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  • ccsmod1
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    RE: My friend is being abused.

    Hello,

    Thanks for reaching out to us for help. It sounds like you care about your friend so much and you are being a great friend by reaching out for help. Your friend does not deserve to be abused or treated so terribly. What her adopted family is doing is illegal and she has a right to get help. Calling the police can be a good step to take, however reporting child abuse to Child Protective Services might be a good way for her to get help. You could even make a report on her behalf since she is unable to use her phone. The Ohio Child Abuse Hotline number is 1-855-642-4453, you can call any time to report what is happening to your friend. Another helpful resource is Child Help USA, a national child abuse crisis line. You can call them at 1-800-422-4453. Once reported, CPS may open an investigation to determine if the home is unsafe. She can also call us and we can help her make a report, or chat with us online. We are happy to go over all her options and help her figure out what to do next. We are here to listen and support you in any way that we can. Please don’t hesitate to give us a call if you need to talk. We are looking forward to hearing from you or your friend, and we wish you the best of luck.

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    My friend is being abused.

    Hello. I am 18 and my friend is 12. She lives in Ohio and I live in New York. My friend has a very long history. She has been adopted by these crazy, heartless people. They tell her to kill herself, hurt herself, they allow her to get bullied at school, they physically and verbally abuse her, and they lock her outside for periods of time. Her father disabled her phone so she can't call anyone. She has called the police and no luck was found. I don't know what to do and I really need to find a way to help her. Please help.

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  • ccsmod1
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    Re: My friend is being abused.

    Hello,

    Thank you so much for reaching out on behalf of your friend. It sounds like your friend is in a reallyt bad situation. She does not deserve to be abused in any way, and we are here to listen and help however we can. Your friend has a right to make an abuse report if she wants to. This is a big step to take and it is understandable to feel afraid of what will happen. If you would like to give your friend our number, we are totally confidential and can talk to her about her situation and help her make a plan to stay safe. It sounds like she has been thinking about suicide. One resource that could be really helpful is the National Suicide Lifeline, who she can call at 1-800-273-8255 or go to www.youmatter.suicidepreventionlifeline.org. It sounds like you really care about your friend and you don't want to break her trust by telling anyone about what is going on. If you do feel that she is in danger of killing herself, you might consider reaching out to a counselor at school. We are here to listen and support you and your friend in any way that we can. Don't hesitate to call us or give your friend our number so we can help her decide what to do about her situation. We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.

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    Re: My friend is being abused.

    My friend is being abused physically and mentally by her father and her mother just stands by and watches it happen. Her mother also abuses her mentally but it's gotten to the point where she is having suicidal thoughts and wishing she was never born. She doesn't want to tell anyone and she's scared uif she does her mother will lie and say her father hasn't done anything (which her mother has done before). I try to help her but even she doesn't want me to jump in on it. I don't know what to do to help her anymore, I'm lost myself.

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  • ccsmod3
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    Re: Abuse at home

    Hello there,

    Thank you for reaching out on behalf of your girlfriend on our forum. We are so sorry to hear she’s being abused by her mom and we hope she knows she does not deserve to be given a black eye. She has a right to make a report and it’s understandable to be concerned. Typically, Child Protective Services (CPS) is going to try every attempt to keep families together. Sometimes they do remove children/youth from the home; however, often they will recommend family counseling, mediation, contracts, etc. first. We cannot speak for the local CPS in your girlfriend’s city/state, although hopefully they will take her report if you or she wishes to make one. If we know her city/state, we can look up the local contact. Otherwise, there is Child Help USA https://www.childhelp.org/. They might be a helpful place to start even if your girlfriend does not wish to make a report since they can provide information on abuse as well. It sounds like you care for your girlfriend very much and she cares about her family not being ripped apart. Another idea would be to reach out to the Domestic Violence Hotline http://www.thehotline.org/ to see if they could offer her dad support if her mother’s abuse is towards him as well. We hope this helps you both and wish you the best of luck!

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    Abuse at home

    My girlfriend is being abused bygger mom and her dad doesn't do anything and doesnt have a say in it she came to school today with a black eye from her mom and doesnt want to tell anyone because she feels she will be ripped apart from her family and move far away and doesnt want her dad to suffer due to the consequences from her mother.

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  • ccsmod2
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    re: my friend in another state is being abused by his dad

    Hi there,

    Thanks for contacting us. It seems like you want to help your friend who may be in a dangerous situation. You seem really concerned! It can be tough to find answers and resources when you live in a different state. It's understandable to want to help your friend. It may be helpful to talk with them about what they need to stay safe. It may be a person to reach out to, a place they can go instead of being home, hobbies they can get into to relieve some of the stress, etc. Talk with them about what they might need. You can give them our number that they can use for help if the need it. You can always call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY to talk or find additional resources.

    Best,
    NRS

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    My friend in another state is being abused by his dad

    My friend is being abused by his dad. He's in another state, far from me, and he won't tell me the address of his house so I can call the police. He's already taken his dad to court for the abuse, but he lost and is still in his dad's care. I don't know what to do or how to help. Please tell me what to do im seed for his safety.

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that your friend is faced with right now and you’re wanting to find a way to help them as they mentioned some issues with safety at home. Your friend does not deserve to be harmed in any way. If she fears that she will be harmed by her mother, she has the right to call authorities for help (911 and child protective services). Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps prevent and stop child abuse/neglect. It’s great that your friend has support and concern from you especially since this time is quite difficult for them. It seems you can relate to what they’re going through. Which, by the way, you do not deserve to be mistreated or harmed either.

    Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. We are here as support to help you and your friend through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

    If your friend needs a safe place to turn to for some help, they can reach out to us or reach out to the National Safe Place website http://nationalsafeplace.org/text-4-help/.

    We’re here to listen and to help and hope you or your friend can reach out soon.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Re: My friend is being abused.

    HI I was here a few months back and I wrote something about my suicidal side and depression and how I planned to run away. I managed to beat depression, thought there are still some traces of it left and it has been making things difficult but im taking this all in and "fighting back".
    Anyways, this call for help isn't really for me, its for a friend. She's being abused by her parents. Her mom mostly.. i dont know about her dad.
    At first I thought it was the same abuse as mine. Punching, Pushing, verbal abuse, but hers' is a completely different level.
    Last night her she texted me. She said that her mom pushed and hit her and she started bleeding. So she ran in her room locking the door. She's been in there the whole day. No food. No water.
    She texted me saying how hungry and thirsty she was. So i told her to just go out there and take on any pain that comes to her and take how ever many food she can get.
    She said and I quote: "i might die out there"
    I dont know what to do . I dont want to talk to my parents about this especially becaus ewe arent that close and we barely talk to each other and it might get too serious. I dont like getting involved in those things
    I want to sneak out to go to her but she lives too far away.
    I really really need help.

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  • ccsmod16
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    Re: What do I do now

    Hello there,

    Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. We are very sorry to hear that your friend is being abused at home. Nobody deserves to be treated this way and she definitely has the right to feel safe at home. It sounds like you are concerned about your friend and that you are trying to help her find somewhere safe to stay. This must be a very difficult situation and it is very brave of you to reach out for help.

    It sounds like you were able to talk with your parents about her situation and your father made a report. Typically after this happens an investigation is launched by child protective services and someone is sent out to the home to start this process. The outcome, or where your friend will stay during this process, most likely depends on a variety of factors. It is possible that she could be moved to stay with a friend or family member or a foster home if there wasn’t another option. If child protective services felt she wasn’t in any current danger, they may have her remain at home with her parents. It sounds like the social worker you are meeting might be a helpful resource as well. You can definitely share your concerns and thoughts with them.

    Again, it is great that you reached out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It is really admirable that you are trying to help your friend in this very hard situation. If you would like to talk further about your situation or if your friend would like to talk to us directly to explore her options, please do not hesitate to call or chat with us. We are here to listen, here to help.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    What do I do now

    My friend is being abused at home and she told me that she wanted to run away. I told her to come stay with me Bc she's so new to our town. I told my parents what was going and and since my dad is a teacher he had to report it.
    My friend has no where else to go and I definitely don't want her put in the system, so what do I do? Could I ask the social worker tomorrow if she could stay with us and finish out the rest of the school year?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Re: My friend is being abused.

    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out to us. It sounds like your friend is going through a really difficult time at home. No one deserves to feel unsafe in their own home. She has the right to report the abuse that she has been experiencing if she feels that is the right decision. We are glad to hear that she has a friend like you to talk to about what is going on. Our main priority is always safety. One thing that may be helpful to work through with your friend is figuring out if she has somewhere safe near her house that she can go when things get out of control.

    There are a few options you have as a friend. You mentioned talking to your parents or a teacher about the situation. That is an option you have. Keep in mind that teachers are mandated reporters. This means that if you talk to them about what your friend is going through, they are obligated to file an abuse report. If you’re not sure that this is what your friend wants, you can talk to your friend and find out what she wants or feels comfortable with. If your friend want to talk with someone confidentially about her options, she can always call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY 24 hours a day or chat with us at www.1800RUNAWAY.org open daily. There is also Child Help USA, an organization that helps kids who are suffering from domestic abuse. Their hotline is 1-800-4-A-CHILD. Lastly, your friend can always call 911 if things at home get too unsafe and she needs immediate help.

    You are a good friend to reach out for help! Thank you for being so strong for her.

    Best,
    NRS

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    Re: My friend is being abused.

    ..My friend lives in New Jersey. I live in Missouri. ..As you can imagine, I can't be there for her in real life, but we text all of the time and are extremely close. I found out that her mom slaps her or hits her with a belt, and verbally abuses her. It happens at least once or twice a week. It used to be worse before her little brother told one of their teachers. ...I'm really worried about her, and I love her to bits, but I don't know what will happen if I tell my parents. ..Should I tell my parents or a teacher, or stay quiet?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Re: My friend is being abused.

    Thank you for reaching out to us. We are truly sorry to hear that you’ve been treated this way. No one deserves to be mistreated at home. You asked whether the way your mom behaves with you would be called abuse or discipline. We’re not legal experts, but we will do our best to provide you with information to help answer your questions.

    You described what sounds like a difficult situation with your mom. If you are feeling unsafe, you always have the option of reporting what goes on to your local child protective services. How they handle your report depends on where you live, so you would need to speak with someone familiar with the laws in your state. If you are not comfortable reporting, we can assist you in identifying other resources that might support you in however you choose to handle your situation. Whatever you choose to do, please know that we are here to support you.

    If you would like further support, please feel free to reach out to us. We are available 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786.2929). You can also reach out to us via chat from 7 days a week from 4:30pm-11:30pm CST.

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