home, her mother was there and still mad at her because the other two wouldn't get in the car when she came back. She then proceeded to assault her.
She went to jail and there was a court case. Her dad said that he was divorcing her after the case, but guess who's back?
My friend says that her mom begged them to let her stay and said that she'd turn around and go to church and be a better person. I don't know why SS didn't get involved after the case, but they didn't and they don't check up on them anymore.
The entire "change" episode lasted only a bit. She stopped going to AA meetings as soon as SS stopped getting involved. My friend says that she's been verbally and physically abused by her since then while she's drunk.
She's been dragged by her hair. She's been hit. Her mom hit her once when she stepped in front of her brother to keep her from hitting him.
She tells my friend to go to hell, that she'll never amount to anything or get into the military, and that the past sixteen years have been a waste of time.
Her father is an enabler. He always tells her not to pay her mom any mind "because she's drunk and she doesn't mean it". Nobody's doing anything about the situation, but everyone wants her to leave. Her dad only took her back because she doesn't have anywhere else to go. Her boyfriend is concerned about it. Her grandparents live next door (with her sister who moved in with them to get out of the house) and want her to leave. I want her to leave. Her siblings want her to leave.
I told her that she should talk to someone from the school. She said that she wasn't sure that she wanted to because her dad had gotten upset with her before when she told someone about what was going on. I offered to talk to them in her place, but she said no and that if it got worse she'd talk to them. I can't make her do anything, but I don't want her to wait until it gets worse. I'm seriously worried about her safety and I'm not sure what might happen to her when "worse" comes.
She didn't tell me anything about this until tonight. I asked her why and she told me that she knew that I'd been going through things myself and she didn't want me to worry about it. I appreciate that, but I wish she'd told me earlier because I want to do something about it.
Can someone help me?
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