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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out to NRS. From what you mentioned your mom's verbal abuse is making you want to leave, but you have some concerns. Abuse of any kind is never okay and it sounds like you have been trying your best to prioritize your well-being. It is really admirable how resourceful and responsible you have already been.

    In general, if you leave without your mom's permission she can report you as a runaway. This basically means that she could have the police return you home. Although it does not happen often, there is a possibility your mom could press charges against your sister for harboring a runaway. However, in some cases police do not always pursue runaway reports when the individual is close to 18 and staying somewhere safe. The best way to know for sure what would happen is to call your local police department's non-emergency number to ask about their runaway and harboring protocols which can be done anonymously.

    We are here 24/7 to listen and help, so please do not hesitate to reach out by phone or chat anytime.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Hi I’m 16 and will be 17 in april, my mother is very verbally abusive and I don’t know how much longer i’ll last. My sister (she is 20 in November) wants me to move in with her by June , And I’m planning on doing just that. I’ve already got a job to start saving up cash to be able to afford rent and will get a job where she lives before I move in with her. My name will not be on the lease of the apartment we are getting but I am worried... If I leave will my sister suffer any legal consequences? And I haven’t completed high school and was thinking I could enroll to a completely online high school while working. Is there anything I’m missing or should know?

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  • ccsmod3
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    Thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like you are having a tough time. You stated that you wanted some information on trying to retrieve your legal documents. You can request your own documents without your grandmother’s consent. Also when you turn 18, in most states, you are considered an adult and can make your own decisions. To request a copy of a birth certificate in California: https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/w2w/california.htm. Thank you again for reaching out to us, and we hope this information has been helpful. If you’d like to discuss this anymore, please don’t hesitate to call us at the National Runaway Safeline. You can reach us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

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    Guest replied
    Hello I am 17 and my grandmother ia my legal guardian, I want to get a job and a california ID but she wony give it to me and I cant bevome independent witbout my legal information like my Social Security Number, what do I do?

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  • ccsmod2
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    Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are dealing with something very difficult at home with your mother for some time. You have also tried to help your mother after she has hurt you in the past. We also are impressed you started to go to school on your own. It sounds like you have been able to explain your situation to the police to protect yourself. You are strong and have done a lot of growing up in your 17 years!

    It sounds like your main question is about getting your legal documents -- such as your birth certificate -- from your mother. The good news: you can request your own copies with your mother’s help.

    To request a copy of a birth certificate in California: https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/w2w/california.htm

    For info on how to do this for other states: https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/w2w/index.htm

    You are in a tough situation and have been going through a lot. You don’t deserve any of this.

    Thank you again for reaching out to us, and we hope this information has been helpful.. If you’d like to discuss this anymore, please don’t hesitate to call us at the National Runaway Safeline. You can reach us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

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    Guest replied
    hi ... im 17 and my birthday is september 18 next year 2020 and and ill be 18 .... my birth mother has always been on n off drugs well the last time she was on it was when u was 14 and on my 15 she told me i can go have fun and go out n dont worry about coming home on my birthday so i said okay and did what she said but unfortanlaty later at night she came to my bf house n drappged me out by my hair then took me too my aunts house and smashed my head against a brick wall and i reported it cause it was bad ... she just keep gettibg worse and i kept tryibg to help but she wouldn't let me help and then she started to keep me from school ... so then I ran away and started to go to school on my own and then she called the cops n said i was a runaway and this n that but they have my side of my story ... and they have witness and this has been going on my entire childhood ... so I'm about to be 18 soon and wants to know if i can do anything about it causr she eventually got so bad that she gave the rest of her children my siblings to cps and she's living on the streets and it has been 3 years and she does not want to give me any of my papers ( birthcirtificate ... etc..)

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that your parents are not accepting of your boyfriend whom you clearly feel very strongly about. That must be very frustrating and we hear you and are here for you. Because you are a minor, if you ran away your parents could file a runaway report with the police. This would NOT mean that you would get arrested or go to jail as running away is not illegal. It would simply mean that if the police found you, they would notify your guardian and return you home. Additionally, if you were staying with someone, your parents might have the option to press charges against that person for harboring a runaway depending on what state you are in. While we are not legal experts, this is typically considered a misdemeanor offense. If you have any other questions or anything else you would like to talk about, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    i love a guy so much but my parents doesn't want me to be together with him but i love him so much like i cant live without him and he is 19 i am turning 17 if i go to his house and live with him and if my parents ca;ll the police and tell them that i runway what the police gonna do with me is they gonna return me back or let me to stay with the guy i love

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  • ccsmod11
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    Hello!

    Thank you for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. We are not legal experts, but according to what we know, you must be 18 in most states to be considered a legal adult. This means that your parents are responsible for you and your whereabouts until then. You would need their permission to move out. If they do not give you permission and they file a police report after you leave, you would then be considered a runaway. If you have any other questions or would like to talk about the situation further you can call us at 1800-786-2929 or message us via our live chat at www.1800runaway.org. We are available 24/7 and are confidential.

    Stay safe!
    National Runaway Safeline

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    Guest replied
    Hi i am 17 will be 18 in 5 months i graduated highschool a year and half early and the date of that was a week before my birthday if i want to move out of state by myself can i or would i be considered a runaway??

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It sounds really hard to live in a home with constant psychological and physical abuse. Your brother’s previous actions were not acceptable nor are your brother’s and mom’s current actions. No one deserves to be treated like that.

    You mentioned that you currently have a CPS report open – it’s good to see that some action is being taken by others to ensure your safety. It might be a good idea to contact your caseworker about the most recent abuses/show them the damage that your brother caused. If you have any marks or bruises (or pictures of past ones) those would also be good to show your caseworker. If you’re not sure who is working on your CPS case you can always contact your local CPS office – you can find out their contact information by going to http://www.cdss.ca.gov/Reporting/Rep...rt-Child-Abuse

    You mentioned that your brother had sexually abused you when you were younger – no one should have to go through that. It must be really aggravating that the investigation into that behavior didn’t provide any results. If you’d like, you can reach out to the Rape Abuse Incest National Network (RAINN) at 800-656-4673 for additional support.

    It’s great to hear that you have support from your church community. It might be beneficial to talk to your church leaders about what’s going on to see if they have any resources that could be of service to you. If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    All the best,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi, I am currently 16 turning 17 in 4 months and My living situation is less than Ideal. I am living with my mother and brother in California and my brother sexually abused me as a kid. They investigated but didn't do anything. He continues to physically and verbally hurt me and recently my mother also verbally assaults me and threatens me with a cable and other objects. Recently I hid from my brother in my bathroom and he broke down the door I have proof of the damage he did to the door and my mom refuses to say it was him. We are being investigated by CPS and my mom has threatened me many times saying that if I say anything It will end really badly for me. I'm terrified of being in my "home" and everytime I go somewhere to try to destress or something they cause problems. I've found help within my church but my mom hates the church. She forbids me from going. And always tries to get the church into trouble. Is there anyway for me to get out of this situation? She always says she wishes I didnt live with her but never signs the forms neccesary for me to move out, Please Help. Sincerely, a girl who's done with everything.

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hi, it seems like you reached out over chat or phone to talk about what was going on. We hope that we were able to provide you with some assistance and we wish you the best of luck going forward. If you would like to talk further about your situation or any other questions/concerns you may have, please don’t hesitate to contact us again on our 24/7 hotline 1-800-786-2929 or on chat at 1800runaway.org.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Im 17 in foster care and i cant stand being there and I talked to these people and they said i can live with them so can i just leave??? I am in foster care and i turn 18 in December?

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  • ccsmod3
    commented on Guest's reply
    We are glad you are reaching out to us because we are here to help. While we aren’t legal experts, contacting us is a good first step in figuring out your options.

    In your message you asked if it would be considered running away if your daughter were to live with you. The answer to that can depend on whether or not the other parent has full custody of your daughter. If that is the case, that can mean that technically the other parent is responsible for her and may be able to file a runaway report. While running away isn’t illegal, it is considered a status offense until the youth is of the age of adulthood. While your daughter might just be returned, the other parent may be able to press charges against you for “harboring a runaway.” The law may be different if there is partial custody, however. If the other parent were to give a form of parental permission, that may be a way around runaway reporting.

    Another option beside parental consent is to contact the non-emergency number for the police’s station nearest to your daughter’s current house to ask if they would take a runaway report. Sometimes the police will not take a runaway report for someone who is close to being 18. You can ask anonymously if they would take a report and pursue a “harboring a runaway” charge for a parent. Based on their answer, you can decide on the course of action that best works for you.

    While we are here to help, we are also here to listen. If you or your daughter wanted to talk about the options we mentioned above, please feel free to call our hotline (1-800-786-2929). We are available 24/7 and are confidential!

    Best of luck!
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