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ok i'm not really sure how to say all of this... well first off my grandfather died in January and my gf broke up with me last year around thanksgiving. it seemed like my 'friends' dont care about my problems anymore. I've talked to counselor at my school and she said i needed to talk to a professional but i never told my parents. I used to think about hurting myself to the point where i'm with my grandfather but i decided i really really dont want to. i think i've had depresssion for a number of years cuz WebMD said so and so did the counselor. I feel like no1 cares for me. I mean my family loves me and all but it seems like no1 at school does. it seemed like the counselor just wanted to pawn me off to the pros too... i tried to tell my ex that i've had suicide but thoughts but ever since that shes avoided me even more. we used to be best friends since like 2nd grade and i just love her parents to death but shes changed... shes just a big flirt and has evry other guy talking about her. then when i try to tell sum other friends theyre like wow you need help and im like NO CRAP IM COMING TO YOU FOR THAT!!! but then they blow me off. and then tonite i asked sum of my 'friends' if they wanted to come over for some burgers and to chill then they got all indignant on me and saying how they cant cuz they dont have a ride and then i go home and start texting a friend and it turns out THEY WENT TO SUM1S HOUSE!!!!! i don't get it! it's like they don't want me. and it's not like i can find new friends cuz i go to a tiny 3a school... so theres like no1. I just want away from it all. help! i need somebody! help!

SIgned,
A messed up, confused, hurt 15 year old

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Thanks so much for writing in and sharing how your feeling. It’s not always easy to talk about these kinds of issues and we commend you for being able to open up about them. It sounds like you’re very aware of the feelings you’re having, but also extremely frustrated because when you open up to people it seems they don’t respond and help in the way you need them to. You mentioned thinking that you have had depression for a number of years now, but it also sounds like you have had some added stress with the loss of your grandfather and the break-up of you and your girlfriend. We’re sorry to hear about both of these losses and imagine it has been hard dealing with them. Were you and your grandfather really close? How have you been dealing with that loss and has your family helped you get through it at all?

Dealing with depression is never an easy thing but there are people out there to help. It’s understandable that you are frustrated with your friends, feeling like they are not there for you. Sometimes it’s hard for people to understand and know exactly what to say when you bring up depression or suicide. It’s not always the easiest thing to talk about, and while your friends and your ex-girlfriend probably care about you very much, they may not know exactly how to help when it comes to those things. You said that you were able to speak with a school counselor and it’s great that you were comfortable going to her to talk. You also mentioned that she had suggested talking with a professional counselor or therapist. Do you think that would be helpful? Perhaps being able to talk with someone who knows a lot about depression and dealing with that would help. You said that you were feeling like she was “pawning you off”, but she may also just want you to have the best services that are available. Have you ever talked with her about other counselors that you could see? Do you know if she has any other resources that she knows of or would she help you look for an appropriate counselor? Would you feel comfortable talking with your parents about how you have been feeling and that you would want to go see a counselor? It sounds like your family cares about you a lot and would probably want what is best for you.

This is not an easy situation to deal with, but it also takes a lot of courage to open up and we are glad that you did. Just so you know we are here for you if you ever need us. If you ever want to talk more about the situation and need someone to listen, you can always give us a call at
1-800-RUNAWAY. We are a completely confidential hotline and there is someone here 24 hours a day. If you just need to vent, want to talk about options, or even want help looking up specific counseling centers in your area we can do that. Just remember you can give us a call or write back anytime. Best of luck with everything and take care.

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I understand that it's a hard thing to talk about, but wouldn't they at least freak out and tell some1? it seems like they're just like 'oh well sux for you.' it seems like if they really cared that they would tell sum1 or sumthing... i just think that they'd try to help in some way, even if it's not talking directly to me about it...

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Thanks for getting back to us. We’re sorry to hear that you are still feeling disappointed in your friends’ reactions. It is unfortunate that right now they are not able to show you how much they care about you in a way that you can recognize. It sounds like you would be reassured of the strength of your friendships if your friends acted as though they were worried about you by “freaking out” or maybe telling someone. Have you tried talking to them about what your expectations were and how their response made you feel? Do you think it’s possible that they think they are doing you a favor by not telling anyone? Or maybe they are afraid to make it worse by expressing their fears to you? Friends should be there for each other, but sometimes people don’t really know how to act supportive even when they have the best of intentions. Maybe if you talked to them about what you need from them, they would be better able to be the sort of friends you would like. What do you think about that? If you are up for it, you could always call us here at 1-800-RUNAWAY. Someone is always here to listen and be supportive!

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The same things happening 2 me. Im a 15 year old girl who no one gives a crap about. My bf says he don't love me anymore and my best friends are ignoring me...it hurts alot and i to have had ideas about cutting and all that.

I just want the pain to end but I don't know how, so i mask everything behind a smile.

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Thanks for sharing a little bit of your experiences with us and the other poster. Sometimes it helps, even just a little bit, to know that other people are going through the same thing. We’re glad you found out website and were willing to reach out to others. If there’s anything you’d ever like to talk about, know that we’re here to listen. Our hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY, is available 24/7. We’d be more than happy to listen to you, support you and help you come up with possible options. Give us a call anytime, day or night.