Friends that hurt me

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My best friend and I are really close, he actually lives with me but he hurts me all the time. Physically and emotionally. He upsets me without even knowing it. I have bruises all over my body from him but it's not like he does them on purpose. Sometimes I feel like he hates me because of the things he says, their just really hurtful towards me. I do let the littlest things bother me but still, I've tried talking to him and telling him that he makes me sad but it's like he doesn't care. He tells me he loves me and cares about me but I'm not so sure anymore. But I do like him, a lot. I like him more than a friend and that also hurts me because I don't think he likes me the same way. What should I do? Please help me! Please!

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Re: Friends that hurt me

Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Switchboard. I'm sorry to hear that you are going through such a rough time right now. It sounds like you have some strong feelings for your friend, but it also sounds like he is hurting you most of the time. I know that you mentioned him hurting you emotionally and physically. No one deserves to be hurt like that in any way, especially by your best friend. Do you think that this relationship is good for you? From what you wrote it sounds like you realize this might not be the best relationship for you, but you also have conflicting feelings because you like him more than a friend. It's understandable that you may have romantic feelings for him, but have you thought about why you really feel this way? Does he treat you well? Does he make you feel good about yourself and help you when you need it? Even though it might be hard, have you thought about what it might be like without him. In the end it sounds like he is not treating you the way you deserve to be treated, and the way you want to be treated. Although it may be hard perhaps you have to consider if this friend is really worth it. A friend should not be a person who puts you down, and beats you up. It's understandable that you are really upset about this and I want to let you know that we are here 24 hours a day to help. If you want to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY there will always be someone here to listen. I wish you the best of luck with everything and give us a call if you need to.