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I have a 17 year old son who continues to pull away and disassociate himself from his friends and family. This all started when he met his current girlfriend who has been clinically diagnosed with being bipolar. He has been dating her on and off for a year and more on for the past 9 months. We have been attempting to connect with him and even provided him with professional counseling who stated he is depressed and this is a normal teenage phase. In his mind he does not need counseling and he can deal with his own feelings. He has mentioned on multiple occasions that nobody cares for him and that his parents care too much. We can see the pain in his eyes but he won’t talk about anything. Now he is pulling up Michigan laws citing how he can legally run away and there is nothing we can do about it. His girlfriend’s parents have gone as far to let him know that he is welcome to come stay with them. Even though on multiple occasions we have seen text messages about how her mom hits her and how her home life is awful. They don’t really track their daughter who is 6 months younger and supposedly her mom is also bipolar.
One of the Dr’s that our son was seeing had also seen his girlfriend and at that time mentioned there was a conflict of interest once he determined that they were a couple. He mentioned that his girlfriend has a lot of mental issues and it’s not healthy for our son to be in this relationship with her. She told our son that she had some lung disease and was expected to die in about 5 years (even though she is an active member of the school cheer team). On a vacation to Florida this past Spring they went as far as fabricating a lie where she was “dying” and we had to leave our vacation and return home. We only discovered the lie shortly before we arrived home after driving all night. When confronted with the truth they both showed little remorse and felt we over reacted. We quickly met with her parents and showed them the text messages – they were appalled that their daughter would do this and apologized profusely. They said she does not have a lung disease and is not dying. When we confronted our son with the truth he blamed us for interfering in his life and that her family are private people and they lied to us to protect her. This girl is a cutter and someone who continually claims to want to die. She has been caught with drugs in her purse and continues to lie to her parents about who’s they are and why she has them. Her parents don’t seem to care when we try and communicate and when we do they yell at their daughter.
Our son has pulled away from almost all his friends and just doesn't care about school or anything. It’s placing a lot of stress on our family and we don’t know what else to do given that he doesn't care.
One of the Dr’s that our son was seeing had also seen his girlfriend and at that time mentioned there was a conflict of interest once he determined that they were a couple. He mentioned that his girlfriend has a lot of mental issues and it’s not healthy for our son to be in this relationship with her. She told our son that she had some lung disease and was expected to die in about 5 years (even though she is an active member of the school cheer team). On a vacation to Florida this past Spring they went as far as fabricating a lie where she was “dying” and we had to leave our vacation and return home. We only discovered the lie shortly before we arrived home after driving all night. When confronted with the truth they both showed little remorse and felt we over reacted. We quickly met with her parents and showed them the text messages – they were appalled that their daughter would do this and apologized profusely. They said she does not have a lung disease and is not dying. When we confronted our son with the truth he blamed us for interfering in his life and that her family are private people and they lied to us to protect her. This girl is a cutter and someone who continually claims to want to die. She has been caught with drugs in her purse and continues to lie to her parents about who’s they are and why she has them. Her parents don’t seem to care when we try and communicate and when we do they yell at their daughter.
Our son has pulled away from almost all his friends and just doesn't care about school or anything. It’s placing a lot of stress on our family and we don’t know what else to do given that he doesn't care.
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