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  • Running to where we moved away from

    This issue might be a bit different than most, but I believe I'm in need of necessary aid aswell. I'm seventeen years old and a remarkable student in school, now a senior. The summer before my junior year in high school, my father decided to move us with my grandparents from Florida to south Georgia. This completely deprived my education, robbing me of the five AP (advanced placement in which I can attain college credits in high school), and forcing me to take their freshman courses over in my senior year. This is due to the difference in educational standards (south Georgia's 9th grade courses are roughly the equivalent of seventh and eight grade in the school's I had attended in Florida). Georgia will not recognize this and now I'm wasting half my high school education "making up" for what I already did. In this time I was able to take ten AP courses aswell as preliminary courses I could've taken to prepare me for my future major in orchestral performance.
    As you can see, I had, and have, no intention to drop out of high school or take any irrational actions I don't have to take. I'm a very ascetic person and I work hard for everything I posess. I work five to eight hours at a fast-food restaurant after each school day and then run seven miles. It has become very routine and I find the only certain contentness with this schedule.
    For some insight to parents, my mother passed away when I was seven. My father, a high school dropout, has been an addict since the age of thirteen, spending the majority of his life as a bartender. Parties, drugs, cars, and a new girlfriend to take advantage of Every night. To this day, he still uses drugs, he only gets better at hiding it. Now, he has become very eccentric of his past, and believes he deserves a "break". Since his parents offered to set him up with a twenty-six hundred square foot house with an oversized pool, a pool house, an acre of land, he was more than willing to move out to south Georgia. Little did he care about the fact that I'm still in the middle of high school. It's been a year and a month, he's still unemployed at the age of forty-seven, and spends each and every day sitting on the couch watching television. To support his lifestyle, he runs off of the government funds he is provided with my the fact that he is a widowed father of two children.
    The true issue here is that my father is too irresponsible to recognize the necessity for me to move back. Not only for educational reasons, but for social reasons aswell. Teens here are completely immoral and ignorant, let alone any ability to be a real friend. They depend on alcohol, drugs, and sex and find them the only means of having fun. Therefor I'm stuck as a seveteen year old with literally no one to talk to except the customers at my work place. Throughout each day at school, I sit at four different desks and speak a series of "yes ma'am, no ma'am" and "yes sir, no sir".
    For what I work for, and how I carry myself, I don't think I deserve to tolerate this social and educational deprevation. I have my whole future mapped out, and allowing me to move back to my old city in Florida would make everything meaningful and contributive towards my plans. Not only that, but I wouldn't have to tolerate my father's lazy influence and belief that his current drug abuse and womanizing, as he has stated in a very authorative manner, is how to be a "man". At the age of seveteen, I take little more illegal action than falsifying "proof of Florida residency" in a school registration form in order for this all to happen (according to personal research). I will be provided with housing and food by my friends mother of which my father is close friends to, and she is more than financially capable of taking me in. So the question is: if my father is unwilling to let me persue this idea, what's going to be there for me when I pack up, leave, and find a way to register for school on my own? If he won't comply, I see myself leaving within a week of his denial.

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    Re: Running to where we moved away from

    Hello,

    Thanks for sharing your unique story with us. Sounds like you know exactly what you want and need out of your education and social life. It's unfortunate that the lack of support from your father and his situation with drugs and alcohol is keeping you from a comfortable/appropriate education. Whose support do you have concerning this issue? Is there someone other than your dad's friend in FL that has been able to give you some sort of guidance?

    Seems like you have have the right to go to school and enroll yourself in any state you'd like to but the main thing that would be against you is your age. As far as we know, the legal age of adulthood in both GA and FL is 18 so if you leave without your dad's permission, he can list you as a runaway (with the local police) and the people you are staying with can get into legal trouble because you are underage.

    So essentially you are doing the right thing by asking your father if he'd let you continue your schooling and live with a friend of his. How likely is it that he'd let you go back there?

    Here are some legal resources that might be able to point in the right direction if the plan fails with your father:

    Justice for Children
    1800.733.0059

    State Coordinator for Youth Education
    FL-(850) 245-0668
    GA-(404) 656-4148

    They might be able to offer some insight on what other options are available for you. If you are able and willing and would like to talk about this in further detail, please call us 24hrs at 1800RUNAWAY. Thank you again for sharing your story. Best of luck.

    -NRS
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      Re: Running to where we moved away from

      Back again, my twenty three-year old sister now lives in proximity to my old city. My father might allow me to move in with her. What legalities would be permitted to me if I was to move in with a sibling like this? She is married, has beared a child, and is perfectly able and fit to take me in. I will have employment and transportation. So, setting aside a possible emancipation, would the school allow me to transfer into their system in Florida while I'm living with my adult sibling?

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      • #4
        Re: Running to where we moved away from

        Hello,

        Thank you for reaching out to us again at the National Runaway Switchboard. Indeed, you are resourceful in that you are able to connect with the right people to get your life back on track. If your father is willing to set up the opportunity for you to live with your sister then it sounds like you are going to have a way to get into school and continue your education. Once, he offers you permission to live with her, it is a matter of your father and sister working out a plan with your local school district to get you all set up again. Since you have a right to an education and provides an address for where you are going to stay, it is not likely that you are going to be face with much barriers with gaining equal access to your education.

        We are not sure how it works in terms of legal issues in your state, so it is best that you contact your local school district representatives or other legal services in your area to get a better understanding of the legalities surrounding your sister and her contributions to your education. The only thing that we can say for sure is that it is best to have your father and sister work out the fine details with you first and then proceed to investigate ways that would enable you to live in the state in order to obtain residency again. You do sound like a rational person and someone who cares a great deal about structure and working for the betterment of your life. We have no doubt that you are going to do what is right by you and if you have any other question you are welcome to reach us at 1800RUNAWAY. We are able to look up any sort of information for you at that time or if you were to give us a specific location. Good luck.
        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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        1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

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