I have to run away with my boyfriend

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re: Im 19 and i want to runaway with my boyfriend to get married

Hey there,

Thank you for being able to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline, it sounds like you are going through a pretty tough time at this point in your life and we want you to know that we are here to listen and to help you in the best way that we can. From what you shared, it sounds like you are ready to move on and start your life with your boyfriend.

So we want to let you know that we are not legal experts here, meaning that we are only able to speak in general terms. In most states, because you are 19, you are no longer considered a minor, which means that you are no longer considered a runaway. Because of your age, you no longer need parental consent in order to leave home and are able to decide where you want to live. If this is something that you would want to know more about, always remember that you are able to contact your local police department about this type of situation. If that is something that you are nervous about doing, please remember that if you were to give us a call, we would be able to call out to your local police department and ask these general questions for you.

We hope that we were able to address your concerns and are able to give you a more general information about you deciding to leave home. We are here 24/7 and would love to talk to you further about your situation, our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We wish you the best of luck and hope to hear from you soon.

Stay strong,

NRS

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im unhappy and my love for my bf is prohibit

Hello i am 18 years old. Iv been with me bf for 9 months and i love my bf alot and he does too. He use to always be with me and everyday. I know our love is real. Im just use to him always being with me. So once i took a prego test and it came out postive nd i told my bf , and he was happy bout it! So it came to my parents and i tols them...but i thought my parents would support me ..it came to be , they were against us..they hated my bf so much ..i know hes 1 year younger then me and still in high school.. Im out of school already.they were just puttinv the blame on him ..wanting him to drop out ..and me and my bf want to do this together but my parent's only want him to work...my dad didnt want to see him no more...next day we went to the doctor..came to be it was a false alram..i told my parents my mom was relax..but my dad still didnt like my bf
He will tell me he cant come no more and i cnt see him...i cry so much...i cant see him...so i gotta see him behind my dads back..but when my bf at the house my dad jist gives him the look like he dont want him there ...so we go out to the park and he gets mad like he tells me i cant go out and be with him..
Like i cant be happy...i just want to leave and move out with him..but my parents wont let me
Idk what to do..me and my dad are not close..i hate him

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RE: im unhappy and my love for my bf is prohibit

Hello there,

Thank you for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We appreciate you sharing some of your story. From what you shared, it seems you and your boyfriend have been through some challenging moments; and it sounds like your relationship is important to you and is a big part of your happiness, but your parents seem to not be approving of it. We imagine this is difficult for you to go through. You mentioned wanting to leave home but are unsure of what to do because your parents won’t let you. It sounds like you may be feeling stuck and may need some help exploring your options. It is often helpful to seek support and gain insight into your situation by talking things out. This can be with another family member, friend, counselor, or someone you feel you can trust to help you in your situation. We are here to listen and to help however we are best able to. If you would like to explore some options that may help or would like to talk more about what you are going through, please call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat with us through our website at www.1800runaway.org.

We look forward to your call or chat and wish you well.

Be safe and take care,

NRS

[mls15]

I want to move off with my boyfriend

I am 19 years old. My boyfriend is in the Marine Corps. He is home visiting me right now, but leaves in 4 days going back to California. He wants me to go back with him. We've talked about this before, but always been kidding about it. Of course we'd have to get married, that way I could live on base with him, and my college could get paid for. I really want to do it, but I am the type of person that never does anything spontaneous like that. I come from a very close family, and I know if I even talked about doing this to my parents or siblings, they would think I'm kidding, or that it's just a crazy idea I had. I keep telling myself I can't do this, it's crazy, and I'm in college I can't do something wild like that I need to get an education...but then again I really want to do it. My college would get paid for through the Marines, once we're married anyway. I'm just very confused on what to do.

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Re: I want to move off with my boyfriend

Hi there,

Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It takes a lot of courage to reach out and share what is going on.

It sounds like you are not sure whether there are people you can turn to to talk through this decision of whether or not to get married. Here at NRS, we don’t tell people what to do. We trust that you know your situation the best. That being said, we are definitely here to listen and here to help in whatever way we can. One service we have is conference calling, if you and your family were all on board to use. We can be the mediator to make sure there is an equal playing field, all parties feel heard (and in this case, that they know you are serious and not joking). You would have to initiate this by calling in to our hotline.

Please consider calling in to talk to us or utilizing our live chat service to explore some more options specific to your situation and to learn more about our conference call service. It sounds like you’ve thought a lot about this and are weighing the pros and cons.

We look forward to your call or chat.

Best,
NRS

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I want to run away with my boyfriend

I want to run away with my boyfriend because we love each other so much and our parents won't let us see each other, I'm 14 and he's 14 also and he said he was gonna break up with me if he couldn't see me so I've decided I want to run away with him so we can stay together because j love him so much please someone help me give me advice please

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I want to run away with my boyfriend

Hello.
Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

It sounds like you are thinking about running away with your boyfriend because your parents don’t want you to see him anymore. He then tells you that he will break up with you so you decided that you should run away with him so you can be together.
We understand that you might be frustrated about your parent’s demands and his threatening to break up with you over it. It sounds like you are being placed in a pretty tough predicament of making a choice. We hope expressing you feelings to NRS helped you to at least vent.

We would like to hear more about your situation and learn more about what has caused this situation to occur. You might consider giving us a call at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or live chat with NRS at www.1800-Runaway.org
Maybe we can explore some options on coming up with a plan to help you cope with everything that has been going on.
How does that sound?

It must have taken some courage to reach out tonight.
Good job!

Take care,
NRS

[Myrunaway]

I want to run away.

Please somebody help me. This is the story. I met a wonderful guy. We fell in love as soon as we met. He was quiet and I liked that about him. And he was very relaxed. On the second date we watched cinderella and it was amazing. We became serious and we would hang out every single day. Sometimes he'd work but he'd also quit because he already had money that he inherited. We went to disney after 4 months and he proposed to me and it was so romantic. But then something horrible happened. My dad started being aggressive. He talked to me about not going to college (I went for one year and moved here w my family and when I did want to go they said no because it was expensive and now they can afford it) so he started making threats and he was so aggressive (never physical but still) that I moved out for two days with my fiancée. He was there for me and he said we'd both get married and get jobs. So my brother came to knock on the door and trying to kick it down and we wouldn't respond because of how scared we were. So I told him to call the police, and my fiancée did. And the told my brother&his wife you need to go, she is an adult (I'm 20).
After that I decided to move back home, and stay there til we would get married. Anyways, they never invited him to their house again and I barely saw my fiancèe when I had to hang out w my fam. Then sometimes he'd come home but that was it. And he got lost and went to jail for a few hours because he wasn't working and couldn't pay for his food, and I was there to support him, he is bipolar but I decided to be okay w that because I love him. Now my fam found out he was in jail and now they said they won't let me be with him anymore.
And I got into a university and I'm about to start but now it's either I run away or I stay here and lose him.
I know he is the love of my life, and I spent years being alone and depressed and I finally found the one, and I don't want to leave him but my family won't cooperate. My parents & me moved out 20 mins away and I don't have a car and they won't give it to me unless I break up with him and now I have to choose and it's so hard. Either run away with him or stay here depressed and going to the univ while my fam takes couple trips (everybody has their couple). And my fiancée isn't taking this too well either. He doesn't want a job, he doesn't want to talk a lot, and he told my brother to stay away from us and not so nicely. What should I do. I love him and he is the one for me, I know that. But I wish everybody would get along and there is no way that that is happening.

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RE: I want to run away.

Hello there –

Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. Looks like you were able to find and post on our public forum. We hope that helping you through your crisis, there are others that will be able to get help as well by reading through the thread. From reading through your post on our forum, it sounds like you’re certainly going through a lot of issues right now. It seems that a lot of problems at going on at once and it can be very frustrating to have them all happening at once. It must feel very overwhelming to the point where you are thinking about running away with your boyfriend. Now that’s a pretty big step to take in your life.

Because we do get a large number of emails and forum post, we do have to limit email replies to three individual responses to answer any questions that you have or to provide you with a number of means of support. So it’s certainly not a means to communicate to get the full support that you can get if you called in. So the best way to tell us everything would be to just call into our 24 hour hotline and talk to one of our trained liners. We would like to talk to you more in detail about what that exactly means and what is going on.

Since you didn’t disclose your age, it’s hard to know what kind of resources that would be available for you. Like we tell a lot of our callers, the laws on that specific subject of running away vary from state to state, so our advice would be call your local non-emergency police number to get more information on that. You could ask hypothetical questions that they can answer for you. Generally what typically happens in each state is if you are below the legal age of majority (18 in most states except Alabama and Nebraska [19 or upon marriage], and Mississippi [21]), your parents or legal guardian would be able to make a runaway report in the event that you do run away. Since it’s only considered a statues offense and not a crime to run away, the only thing that would happen is that the police will pick you up and bring you back home.

Now you have mentioned that you were to either run away from home with your boyfriend or stay home and got to college. Now we aren’t a hotline that is going to tell you want to do because you know your situation a lot better than we do. We just want you to be safe and make decision that you feel comfortable with. So between the two options what do you see yourself doing that will benefit you? You have stated that your boyfriend is under a lot of stress with everything that is going between you and your family. It’s great that you have him as some support in your life. You have also stated that he doesn’t want to talk or get a job, so what would your overall plan be if you were to run (i.e long term housing, transportation, financial stability [neither of you have jobs], access to food/clothes, school [will you try to go to collage], etc.)? Knowing some facts about the subject can help you formulate a plan of action and you can see for yourself what would be possible and what isn't possible for you to do.
Now have you ever talked to your parents about all these feelings and emotions that you have been feeling lately? We can surely try to help you with that communication with you and your parents. We offer a service that is basically a Conference Call where your parents, yourself, and us would be on the phone talking about what has been going on. This way there can be a mediator in between keeping things calm and productive. That might be something we can all talk about together because he might not even be aware of what is going on or how it is effecting you. How do you feel about that?
If you give us a call on our 24/7 hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) we could help you find resources in your area and could potentially help you brainstorm a possible solution to the issues you are having. We would love to talk to you about what has been going on recently that is making you want to leave home. We also have an online chat service available every day.

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Re: I have to run away with my boyfriend

Thank you for the support. It's really nice to have someone else to talk to besides my best friend. I have been thinking about this for a while and tried to leave twice in the past couple weeks but the first time, my boyfriend had car problems and the second time he had to go on a business. I'm usually pretty good at planning since I over think everything so much, but putting those plans into action is the difficult part. I wouldn't be able to call until after I left (if I did call) because my Dad monitors my phone records, but after I leave, I'm sure that my boyfriend will let me use his phone if I need the extra support. Having him there will definitely help me get through everything and I hope that after this is all over we'll be able to be together and have a normal, strong relationship despite our age difference. Also, I read about the conference call thing with parents. How does that work? Would I actually have to talk to them or would you relay my message to them? Also, do you think that that would be a better option than having my boyfriend talk to my parents? They already don't like him and I know that he needs to talk to them and not seem like a coward to them, but I don't know if it would be a good idea when they're so upset.

hey, i am in the same situation,i am planning on settling with my boyfriend too, but im from india and its a worse case.
can you please tell me, what did you do further and how are

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RE: Re: I have to run away with my boyfriend

Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: http://www.childhelplineinternationa...where-we-work/
We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

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My boyfriend has been telling me he needs to run away and get away from it all. We are both in 8th grade and have alot of stress at school and his ex is now trying to control his life what do I do

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Re: I have to run away with my boyfriend

Hello,

Thank you so much for reaching out to us. It sounds like you’re concerned about your boyfriend’s plans to run away and the difficulties you’re both going through. We understand relationships and school can be really stressful. It might be helpful to involve an adult in these feelings that you have been having. If the two of you are experiencing these type of stress at school, there might be others that are too but have no one to talk to it about. Opening the lines of communication is a great way for everyone to be heard.

Unfortunately we can’t tell you what you or your boyfriend should do, but we can give a little information about what might happen if he decides to leave home. If he runs away without his parent’s permission, his parents may choose to file a runaway report with the police. Depending on the situation and how your local police handle runaway reports, they might return your boyfriend back to his parents. If you or your boyfriend are concerned about how the police will react, you can always call your local police department to learn a little more about how they handle runaway cases in your city. If you give us a call, we’re happy to help you reach out to the police, too.

We know handling your own stress and trying to help others can be tough. If you’d like to talk more about what you’re going through and what your next steps might be, please give us a call at 1-800 RUNAWAY (786-2929). We’re happy to listen and provide any helpful resources for you or your boyfriend.

Best of luck,
NRS

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I luv y b a lot. . . . . this March I ll b of 18 years old . . . . m much frustrated in my home and m planning to run away after being 18 . . . . . and I ll marry him. . . he is of 25 . . . . . should I run away. . . . will be der any problems in police matter and all. . . . . can they take me away. . . . . .plzzz say me. .

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Reply: I luv y B #45

Hello,
Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

It sounds like you are thinking about leaving home once you turn 18 and possibly marry your boyfriend.
Keep in mind that we are not legal experts and only can provide general information in this area.
In most states 18 is the legal age of adult hood giving you the free and independent to make your own decisions. You might consider checking with your local police department to get clarification of the age of adulthood set for your state.

We hope that this information is useful and we wish you good luck.
If you would like to speak more about your situation please contact 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.org (Live Chat).

Take care,
NRS