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    Me and my wife have already made a commitment to each other to marry each other, we're in a long distance relationship. She lives in New York I live in Iowa. We're 14 but I want and need her forever. My parents always try splitting us apart. Her family loves me and doesn't take her phone away since they know it's our only source of communication. We've been together for 9 months. My parents take my phone for long periods of time and I get scared I'll lose her. Relationships rely on communication and if they keep doing this I only have two choices. Runaway or suicide. We want to runaway and get officially married even if we're adolescents. I've saved up two years worth of money from my job. We need help to last and we trust this site. Please help. How can I get to her? We both want to runaway together. Any chance if we get caught we won't get split? Just please help.

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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you may want to know some information on runaway laws.

    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

    If you do decide to leave, you may want to think about some things like where you will go, how you plan to take care of your hygiene, your safety, and what you may do if the police escort you home. We're not legal experts here so it's hard to say what could happen if you were to get caught. Since your families live in different places, it could be likely that you are sent home. One thing you can consider is that we have a conference call option where we facilitate a phone conversation between a youth and a parent. Maybe we or someone you trust can mediate a conversation with your parents about the importance of this relationship and they can supervise visits or something along those lines.

    You also mentioned that you have been considering suicide if things don’t work out for you and your significant other. We’re sorry to hear that. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be interested to talk to the Suicide Prevention Lifeline, a hotline similar to ours but focused on suicide. Their number is 1-800-273-8255.

    Be safe,

    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

    National Runaway Safeline
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