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    i wanna live with my boyfriend but my parents mith call the law can i stay with him or would i have to go back to my parents

  • #2
    re: im 14 and wanna live with my boyfriend

    Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you want to leave home to live with your boyfriend but are concerned about what might happen. You seem to be trying to plan ahead and considering your options before you go which seems very thoughtful of you. While we aren’t legal experts, we can answer your question in a general way. In most places, your legal guardian has rights and responsibilities of you until you turn the age of majority (in many places 1. If you were to leave without parental permission and they were to file a runaway report, you would be committing what is called a status offense and be returned to your parents if you were picked up by the police.

    One option you have to verify laws in your area would be to contact your local police department through the non-emergency line. Additionally, you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY 24 hours a day and we can talk more about your situation confidentially and anonymously and connect you to additional resources. Otherwise, we are available via live chat from 4:30-11:30pm CST to assist you at 1800runaway.org. We hope that you will consider calling us to further discuss your situation.
    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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    • #3
      I wanna go live with my boyfriend at 14 and he's 16...should I do it?

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      • ccsmod0
        ccsmod0 commented
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        Hello,
        Thank you for taking the time to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are not sure if you want to go to your boyfriend’s house or not. We are not going to tell you that you should or should not runaway. We are here to try to provide you with support and resources so that if you do decide to leave home, you are doing it intelligently and safely. Therefore, if running away is something that you really want to do then you are more than welcome to give us a call and we can talk about all of your options and help you come up with a safety plan.
        If you would like to give us, a call and we can further discuss your options you are more than welcome to give us a call anytime. 1-800-786-2929 we want you to know that you are not alone. There are people that care and want to help you.
        Best wishes,
        NRS

    • #4
      I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 16 he'd getting his own place in 2 months and we both want me to live with him but will I be allowed to? Or am I underage to technically move out?

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      • ccsmod7
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        Thank you for contacting us here at National Runaway Safeline.

        The answer on whether you are old enough to live on your own or not depends on what state you live in. Every state has a different age of consent and age of minority. The age of consent means a person cannot legally agree to have any type of sexual act with a person who is legally the age of an adult (age of minority). Age of minority means when someone is no longer considered a minor and therefore you are a legal adult. A good website to look at to see what the legal age of consent or age of minority is Sex in the States.org (https://sexetc.org/action-center/sex-in-the-states/). If according to the laws in your state, if you are not the legal age of an adult then you cannot live with your boyfriend. If you chose to run away or leave your home without guardian permission, then go live with your boyfriend. Your guardian may possibly report you missing or if you come in contact with any police, then by law the police have to return you to your guardian’s house. You will not be charged with a crime or breaking any law for running away. But it is against the law for a person to assist, take care of, or house a runaway; your boyfriend could possibly get charged with the crime of harboring a runaway.

        If you have any questions or want to discuss this further, you can contact us here at National Runaway Safeline 24/7/ 365 at 1-800-786-2929.

        Best,

        NRS

    • #5
      If I legally leave my parents due to abuse, would it be able to live with my boyfriend and his family? We are both 14.

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      • ccsmod0
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        Hi there,
        Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
        While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway which is something you should speak with your boyfriend's parents about. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
        The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern which it sounds like is the case. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
        We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
        Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
        If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
        Be safe,
        NRS

    • #6
      My bf wants me to runaway with him I’m 14 he’s 16 and idk if I should go because if I do go with him my parents would probably get mad at me and take my phone which is the only way I can talk to him but if I don’t I feel like he will hate me

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      • ccsmod15
        ccsmod15 commented
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        Hi there,
        Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
        Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
        If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
        We hope to hear from you soon.
        Be safe,
        NRS

    • #7
      my parents both physically hurt me
      my bofriends (14) and i (14) would like to move in with eachother and his family wants me to stay with them to be safe
      what can i do? is this okay?l or not i dont know what to do....

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      • ccsmod6
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        Thanks so much for reaching out; we know that it can take a great deal of bravery to ask for help. It sounds like things have been incredibly difficult and scary at home.
        While we aren’t legal experts, 18 is generally the age when one is legally allowed to leave home. However, these laws sometimes vary from state to state, and there may be programs in your area that can help you. If you want to give us a call or chat with us, we can talk about your situation in more detail. In particular, knowing your location would help us to speak more specifically about state laws as well as to find local resources for you.
        Generally speaking, if you leave home before you are legally an adult, your parents would be able to file a runaway report. This would mean that you would be returned home by the police if found. Running away is not a crime, but any adult that you stay with could risk being charged for harboring a runaway. This could include your boyfriend’s family.
        You mentioned that your parents abuse you. We’re so sorry to hear this. You deserve to feel safe in your home. If you feel as though there is any abuse going on at home, whether it’s emotional or physical, you are entitled to report it. This is one way that you might be able to legally leave home before turning 18. We can’t be sure what the outcome will be if Child Protective Services (CPS) decides to open a case based on what you share. The only way to know the outcome might be to reach out to them directly and if you’re ready to do that we are here to help you through that process. Reaching out to Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 or www.childhelp.org may help you to get a better understanding of what may happen before and after a report is made.
        If you’re in immediate need of a safe place to go and talk to someone, you might look into National Safe Place (www.nationalsafeplace.org). This organization provides access to immediate help and supportive resources for youth in need. You can look up your city and state to see where the closest Safe Place site is. You can also text the word “safe” to 4HELP (44357) to receive a message with the closest Safe Place site as well as the phone number to a local youth agency. If you reply to that message with “2chat” you’ll then be connected to a trained counselor to text with.
        In the end, we cannot tell you what to do. You know your situation best. However, if you’d like to talk through your options in greater detail, feel free to reach out. We can best assist you over phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat at www.1800runaway.org. We’re here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You do not have to be alone in this.

        All the best,

        NRS

    • #8
      Thank you for helping me with this situation
      new york(state i live in) say i cannot without parental permission
      at this point its hard knowing what to do

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      • ccsmod16
        ccsmod16 commented
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        Hi,
        We are glad we could help. We invite you again to chat us through this website, or call our hotline, 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY).
        We work best when we can have a conversation with you so you can have the support and information to help you with your decision.
        Sincerely,
        NRS
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