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    im 15 and i live in ohio with my mom but she is abusive mentally and Physically and in the last couple of years ive been so stressed and scared to go home that it is making it harder to Concentrate in school and my grades are dropping my freinds are worried about me and most said they will help me if i need it but i'm getting a job and i have heard that in some state that if you are 16 or older that the police cannot make you go home. i have a place to go. but i know that if i leave my mom will have the police take me to the juvenile detention but she wont give custody away to the person i can go live with who is like an aunt to me(she is my mom's sister's sister my mom and aunt have different dads and she has the same dad as my aunt). i want to leave as soon as i turn 16 but i don't want to drop out of school because i no i can do good and get a into college. i need help my dad and mom are not together but my dad leaves out of state and i can't leave my friends and school because i know ever one and my teachers, counser, and friends help me and the person who said i could live with them isnt blood related so custody would go to my dad before her i just want to get away from my mom. can u help me asap please.

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    Re: 15 and cant take it anymore

    Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Switchboard. It sounds like your dealing with an extremely difficult situation. I’m sorry to hear that you are having to deal with abuse from you mother, nobody deserves to be abused in any way. How long have you been dealing with this situation? Is there anyone that you have talked to about what is going on? Has the abuse ever been reported? Have you ever thought about reporting the abuse with CPS? It sounded like you had some reservations about reporting the abuse because you are afraid you would be taken out of state to live with your father. Have you ever discussed this situation with your dad? What does he think about what is going on? I’m glad to hear that you have teachers, counselors, and friends that are supporting you in this. What are some of the things they have suggested? What do you think is the best option for you? If you ever want to give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY we will be here to listen to whatever you want to talk about. We are a completely confidential line and here 24 hrs a day. If you want to talk more in-depth about this situation, or start looking at some possible options we may be able to help. Good luck with everything and give us a call if you need to.
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      Re: 15 and cant take it anymore

      ive been dealing with it for a couple years and no i have never reported it. i have thought about going to a social worker, but i never had. my dad wants me to move outta state and move in with him. but i can't do that.they all think i should try and talk my mom into leting me move in with the lady that is like my aunt but i know she won't. i think that is the best thing for me would be to move in with her but im not sure how to do it since she isn't blood related. do u no if in the state of ohio if the police can make you go home if you are 16?
      if i can't find a way out soon i'm going to runaway and go to a runaway shelter.

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        Re: 15 and cant take it anymore

        Hello,

        Thanks for keeping in contact with us. Sounds like the main thing you want to figure out right now is what are your immediate options. Well, there are a few things you can do, but it depends on where you choose to begin:

        You have the option of going to a shelter and staying there to be safe. All shelters are different but after 24-72 hours, they have to call your legal guardians and let them know where you are. Doesn't sound like something you particularly want to do, but it's something you can do.

        Also, you can file an abuse report with Children's Protective Services (CPS) and let them know your situation. They will take the information you give them about the abuse and send someone out to talk to you and your mother. After that, CPS should do a thorough examination of the home and check to see if it is fit for you to live there. After that, it will be hard to say what will happen but things can turn your way.

        Another agency you can contact is Justice for Children 1800.733.0059. They advocate for children such as yourself, when the legal system has failed and you find yourself without any other options.



        While these things might not be ideal, you are not left without options and there are still things you can do. To answer the last question you posed, as far as we know, the legal age of adulthood in the state of Ohiois 18. You're correct, in some states it's 17 and sometimes even 16, but in the state of Ohio it's 18. If you want to find out for sure, call the non-emergency number in your city and the police department should be able to fill you in on the laws in your county. I don't think they should ask why you're asking, just let them know it's for your own information.

        If you feel like you need to talk abit more and plan out a plan for you to be safe once you decided to do something, call us in at 1800RUNAWAY or keep messaging us here. Best of luck.

        -NRS
        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

        National Runaway Safeline
        [email protected] (Crisis Email)
        1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

        Tell us what you think about your experience!
        https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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