i feel like running away with my girlfriend

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I love my girlfriend

I love my girlfriend and she loves me but I'm so suicidl right now and I don't know what to do I don't want to break up with her ether....

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Re: I love my girlfriend

Hello and thank you for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline (NRS).
It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time right now. We take suicide very seriously here at NRS. We want you to know that you are not alone, and we are here to listen to you and help lead you to a better place. One good resource for you could be the National Suicide Hotline (1-800-273-TALK). If you would rather go to a website and read forum posts or live chat, you can visit http://www.youmatter.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ or http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.../yourself.aspx. You do not have to face this alone. There are many support resources to help you and many options out there other than suicide.
You posted this in a runaway thread. If you are thinking about running away, please don’t hesitate to call us so that we can think of a safe plan for you and your girlfriend. Additionally, please don’t hesitate to call NRS to talk more about your situation and get the support you need. We hope this helps and we hope to hear from you soon.

[Guest]

Same here. I know this thread is nearly a year old but yeah. Me and my girlfriend have already made a commitment to each other, we already want to marry each other, etc. We're in a long distance relationship, she lives in New York, I live in Iowa.So pretty far. We video chat or call every night, then text while not in a call. We've been together for 9 months, her family loves me and doesn't take her phone away since they know it's our only source of communication, but mine take mine for long periods of time and Iget scared I'll lose her. We're 14 but I want and need her forever. She even has my last name since we decided no one will ever stop us from getting married. She's the best, but my parents always try splitting us apart. If they do that I feel as if I only have two choices. Runaway or suicide. What if we do runaway but get stopped by authorities or something? May she contact here too?

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Thanks for reaching out! It sounds like your relationship with your girlfriend is providing both of you with great support. Long distance relationships can be really hard, but it sounds like you're making it work. Not having your parents support can be really frustrating, if you're interested NRS has a conference call resource. We can call your parents together and try to work out the situation in a positive atmosphere. When youth run away, they are sent back to their parents, you don’t get arrested or anything. However, any adult that takes you in while you’re on the run, can be arrested for harboring a runaway. You mentioned suicide in your thread. We take suicide very seriously here at NRS. We want you to know that you are not alone, and we are here to listen to you and help lead you to a better place. One good resource for you could be the National Suicide Hotline (1-800-273-TALK). If you would rather go to a website and read forum posts or live chat, you can visit http://www.youmatter.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/. You do not have to face this alone. There are many support resources to help you and many options out there other than suicide.
NRS is always here to give you support and to talk through options. Our safeline is open 24/7 (800) RUNAWAY and we also offer chatting services through our website.

[Guest]

Hay me and my girlfriend is wanting to run away can you help us

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Hi,

Thanks so much for taking the time to reach out to us! It sounds like you and your girlfriend are considering running away. That's a pretty big decision to make, and it's great you're reaching out to us for some information before making a set decision.

Running away can be pretty tricky, so it's best to come up with a set plan for yourself before you both decide to leave. This includes things like where you would stay, how you would finish school if that applies to you both, how you would eat and make money, and much more. A set plan is a good idea because it helps insure you and your girlfriend can survive on your own.

If you would like any more resources or want to talk more about what you and your girlfriend are going through please feel free to reach out to us again! We are available 24/7, you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY and one of our liners will always be here to listen and help in the best way we can.

[Guest]

Im in a similar situation me and my girlfriend are 13 and love eachother a lot my parents are ok but hers are really bad we have talked about running away together but we might wait until where 15 so we can take care of ourselves better any advice is appreciated thanks

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Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). It sounds like you and your girlfriend really care about each other. You mentioned that you both have thought about running away together. Having a plan about where you would go and how you would take care of yourselves is important. If you decide to leave home your family has the right to file a runaway report. With a runaway report, if the police find you they would return you home. Running away is not illegal, however if you decide to stay with a friend they could get charged with harboring a runaway. Feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat, if you would like to discuss more about why you two are thinking about running away.

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[Guest]

Hie
im 16 nd my girlfriend is 14. No one is ready to support us. Its been 1 year we are dating nd our family say that it is attraction. Its such a bull****word.
we have decided to run away but facing problems for our family. The school authority tries to make some kinda rubbish things so that our parents separate us
we both want to live with each other away from everyone. No one understands us no one we are from india. we also planned to run away but we are scared of getting caught. Please help us . Her parents aren't accepting me nd tries way to separate us
We want to get away from here nd live far from our family. We both are getting emotionally blackmailed by our parents.
Pleasee tell me what to do

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Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.
We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

[Guest]

I want to run away but how do I do it exactly I need food water and a place to stay what do I do help please

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Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

[Guest]

Man, I’m 18. My girlfriend is 17. She has a terrible life at home and she’s adopted. I’m tired of my parents. It’s a long story. But we want to run away to Hawaii for a few months. Not telling anybody. I have this all planned out with lots of money saved up. We are taking many risks but it’s a once in a lifetime experience. My girlfriend has 3 other older siblings and they all ran away before. Her parents never cared. Although, what if they care? Will I be charged with a crime because I’m 18 and I’m running away with a girl who just turned 17? Also, she doesn’t plan on seeing her parents anymore. So if the police were to come she would tell them everything her parents have done with backup from her siblings and social workers. But what about me? Will I be in trouble for keeping a minor by my side when I’m not a parent or guardian? Is it called “harboring a runaway?” I live in Ohio. So I don’t know what that law does. I just don’t want this affecting me negatively in the future. I’m also considering this because I hate my household and I know it’s not illegal to runaway if you’re 17. Although what are these consequences if things go wrong?

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Thank you for telling us your story and reaching out. We’re not legal experts here at NRS. Generally it’s not illegal to leave home, but your girlfriend’s parents could file a runaway report, the police could get involved, and they could bring her home. You could potentially get in trouble for harboring a runaway if her parents file a report. Some police departments don’t accept runaway reports for 17 year olds, but the policies may vary by each department. You could consider calling your local nonemergency police department to ask about their policies. We also have legal aid resources here if you have specific questions about the laws in your state. If you haven’t already, you could consider reporting any abuse that she or you has experienced. If you want more information about abuse reporting or if you want to file a report, you could call Child Help at 1-800-422-4453.

One service we can offer is to conference call with parents. This way you could have a conversation with parents but you would not be alone. For example, it may be easier for your girlfriend to ask for permission to go on your trip to Hawaii. Sometimes those conversations go better in a conference call because we can advocate for her. If you want to reach us, you can chat with us anytime at 1800runaway.org or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We’re here 24/7, and we are ready to listen and help however we can.

Best of Luck,

-NRS

[Guest]

hello
so i meet this girl online so were dateing but my parents don't know and ive never seen her at all only in online so ya ive never seen her real face and i want run away with her when she truns 13 i'm 13 right now shes 11 right now but she live in minnsota and i live in Texas nut i dont know what to do we want to have are own family but i dont know what to do can you give me some advice?

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Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. With online dating, one thing to keep in mind is that without confirming the person you’re talking to or chatting with is who they say they are, they may not be. There are people out there who are not to be trusted, such a traffickers, who lure youth into bad situations.. It’s important to verify the person you’re talking to is who they say they are. Facetiming can help with that, if you haven’t already tried that.

Secondly, running away from home at a young age is very challenging and difficult. When youth want to run away, we often tell them to have a plan so that they can manage these my themselves. A plan would include the following: a safe place to go, money to get around, Identification cards (such as a drivers license), clothes and other things, and a phone and computer, if you have one.

As for advice, If you’re not comfortable talking to your parents, it would be helpful to talk to another adult you trust about this situation. You cannot trust people online who you do not know. And if this girl is someone you want to continue seeing online, both of you can wait longer and spend more time getting to know and support each other and potentially meet when you’re older and its safe – with your parents permission.

If you'd like to talk with us about this situation we are confidential and open 24/7. You can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat with us via the chat feature on our website: www.1800runaway.org. We hope to hear from you soon!

Stay safe,
NRS

[Guest]

Me and my gf have been in a situation for about 5 months and we have tried satisfying her parents. One time we broke up just due to the stress and we tried dating other people. But we couldn’t handle being separated from each other. Her parents have packed her ********. Me and her are 14 and 15. I got a drivers permit she doesnt. She was supposed to have time to make her ******** right from today Saturday till sunday and clean due to cps coming. And so they didnt find anything. I now got a call saying im not allowed on the property of where my gf lives. And her mom is going to try and out a restraining order against me so i can see her. Me and her are happy together and we only have bad days when we dont see each other or can’t communicate due to not wanting to hurt each other anymore. Shes sneaking out tonight at 9 pm to talk to me so we can figure things out. We know that if we run a way. Theres a high chance of us being caught. And me being arrested for false allegations cos her mom said if i did anything she would tell the cops i raped her and kidnapped her. Me and her just want to be with each other with no drama and we seem to not be able to get a way from that unless we run a way from the town we live in.

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Hi, we're glad you reached us and told us about all of this. It sounds like you and your girlfriend care for each other a lot, and have both been hurting as a result of the circumstances surrounding you both. It also sounds justifiably frustrating, angering, sad, or scary how her mother has been treating you.

It's good that you're thinking ahead and considering potential risks and consequences (even unfair ones) to running away. It is true that at your age especially running away is very challenging, and potentially dangerous (physically and legally). You do not deserve to have false allegations placed against you. It seems like you want to be able to be happy together without any obstructions. If you want to talk more about other ways you might be able to make that happen, or if you want to talk through a possible plan around running away, you can call us or live chat us any time 24/7. Our live chat service is available at www.1800runaway.org, and our phone number is 1-800-RUNAWAY.

Neither of you have to handle this or make these decisions alone. We are here to help in whatever way we can, we are always non-judgmental and confidential.

[Guest]

my step mom told me to kill myself
ive been thinking about it
but my boyfriend is my most important thing to me and i cant leave him.....what do i do...

[ccsmod1]

Hello,

We appreciate you reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline. We recognize the strength and courage it takes to reach out for help in these situations and we are terribly sorry to hear that your step mom said something like that to you. Please know that somebody who says that to you is projecting their own inner struggles onto you. You do not deserve to be spoken to like that. Here at NRS, we are rooting for you and we would like to support you in any way that we can. Our goal is to watch you thrive and live a life that you find to be the most fulfilling.

We are happy to hear that your boyfriend is so important to you that he is making you want to stay. Given that you have been thinking about killing yourself and that you feel conflicted because of your boyfriend; it sounds like you may be in need of support services for your mental health. Please take the number for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline and feel welcome to utilize it at any given moment you are having thoughts of ending your life, or even if you just simply need to speak with somebody to feel supported or listened to. Their number is 800-273-8255 and they are available 24/7. They also offer an online chat option, that you may find directly on their website at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org.

Some other available options may be to contact our line for further support. We would be happy to talk further with you about your surrounding situation and provide you with any helpful resources that may provide additional support for you. We could look into helping you find a mental health therapist if that is something you think you would be interested in, or we can talk through different options as well. We are here to support you! You may contact us by phone call at 1-800-RUNAWAY, or you can utilize our online chat option, found directly on our website at www.1800runaway.org. Like the Suicide Prevention Lifeline, our line also operates 24/7. So, there will always be available support for you between both lines.

We kindly ask that if at any point you find yourself in immediate danger, please call 911 immediately. Your safety deserves to be kept as your main priority.

We look forward to the opportunity to talk further with you. Please know that we value your safety and well-being and we need you here in this life.

Warmly,
NRS