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    I am currently 17 turning 18 in August. I want to reach out for help but I am pretty sure they'll say something along the lines of I can wait. The situation is that my mom is now getting married to someone I barely know which I don't care because she is an adult and can make her own choices. Things completely went south. I was forced to go to trip to Puerto Rico, I verbally expressed my discomfort about going along with my 21yr old sister. They told my sister she can stay but she can't stay in the house even if her name is on the lease. I however had no say and my feelings were completely disregarded. They guilt tripped me about his grandpa dying soon and that my moms dad can die any day. They also their marriage ceremony. I didn't want to go because everyone speaks Spanish no English at all except for them two, they are all older than me. I had work and school, mind you I missed a mid term test along with an ap practice exam. I went and barely spoke to my mom or geo, my mom didn't even translate. The only time she spoke to me was to basically argue with me. she tried to take my headphones, she took my snacks and she tried to take my phone that I paid for. She accused me of talking at night and staying up. It was horrible, I came to find out at the end of the trip that we didn't even get to see her dad nor was there a marriage ceremony. I was lied to. My mom complained to her now husband that we don't respect and apparently it's been like that for years. There's honestly so much going on. Everytime I try to express my feelings and point of views they say I am being disrespectful or the classic I am a child and shes the mom but that doesn't give her the right to treat me like trash. she's fed me expired food and when confronted "oh" is what was said. They treat me like I am 10, they now cut off the wifi because they believe that I dont sleep enough when I do, I sleep too much actually and my mom knows this but chooses to believe that I don't. She now forbids me from seeing my aunt and my cousins. She forces me to take a lyft. She has taken my phone that I paid for with my hard earned money. I just can't anymore. I have been thinking about suicide but I won't because it's dumb but I just do. Years I've told my mom I need help and she's ignored me or agrees to help me but never does. I can't even contact my mom and get a response within 10 minutes. She doesn't let us know where she is because she is an "adult". She's contacted my school and told them that I am basically a bad kid even going as far as showing messages I sent my mom that she didn't even reply to. I am starting to emotionally detach from everything. With some of these things, would I be able to leave home without her consent? the age of consent is 18 but I have a few months left but I don't know if I can take it anymore. I have to get away now or I will lose myself here. If someone lets me stay at their house would it be okay? I honestly don't know who to contact for help because of me being 17 almost 18. I would get emancipated but by the time I do i'd be 18 already. what do I do?

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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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