13 and pregnant?

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Re: 13 and pregnant?

I went on a cruise during the summer. I didn't think anything was gonna happen because my family was around, but there was these guys at ,my dinner table and one of them really liked me and he was 17 and he obviously had sex before because he was really hot and he was one of those bad boys and so he had condoms but we didn't use them. And so he never came so I never thought anything of it but now that I'm kind of getting the early pregnancy symptoms. I searched it up and I have all of the early pregnancy symptoms and I don't know what to do and my mom is very strict about boys like she sold my phone because a boy face timed me so please help me

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RE: 13 and pregnant?

Hey There!

Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. Thanks so much for sharing your story with us on our forum as sometimes this can take come courage to do so. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation right now. It is perfectly normal to have explored yourself sexually. A great thing to remember is that you are in control of your sexuality and your safety as well. Regarding, your concerns of possibly being pregnant, taking some steps to confirm this would be a great option to explore. This can look like keeping track if your menstrual period is late, irregular, or has not come at all. If so, you can always access a pregnancy test at your local drugstore is a great next step to take if you are a little too nervous going to a doctor or getting your parents involved. Sometimes taking this step by step and confirming what is going on can help this from getting overwhelming and to better prepare for what your next steps should be.
If you ever need to talk or are looking for more information and access to resources, you can always call us at 1800-RUNAWAY or reach out to Planned Parenthood at 1800-230-7526

Best Wishes,
NRS

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13 and pregnant

I'm 13 years old now me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 4 months now and surprisingly my dads okay with it. We have been having sex for a while now and we skipped using protection a few times but always my period came late but still came and by that I mean some of my periods were late and some we4 on time. My dads the only one who looks out for me and wouldn't like the fact we are having sex.
My boyfriends parents offered to put me on the pill but I would have to tell my parents which they wouldnt pay or approve of it. Anyway I had my period last month (and it was on time) but it was shorter and lighter than normal. Its now july 20 and I haven't had my period. Telling my parents isn't a choice so I'm thinking oh buying those abortion pills, any advice?

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Re: 13 and pregnant

Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). The news of pregnancy can bring on a mix of emotions for many. There may be excitement for some, fear for others, an uncertainty about what to do next, where to go for help, and how to get access to medical resources. Sometimes, youth contemplate running away from home in fear of their parent’s reactions, or sometimes youth are worried about being kicked out. It sounds like you don’t want your parents to know and you’re trying to figure things out soon. Pregnancy can be a challenging time for many, but we want you to know that there is support for you. If you are in need of any resources, you are encouraged to call our crisis line for support and referrals. Planned Parenthood may also be a helpful resource to turn to regarding medical care needs and other services to help explore the option that is best for you. For more information you may call 1-800-230-PLAN (7526) to find a health center or visit https://www.plannedparenthood.org/.

We hope to hear from you soon.

Good luck and take care,

NRS

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He Wants It And I Might Too

Hello! I'm in a difficult situation. I'm 13 and my boyfriend is 14. We've known each other for ten months and we've been dating for seven. lately he's been asking me to have sex and telling me it's my choice and I feel like I can't say no because I'm an extremely difficult person and he always does what I want so I should do what he wants for once. but at the same time I feel like it's my choice and if I got pregnant: I wouldn't have access to a pregnancy test, my family would be very upset, and his family would be very upset. I don't know what to do.

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RE: He Wants It And I Might Too

Hello there –

Thank you for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We are glad that you were able to find us and post a message on our public forum. By helping you out during your crisis, we hope that others that are reading this can also be helped if they are going through a similar situation. It takes a lot of courage to reach for help, that’s very brave of you.

It sounds like making the decision to have sex with your boyfriend is causing you a lot of stress right now. It is a very serious thing to think about, especially if you’re worried that you’ll get in trouble for it. Well you are right that it is always going to be your choice and you can say “no” at any time (even if you said yes at first). No one can take that away from you. Just remember that if you say “no” at any time and the other person doesn’t stop that would be considered rape and it is a punishable crime.

Talking to your boyfriend or someone that you trust about your fears might be something that will help you make a decision about whether or not you want to have sex. It could help to talk through it and find something that works best for you; no one has the right to pressure you into having sex for any reason. Even if that reason is that “he does everything you want.” It could also be helpful to educate yourself about sexual health and hear from other teens that might be going through similar situations like you are. There is a great website that you can click through to find out more information that you might not know. It’s called “Sex, etc” (http://sexetc.org/). They have forums, blogs, sex education, and even games to help you in deciding what’s right for you. It can also teach you about having safe protected sex if you do choose to go through with having sex with your boyfriend.

If you give us a call on our 24/7 hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) we could potentially help you brainstorm a possible solution to the issues you are having. We would love to talk to you about what has been going on recently. We also have an online chat service available every day.

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13 and pregnant

Ok so I'm 13 and I think I might be pregnant. My dad works in Texas and we have been there the past month for the summer. Well he works with a friend of the family and he's 23. Well we have been having sex and we did it a few times with a condom and then we did it without for a few times. He always pulled out but I still feel like I'm pregnant. What do I do?

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RE: 13 and pregnant

Hello,

It sounds like you think you might be pregnant. We understand this is a very scary and difficult situation. First of all, it might be good to find out if you really are pregnant. If you are not sure if you are pregnant, your first step is to take an at home pregnancy test, which you can purchase at any pharmacy or drugstore. One sign that you might be pregnant is if your period is late, and most pregnancy tests are not effective until after you have missed a menstrual period.

Pulling out is not considered an effective way to prevent pregnancy. If you do not want to get pregnant, you should use a condom every time that you have sex without exception. If you had unprotected sex without a condom fewer than three days ago, you can still use a kind of birth control called emergency contraception that can prevent pregnancy after you have had unprotected sex. It is not legal in every state for youth your age to purchase emergency contraception, so if you want to know more about this option you can call the Emergency Contraception Hotline at 1-888-668-2528. If you take an at home pregnancy test and it is positive, you might want to see a doctor to make sure and to talk about your options. Even if you are not pregnant, you may have been exposed to diseases when you had sex without a condom, so it might be a good idea to talk to a doctor anyway, and you can talk to them about birth control options since you are currently sexually active. You can check out www.plannedparenthood.org for information and to find a clinic. Another really great resource with information about sex, birth control, pregnancy and health for teens is www.sexetc.org.

One thing to keep in mind is that because you are 13, you are under the age of consent, which is the age at which a person can legally consent to sex. Age of consent laws are meant to protect young people from being coerced or manipulated into having sex with older people. Because this family friend is 23 years old, he is breaking the law by having sex with you, even if you wanted it to happen. You have a right to report what happened to the police, or to reach out to an adult that you trust. You can also call the RAINN Hotline (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) if you need to talk. They are available 24/7 at 1-800-656-4673. You can discuss your options with them, and they are confidential so if you don’t wish to make a report you don’t have to as long as you don’t give them your name or identifying information. You can also call us any time. We are here to listen and talk to you and help talk you through your options and come up with a plan. We understand this might be a really scary and confusing time for you, and we want to help support you in the best way we can. We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.

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Re: 13 and pregnant?

My friend just told me she was 1 week in she is 13 and i forget how old the supposed father is she is planning to run away when she starts showing. She had has taken a pregnancy test and it said one week. I dont know how to stop her from running away but i need help she needs help thanks.

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Re: 13 and pregnant?

If you have contacted NRS today through another means (for example, live chat, email or bulletin) for the same issue, it would be helpful to let us know that you have already contacted us. NRS understands it takes courage to reach out for help; therefore, we would like to minimize the need for you to repeat your situation and avoid offering you duplicate services.

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I'm 13 and I might be pregnant

Ok so me and my bf didn't have sex but we have been "grinding" anyway he ejaqulated on the top part of my vagina and I don't think It got into the hole but I have missed my last two periods I told my parents and they said that it may just be I'm missing them because I'm really active is that true??? Help!!

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I'm 13 and I might be pregnant

Hello There!

Thanks so much for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It is a great first step to take to getting the support and information that you may need. It sounds like you are in a situation that can be quite overwhelming. We want to acknowledge how courageous and strong you are to take this step and to want to figure this situation out.
A great option to look into is purchasing a pregnancy test to really be sure that pregnancy is something you can rule out as a cause that you are missing your period. We are not exactly health experts here, but if you are just beginning to have periods (as in your first ever period) not having a normal monthly mensuration is common. It could also be helpful to know that each body is different and what is normal for you can vary from others. Meaning, sometimes not all women get their period each month. However, knowing there was some possible sexual activity it would be a great option to look into pregnancy tests or goign to a gynecologist. You can learn more information about this topic or locate other helpful resources at this link https://www.plannedparenthood.org/
Please call us or live chat with us so that we may better support you, refer more resources, or help in any other way.
Stay Stong,
NRS

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RE: I'm 13 and I might be pregnant

Hello There!

Thanks so much for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It is a great first step to take to getting the support and information that you may need. It sounds like you are in a situation that can be quite overwhelming. We want to acknowledge how courageous and strong you are to take this step and to want to figure this situation out.
A great option to look into is purchasing a pregnancy test to really be sure that pregnancy is something you can rule out as a cause that you are missing your period. We are not exactly health experts here, but if you are just beginning to have periods (as in your first ever period) not having a normal monthly mensuration is common. It could also be helpful to know that each body is different and what is normal for you can vary from others. Meaning, sometimes not all women get their period each month. However, knowing there was some possible sexual activity it would be a great option to look into pregnancy tests or goign to a gynecologist. You can learn more information about this topic or locate other helpful resources at this link https://www.plannedparenthood.org/
Please call us or live chat with us so that we may better support you, refer more resources, or help in any other way.
Stay Stong,
NRS

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12 and 15 weeks pregnant

I am 12 and 15 weeks pregnant. I have token an expired pregnancy test that came up positive, and I show all the symptoms of pregnancy. I am afraid to tell my parents and need a way to get prenatal care without my parents knowing. I will tell them at some point since I plan on keeping the baby but I want to know more about my situation before I tell them. Any tips on keeping the secret (my two best friends know) and will the doctor have to tell my parents?

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Re: 13 and pregnant?

Hello –

Thank you for contacting National Runaway Safeline (NRS). It was so brave for you to reach out to us for help, and we are here to help. Your safety is our top priority. We hope that by helping you on our public forum that others that might be in similar situations or the same questions, can read through and find our reply helpful.

It sounds like you are having a difficult time figuring out what’s best for you before telling your parents that you’re pregnant. We are a confidential agency and could offer some resources to assist with your situation. Prior to seeking a doctor’s care, it sounds like you have taken an expired pregnancy test that gave you a positive. Now pregnancy test aren’t also the most accurate meaning that in some cases that you can be provided with a false positive; especially those that have expired. That’s because the chemical that reacts to the hormone levels in urine might be inactive. So if you’re still feeling a little unsure if you are pregnant or not, it might be helpful to take another test (one that isn’t expired) or see a doctor that can draw blood and tell you for sure what is going on.

There are agencies such as Planned Parenthood, where you could go and get assistance, but depending on what state you are in, they may or may not be confidential. For more information, you can listen to the automated recording on their policies regarding minors. You can reach them by calling 1.800.230.7526 (Planned Parenthood National number). It is very responsible of you to seek prenatal care to make sure you have a healthy baby, while also keeping yourself safe.

Thank you again for being brave and contacting us. If you would like to talk more about this situation, please feel free to reach us directly by calling our confidential 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat (if services appear available to use).