I'm 16 and female.
(I apologize, but this post will sort of be "all over the board")
First off, let me say my parents are strict. Very strict. They have very tight rules and have very rude opinions on who I hang out with. They think that, unless my friends' family is the "american dream family" (Two parents, their child/children, high income, and a VERY nice home) they were "scumbags who have no right to be around my daughter!"
When I was 14, I told my mom that I was gay. She quickly replied with "No, you're not! It's your friends convincing you they are, aren't they!? You lose your internet privileges, and you're banned from hanging out with friends for a month! I knew they were trouble.." and this surprised me. The reason why is that I had talked to them before about homosexuality, and they said that anyone had the right to love who they wanted too. I even asked them, if the conversation lead to this, "what would you do if I was homosexual?" and they replied "As long as the other person treats you with respect."
To be honest, I am actually pansexual (can be romantically/sexually attracted to people regardless of their gender) but I was only going to tell my parents this if they took me claiming as gay alright. which as you can see, they didn't.
The girlfriend I had at the time I told them about my homosexuality (ex-girlfriend now) did respect me. We shared some interests together (music, art, movies) and didn't sneak around either. The most that we ever did was say "I love you" and hug. Of course, after everything, we both decided to move on. After a while of thought we decided splitting up was right, since we didn't see a future with the other. The only regret we had is that we wish we could have done it on our own terms and not forced by my mother.
From that day on I didn't trust my parents with talking about relationships. When the situation wasn't real and it was a simple "what if" conversation, they seemed very calm and gave answers that sounded like something a good parent would say (for example, they would tell me "As long as you love them and they love you and respect you, we will be fine.") but when the "what ifs" became reality they would yell at me and then ban all contact.
This became especially true when I met someone who I see a future with, love dearly, and want to spend my life with. This person respects me, loves me, and makes me feel secure and happy. We are the same age.
He's very kind, gentle, smart, and handsome. He respects me being pansexual. He is the only person that I can tell my secrets and feelings to.
I didn't tell my parents I was dating him..
One day everything changed.
He and I were making out (No, not having sex. It was just holding close and kissing each other with all of our clothes still on) and my mom caught us. He wasn't able to get a ride home so she drove him back, and right after he left and my mom pulled away she said "You no longer have your phone, you no longer have your computer, and you cannot talk to your friends anymore. I was right, they're all sh*t influences on you, those fu**ing scumbags." and my heart sank.
I had been in about 3 relationships before this (2 were under the supervision of my mother, the other one being my ex-girlfriend) and never before had I felt so "connected" with another person. I loved this man, I love him to this day.
I ended up having contact with him, but it was secretly (we later got caught though...)
While we were talking, we talked about us turning 18. We said that my parents wouldn't have control over me anymore and I could see him again. After a while of thought, I said "Once I'm 18, I want to leave this house. I want to live with you."
He asked his parents, and sure enough they said yes (They didn't agree with my parents strict rules either, and felt bad for both he and I. I count them as my other family, since they always respected me and said they support my boyfriend and I)
I'm 16 right now, and things are getting hard. I'm spending nights crying sometimes and just want time to move quickly. I want to get out of here.
I want to know if there's something I can do to get my parents to let me see, or at least TALK, to my boyfriend again. I just want things to be normal. I want to be with him....
Is there anything I can do to help the situation....?
(I apologize, but this post will sort of be "all over the board")
First off, let me say my parents are strict. Very strict. They have very tight rules and have very rude opinions on who I hang out with. They think that, unless my friends' family is the "american dream family" (Two parents, their child/children, high income, and a VERY nice home) they were "scumbags who have no right to be around my daughter!"
When I was 14, I told my mom that I was gay. She quickly replied with "No, you're not! It's your friends convincing you they are, aren't they!? You lose your internet privileges, and you're banned from hanging out with friends for a month! I knew they were trouble.." and this surprised me. The reason why is that I had talked to them before about homosexuality, and they said that anyone had the right to love who they wanted too. I even asked them, if the conversation lead to this, "what would you do if I was homosexual?" and they replied "As long as the other person treats you with respect."
To be honest, I am actually pansexual (can be romantically/sexually attracted to people regardless of their gender) but I was only going to tell my parents this if they took me claiming as gay alright. which as you can see, they didn't.
The girlfriend I had at the time I told them about my homosexuality (ex-girlfriend now) did respect me. We shared some interests together (music, art, movies) and didn't sneak around either. The most that we ever did was say "I love you" and hug. Of course, after everything, we both decided to move on. After a while of thought we decided splitting up was right, since we didn't see a future with the other. The only regret we had is that we wish we could have done it on our own terms and not forced by my mother.
From that day on I didn't trust my parents with talking about relationships. When the situation wasn't real and it was a simple "what if" conversation, they seemed very calm and gave answers that sounded like something a good parent would say (for example, they would tell me "As long as you love them and they love you and respect you, we will be fine.") but when the "what ifs" became reality they would yell at me and then ban all contact.
This became especially true when I met someone who I see a future with, love dearly, and want to spend my life with. This person respects me, loves me, and makes me feel secure and happy. We are the same age.
He's very kind, gentle, smart, and handsome. He respects me being pansexual. He is the only person that I can tell my secrets and feelings to.
I didn't tell my parents I was dating him..
One day everything changed.
He and I were making out (No, not having sex. It was just holding close and kissing each other with all of our clothes still on) and my mom caught us. He wasn't able to get a ride home so she drove him back, and right after he left and my mom pulled away she said "You no longer have your phone, you no longer have your computer, and you cannot talk to your friends anymore. I was right, they're all sh*t influences on you, those fu**ing scumbags." and my heart sank.
I had been in about 3 relationships before this (2 were under the supervision of my mother, the other one being my ex-girlfriend) and never before had I felt so "connected" with another person. I loved this man, I love him to this day.
I ended up having contact with him, but it was secretly (we later got caught though...)
While we were talking, we talked about us turning 18. We said that my parents wouldn't have control over me anymore and I could see him again. After a while of thought, I said "Once I'm 18, I want to leave this house. I want to live with you."
He asked his parents, and sure enough they said yes (They didn't agree with my parents strict rules either, and felt bad for both he and I. I count them as my other family, since they always respected me and said they support my boyfriend and I)
I'm 16 right now, and things are getting hard. I'm spending nights crying sometimes and just want time to move quickly. I want to get out of here.
I want to know if there's something I can do to get my parents to let me see, or at least TALK, to my boyfriend again. I just want things to be normal. I want to be with him....
Is there anything I can do to help the situation....?
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