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    My friend is being abused by her mom and her sisters and she's constantly told to do and then she's meant to stay home to watch her mom's other three kids while she is only 13 and she's missing out on a lot of school and I don't know what to do she's constantly torture 2 is bullied around and I'm really scared for her please help she's a transgender she swore she wants to she wants to trans to man please help

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. Your friend is lucky to have someone like you that is there for them to find help. One option that your friend has is filing an abuse report. They can reach out to Child Help at 1-800-422-4453 or at childhelp.org to get more information about child abuse reporting or to just get support surrounding the issue and their home life. You can also give them our information so that we could try to hep action plan with them their options and figure out what they think is best for them. We can be reached 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). Is there a counselor or other trusted adult at school that you think you both could turn to for help? If not, we may be able to connect them wit the legal help they may need.

    Let us know how we can best help,

    NRS

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    I’m worried about my friend

    I don’t know how to help her. She has come to school crying because of things that have happened at home and told me how her dad hurts her younger brother. Her parents continually argue and yesterday she told me that her dad was going to file for a divorce and take custody of her even though she hates him. He says how her younger brother ruins the family and says he could fatally hurt him so he is forced into adoption. What do I do?

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  • ccsmod4
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    Reply: My friend was being abused

    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
    It seems there is a lot that your friend is faced with right now and you’re wanting to find a way to help them.
    It’s great that your friend has your support and concern, especially since this time is probably quite difficult for them.
    Being abused is not the fault of your friend. They don’t deserve to have this happen to them.
    There are laws to protect minors against abuse. If your friend would like to file an abuse report they may do so by contacting Child Help USA at: 1-800-422-4453

    NRS can also assist with filing a child abuse report and assist with trying to locate a safe emergency shelter. Giving your friend support by reaching out to NRS says a lot about your character.
    They are lucky to have you as a friend.
    NRS is here to listen and here to help.
    Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of.

    We are here as support to help both you and your friend through this challenging time.
    We can best help by phone or chat. If you or your friend would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.


    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    Take care,
    NRS

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    My friend was being abused by his uncle and ran away again and now cops are looking for him and i am really scared for him and i just want his life to be normal.What should i do about my friend?

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hi,

    Thank you so much for reaching out. It sounds like your friend is in a scary situation and it makes sense that you are worried about her. You are being a really good friend and it’s good that she has you for support. It may also help for your friend to talk with a teacher, school counselor, relative, or other trustworthy adult.

    Your friend’s safety is really important to us too. You can file an abuse report for your friend, the national child abuse hotline is Child Help, 800-422-4453 and they may be able to help with having her removed from the home. Also, your friend can make a report with them and if it would help we can call with your friend call to make the abuse report.Teachers are also able to make abuse reports. If your friend leaves home and goes to stay with someone else then her mother could file a runaway report but if the police are informed that your friend is being abused then they are not supposed to return your friend to the home until the investigation of abuse is completed.

    Thank you again for reaching out. It took a lot of courage to get in touch with us in such a tough situation. We are here for you and your friend 24/7 so please don’t hesitate to reach out again at any time if you need us. If your friend can reach out to us by phone or on chat we can further discuss her options with her. We wish you both the best of luck.

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    I know someone that’s being abused by their mom. She said that this isn’t the first time and that when she called the police they didn’t do anything. Her mom is mentally unstable. She said that she has bruises and that she was bleeding. She doesn’t have a phone to call anyone but is texting me off of social media. I want to help her and make sure that she’s okay. I’m so worried and I just want her to be safe. What should I do or say?

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hello, thank you for taking the time to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It defiantly sounds like you are having a hard time at both your mother and your father’s house but we cannot define abuse to you. One resource that might help you define it more is https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/ if you feel like this is something that you would like to address you can give them a call and they can help you make a report. You do not deserve to be treated the way that you are be either of your parents. They should love and respect you for who you are.
    It must be really stressful to be in constant fear that you are going to be yelled at or ridiculed for being who you are. You mentioned that your father is not accepting of your sibling’s gender identity and your sexual identity. We want you to know that there is tons of support out there for you and want to invite both of you to give the Trans Lifeline 877-565-8860 and the LGBT National Hotline 888-843-4564 a call to talk about what the both of you are experiencing. We want to thank you for being brave enough to share your story with us and to have dealt with all of this for as long as you have.
    Thank you again for emailing us. We want to keep you safe. It is really brave of you to ask for help. You do not deserve being hit like you are. You can call us any time of day or night at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We also have a chat service on our website open in the afternoons and evenings (click on the “chat” button at the top of 1800runaway.org when it is available).
    Stay safe and let us know if we can help in any way!

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    I'm not sure if I'm being abused. But sometimes it feels like I have no where else to turn.
    So, my mom and dad divorced in 2011. I live at my mom's house. She is strict, and I find her yelling a lot more lately. It is kind of our fault (I think) for not being perfect kids. And when she yells, I cry like a normal kid would. But I have thoughts in my head like, "Wow you're so worthless" and "She's going to yell at you some more". Right? And recently I got in trouble for lying. Somebody asked me why I lied and I said, "Because I want to impress my mom", and all things like that. But here's the thing, my mom still hugs us and says our I love you's, and sometimes we'll have fun time. But after school everyday now I am in total constant fear that I'm going to get yelled at, or disiplined for doing something wrong .

    And then there's my dad's house. He is a Christian, and a non-supporter of LGBTQ+ and/or some diversity. Me and my brother are LGBTQ+ members. He's transgender and I'm pansexual! My dad hates it all. He manipulates us. Like if we don't want to go to his house, he'll say, "Yeah but you know that'll hurt my feelings, right?" And it hurts to break my dad's heart. My brother recently came out to my dad as transgender, and he did not take it well. He said, "I won't call you by your preferred pronouns, name, blah blah blah." But what really hit me is when he said, "What is going to happen to your little sister?!" I slunk back in my room and cried

    Thanks for listening and have any advice?

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  • ccsmod2
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    Thank you for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. We are very sorry to hear that your girlfriend’s father is abusive and controlling. Abuse is never okay and she doesn’t deserve to be treated that way. She does have the option of reporting the abuse from her father. She could talk to someone that she trusts such as a school teacher or counselor and they could report the abuse for her. Child Help is also a great resource to report abuse and obtain information about possibly transferring custody from her parents to another family member. Please be safe and if you would like to call us directly for more information or resources when your mother isn’t around, our crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929) is 24 hours. We are always here to listen and help in the best way that we can. You mentioned that your girlfriend has mentioned that she wants to end her life. It seems like you really care about your girlfriend, you can try talking to her and letting her know that her life is worth living and the abuse is not her fault. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255) is a great resource that she could call to discuss her feelings of ending her life. You could also give her our contact information so that she can contact us directly, our crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929) is 24 hours so there is always someone here to listen and help. We wish you both the best !

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    My girlfriend is 15 and is living with her mom and her abusive, mentally controlling dad. He has been a threat to her wellbeing for a long time (her whole life) but now he recently hit her again. Her mom is very sweet and kind to her when they are alone or just without her dad but she stood by as her dad hit her. She constantly says she hates her dad and wants to end her life because of it. Im so scared for her i know she is in so much pain and im worried she is going to just snap. I dont know how to help her, please help.

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hey there,

    Thanks for reaching out to NRS via our forum. We appreciate you looking out for your cousin and being a support for them. We hope our response will be helpful.
    It sounds like home life for your cousin is really stressful and dangerous, due to her mom’s drug use and the abuse that she has to go through. Abuse is never okay, no one deserves to be hurt in any way, no matter the situation. She should be able to date someone and not be in fear of her safety at home. It’s good that she has you to look out for her and try to get her help. A minor (18 and under) who is being abused at home, always has a right to report that abuse. Also, having drugs in the home can be considered endangering a minor. If your cousin ever wanted to make an abuse report or explore more what the reporting process looks like, Child Help is the National Child Abuse Hotline (800) 422-4453, can walk her through that. NRS is also able to make abuse reports, if you wanted to pass along our information to her, so she can call into our safeline. If her safety is in immediate threat, you or she are also always able to call the police. Unfortunately, we’re non-directive at NRS, so we can’t tell you what the right thing to do in this situation.

    Again, thank you for reaching out to us and looking out for your cousin. It sounds like you’re doing your best to be supportive. Unfortunately, we’re non-directive at NRS, so we can’t tell you what the right thing to do in this situation. If you’d like to talk more about the situation, don’t hesitate to call out to our 24/7 safeline or use our chatting services.

    Be well, NRS

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    My cousin is being abused by her mom and it has been going on for about 5 years, but I didn't know how serious it really was because I was only 8. Her mom does drugs as well, and she can't do anything otherwise her mom will hit her and leave marks. Recently, my cousin got a boyfriend, and a teacher at school saw them holding hands and told her mom. Last night, her mom told her to break up with him or she would kill her. I don't know what to do. My cousin is like an older sister, and she is really upset. It isn't because of the threat, though. It's because she really loves him. The thing is, I want to help her but she won't let me. She's ok with this, but its wrong. I just dont know what to do. Should I call the cops, or should I just stay out of it?

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hello,
    Thank you for taking the time to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like your friend is being abused by his father and you are trying to get him some help. Child abuse is a serious matter that need serious attention. We want you to know that you do have the right to make a report with Child Protective Services. Child Help USA is an information and referral line that can connect you with your local CPS abuse hotline. That number is 1-800-422-4453. If you ever felt like making a report or needed help, we are here to assist with that. His safety is our main concern. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    i need help. my ex boyfriend who is now one of my best guy friends is being abused by his dad. his dad hits him in the head often and i'm worried about his wellbeing. please someone help me

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