15 yr old doesn't want his gf to runaway alone

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hi
i don't know what to do. my 15yr old son has a girlfriend who has family issues at home.
she is telling him that she is going to run away and he doesn't want her to be alone so he
keeps telling me he's sorry but if she goes he has to go with her.
I really need to stop this from happening
I tried talking to her mother a few weeks ago but I didn't get very far.
she has sent the daughter to live in another town with her dad and seems to have pretty much
washed her hands of the situation.

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15 yr old doesn't want his gf to runaway alone

Hello,
Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

It sounds like you are in a tough spot as a parent the one thing that you might take away from this issue is your son’s wiliness to talk with you about his intentions. Giving him a listening ear and even going so far as to reach out to her mother is a great tool in showing him care about what he and she are trying to cope with.
Have you had conversations with him about alternatives that might help his girlfriend’s situation at home? Depending on what issues she is having at home there might be other options besides running away to explore. Counseling might be an option as well as an outlet for her to deal with her situation.
Running away is one option but perhaps you might discuss with him if it’s the safest option.
Running away and having to survive on the street might only add to an already difficult situation.

What’s their plan?
Sometimes reality checks on how someone might survive once leaving home might be reason for them to pause and think things through. Does that make sense?
Perhaps your son can give our 1-800- Runaway (786-2929) 24hr crisis line number to his girlfriend.
NRS provides an open non -judgmental forum to talk about what’s going on and to explore options as to how she might deal with her situation.
This invitation is extended to you and your son as well.

NRS offers live chat sessions 7days a week from 4:30pm until 11:30pm CST.
Visit our website www.1800Runaway.org to use the live chat service.

Your son hopefully appreciates the fact that you have taken such proactive initiatives.
We understand how scary it must be to hear your son say he is thinking about running away with his girlfriend in order to look out for her safety. It’s quite admirable of him but never the less scary.
Great job for being his sounding board and champion.

We hope that things do not escalate and that there becomes a suitable way for his girlfriend to become comfortable with her life. We hope that you and your son can feel at ease about the situation as well.

Thank you again for reaching out to NRS.
Take care

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15 yr old doesn't want his gf to runaway alone

thank you for answering, everything I try is met with " you don't understand"
according to the gf and in her opinion it is not acceptable at her dad's house
and she is convinced that her mother doesn't care and will only take her back (to the dad's).
they took her
there for the 'weekend' and then let her know that she would be moving there. (right before Christmas)
apparently there are past abuse issues I can't seem to get the entire story. definitely she is not
communicating with her parents and there seem to be quite a few issues. her mother frequently (even to me)
calls her a 'drama queen' I tried to say that yes, all teenagers have a touch of drama and her mom said
oh no this was much more drama...
the daughter says that her mom "doesn't care at all"
I don't know what to do. I have sent her the link to your site and am hoping she contacts you
they are very young and don't have any idea what they are getting into.

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RE: 15 yr old doesn't want his gf to runaway alone.

Hello,

Thank you for getting into touch with us again here at the National Runaway Safeline, we are here to listen and here to help in any way that we can. It’s great that you have shared our link to our website to your son’s girlfriend. It can be a very useful tool that she can use if she ever wants to talk about what has been going on or just to discuss the different options that she might have. It’s also great that you are there to support her as well, you have been a great advocate to her mother regarding the youth current status. Have you tried reaching out to any social service agencies that might be able to look into what has been going on with this youth? Perhaps that might be able to inventive and place her in a more stable environment.

You have mentioned that there was some abusing behaviors going on at the house. No one deserves to go through this and we are here to support and help you in any way we can. Has the youth ever considered filing an abuse report? She definitely has the right to report any abuse to your local police department or child protective service in your state. If you were to call in to NRS we could walk her through the process, help her file the report, and talk about her options. If you feel this is not an option for you we would be able to discuss others as well.