I have to run away with my boyfriend

[Guest]

well to start im 17 yrs old i live in the state of California and i am thinking about runing away on a Saturday with my 18yr old bf , he is able to provide me all the essentials to live and has a jib and willing to get me a job and into a school but my thing is will he get in trouble will they try to bring me back or find me and can i bring my birth certificate and social security im just wondering because i feel like im the one who doing the parenting around the house and im constantly getting disresected and hit when i try to prove a point im just tired of not being able to grow independent and have a life they practically use me as a slave to do their work

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Hello,

Thanks for contacting us. It's understandable that you feel frustrated with how much responsibility that you have at home. That sounds like it would be really overwhelming! You mentioned that you are planning to run away with your boyfriend. We aren't legal experts, but there is a possibility that he could get into trouble for letting you stay with him. Youth are usually able to make their own decisions about where they live once they turn 18. If your boyfriend provides everything for you, then you would be in a stressful situation in case something happens. If you and him break up for whatever reason, you would have less for yourself and it could be hard to live on your own. As a minor, your mom could file a runaway report for you. If you would like to know more about the laws on runaway youth, you could call non emergency police or a legal aid agency in your area.

Best,
NRS

[Guest]

Hey I'm 19 and my bf is 20 were madly in love and he's perfect but one thing he isn't the same religion as I am and that's a problem with my family , if I marry in the future I will be kicked out of my Religion and my not see my parents again . Idk WAt to do he's perfect I can't live without him and my parents are trying to hook me up with my cousin and I hate him and I just can't leave my bf and be with my cousin , I've decided to runaway on my wedding day . I'm talking about the future like when I'm 23-24 . Idk Wat to I can't think , eat or sleep and do can't my bf . I need help

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Thanks so much for taking the time to reach out to us today. It sounds like you are in a really stressful situation right now and are looking to get out of it. Your parents not being accepting of your boyfriend must make you feel pretty misunderstood and isolated. Also when it comes to your mom wanting you to marry your cousin - we cannot imagine how much pressure you must be under right now. You deserve to be happy and you should not be forced to marry someone that you do not love.

If you're living in the states we want you to know that you are allowed to leave your house at the age of 18. When you turn 18 you are legally an adult, and can leave home without your parents permission and without any legal repercussions or police involvement. Since you are 19 that applies to you, too. It can be scary leaving home without your parents permission and moving out when you know they would not approve, especially if you feel as if you'll be disowned for it. Leaving home is a really tough decision to make, but we support whatever decision you end up making and want the best for you.

If you want more information or want to talk more about what you are going through please feel free to reach out to us again. We wish you the best of luck with everything!

[Guest]

My boyfriend and I are going through family problems. His mom is really bipolar and scared to go home. I’m getting abused at home physically and mentally. I am way to scared to go home. We want to run away together. I want to and he does to, but we don’t want to get caught. If we do are life would be in danger. Idk what to do?

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Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out to us. It definitely sounds like you and your boyfriend are each in a rough spot. We want to let you know that you don't deserve to be abused physically or mentally by your father. We're sorry this has been happening and we want to let you know this is not your fault. We also want to let you know you can report child abuse to child protective services through us. We're not sure what you mean when you say your life would be in danger if you ran away. There are definitely valid safety concerns to consider if you decide to run away, but if you are concerned that your parents would cause you danger as a runaway, then please call the police for emergency assistance.

Best,
NRS

[Guest]

what should I do?!?!

I've been dating my bf for a pretty long time and I really like him. I'm never allowed to see him after we switched schools, the same elementary school where we met and started dating at gr 5.
My parents don't let me have a boyfriend yet and I'm under 16, he's just a few months older than me. I've always wanted to see him since the day we graduated from gr 5. I'm thinking to leave my house and go away with him for a few days to catch up on things, since just a day wouldn't be enough

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Hello There,
Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we know reaching out takes strength and we are glad you had the bravery to reach out to us. It is understandable that you are missing your boyfriend and seems pretty tough you can’t see him. If you were to leave your house to go see him without your parents’ permission, that would be considered running away. If you ran away your legal guardian does have the right to file a runaway report. Running away is not a criminal offense it is a status offense. What that means is that you would not be arrested for running away, but if the police found you they would most likely bring you back home. If you were to leave and go away with him have you thought where would you go? How would you get there, and what about food or water. Those are all things to think about before leaving home. You could also consider talking on the phone with him to catch up on things we know it may not be the same as face to face contact but it would still be a way to catch up. We hope this information has helped you in your situation. We are available 24/7 so if you would like to talk or have any more questions feel free to give us a call or chat with us. We wish you the best of luck in your situation, stay strong!
NRS

[Guest]

I also need help.I am in love with my father's sister son.I am in too much love and we want to stay together.Our family will never ever accept aur relationship.I am 22 yrs old and my bf is 25 yrs old.I need a help regarding how to run away and any legal consequences as my father can contact police?

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Hi there, thanks for reaching out today. Sounds like you are in a really rough situation being in love with your cousin. That cannot be easy.

Here at NRS, we are not legal experts and we can only speak generally. From our understanding, having a relationship with your family member is considered incest and there are laws against it. So it is possible that you all could get into legal trouble if police are contacted. To learn more about your rights, we can always look for local legal aid resources for you if you call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You might also reach out to RAINN as they are the national hotline for sexual violence and incest: 1-800-656-4673 or www.rainn.org.

Best of luck,

NRS

[Guest]

I have a boyfriend an I am 15 and i want to run away with my boyfrieand but i dont think it is a smart idea i want to know what do yall think

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Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time right now.
Running away is a big decision that only you can make, as you know your situation the best. We are not legal experts but we do have some information on the laws. Because you are a minor if you were to leave home without permission your legal guardian could file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home. If you are having a difficult time at home you could consider speaking to a school counselor about what you are going through. They may be able to help you explore options and provide you with resources.
Again we thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. If you have any more questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support to you. Best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

my dad gives me no freedom and doesn't want me having a boyfriend he called and said hes sending me away I'm gonna run away to my boyfriends house I don't wanna live with my dad anymore

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Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like there is an issue with your father about dating and because of it you are thinking about running away. We understand that sometimes things can become frustrating and you just want them to change. Running away will most likely bring more attention to the situation but at the same time it might escalate things to an even more negative level? Sometimes by talking things out you might come up with another option to try and find a common resolution. NRS is here to listen and here to help.
We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

You did a great job by reaching out today and we look forward to speaking with you more about your situation.


Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

My staff are trying to break up me and my boyfriend I need to run away from my staff

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Hello,
There is not a lot of information to work on from your post. We can help better if we have more information. We are here to chat at 1800runaway.org or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We can help provide you with referrals or discuss your plan to run away with your boyfriend.
NRS