13 and pregnant?

[Guest]

So I'm 13 and my BFS 15 and he wants to have sex and he said he wants me to be pregnant so how do I do this I just want to run away
if I get pregnant
My moms already judgy enough
I'm scared
Can i run away to you guys

[ccsmod7]

Hi there, thanks for reaching out today. Sounds like you are in a tough situation and thinking that you could get pregnant and will have to run away. That's a whole lot to deal with.

It sounds like your boyfriend wants you to get pregnant, but you haven't mentioned wanting to get pregnant. Having a child is a big responsibility and it could be hard for a 13 year old and a 15 year old to adequately care for one, especially while being on the run. If you haven't already, you might think about what you want to do. It is your body and your choice, not his, and only you should be making these decisions. You should never have to feel pressured when it comes to sex or having a child, and it seems like he might be putting you in an unfair position. You might look at this website for Sex Etc: www.sexetc.org to learn about sex education. You might also look at https://www.loveisrespect.org/ or call 1-866-331-9474 to talk to people who are experts in teen dating.

Please do not hesitate to call or chat us if you would like to talk through your situation. We are non-directive, non-judgmental, and here to help: 1-800-RUNAWAY; www.1800runaway.org.

Best,

NRS

[Guest]

so i had unprotected sex 2 days ago(monday) and my period is supposed to be due today on the 13 of november and all that’s came out was something brown but it wasn’t no period blood and now i’m scared i might be pregnant. but it’s only been two days but still

[ccsmod13]

Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to NRS. Asking for help was a really responsible thing to do and a great first step. Becoming sexually active and being concerned about pregnancy can definitely be scary and confusing. It can be difficult to determine if you are pregnant or not until about two weeks after missing a period, generally speaking although we are not medical experts. You do not have to figure this out alone. You can take this situation step by step. Speaking to someone else, like a trusted adult can help you think about what you want to do and if you will need to take a pregnancy test. Perhaps there is a counselor at school or another family member you feel comfortable opening up to about this who can help.

If you are not ready to talk to someone in person yet there is a website called Love Is Respect, www.loveisrespect.org/for-yourself/contact-us/ . Here, you can read more information about sex and relationships as well as call or chat with a peer advocate. Sometimes having a safe space to talk through things can help calm nerves and brainstorm options you had not previously thought of. Planned Parenthood is also an awesome resource for receiving helpful services. In most states, you can get tested for pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections at 13 without parental consent. You can go to www.plannedparenthood.org for more information and your nearest clinic.

We truly want to be a support for you while you navigate this challenging situation and determine what you want your next steps to be. You can reach out to us anytime by phone or our chat services if you would like to talk more in-depth and explore your possible options. We are here 24/7 to listen and help.

Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

13 And I think I am pregnant

me and my 14 year old bf have planned to not have a baby until we are ready but he always says “I’ll do it with a condom when you are ready”. So so nights ago I said I was ready. I trusted my boyfriend that he would put on a condom but in the middle of us doing the nasty I think he took it off. It has been a month and I am having all the symptoms but I don’t know what to say to him or my parents. Will we break up and will I get disowned. Also I am not excepting abortion so please tell me what to do.

[ccsmod7]

Thanks for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline and sharing your experience with us. It sounds like you are in a challenging situation and experiencing a lot of stress. It is never ok for your boyfriend to take off a condom without your consent. You deserve to feel safe in your relationship. You can learn more and chat more with someone at https://www.loveisrespect.org/.

Being unsure if you're pregnant and feeling unprepared or unsure of what to do next can be a scary thing to face. We are always here to listen and help as best as possible. Taking this step by step can help to make this stressful time a little less overwhelming. Identifying people in your life that you can trust to support you during this time may be a good start to seeking help and exploring your options. If you suspect that you may be pregnant or are currently unsure, confirming pregnancy is a good first step. This can look like purchasing a pregnancy test after you have missed a menstrual period or you can get this confirmation by possibly going to a local clinic for a blood test. If you are pregnant, proper health care can be important in whatever you choose to do. One way to reach a doctor and find useful resources that specialize in women’s health/pregnancy is to contact Planned Parenthood at 1800-230-7526 or go to their website at https://www.plannedparenthood.org/.

If you’d like additional support or resources please call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY 24 hours, 7 days a week or chat with us online by going to www.1800RUNAWAY.org.

Take care,
NRS