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  • ccsmod3
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    Hey there, and thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you took that step. It sounds like you've had a difficult time lately, and we're sorry to hear that.

    Assuming the age of majority in your state is 18, leaving home before your 18th birthday could pose some risks for you or anyone who allows you to stay with them, including any roommates you have over the age of 18. One way around this is to try and get parental consent before leaving, but if your parents don't agree, there is no way that you can legally prevent them from calling the police--they would be within their rights to file a missing persons report or a runaway report if you leave before you're legally considered an adult.

    If you'd like to chat in more detail about what's going on, or continue to explore some of your options with our support, please feel free to reach out to us directly by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY, or by chatting with us live at www.1800runaway.org.

    Take care.

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Help me!!
    Im 17 and I have many mental health issues along with being the child of a narsissitic parent. I messed up and got into a lot of truble a few months ago and my parents are making my life a living hell. I have a plan to move in to a place a few hours away from where they live and i have roommates enough money to support rent and deposit for a few months till I can start my job in the new city. is there a way that i can legaly prevent them from calling the cops to tale me back. they wont know where I will be but I still dont want my roommates to get in truble or to be taken back to their house. What can I do?

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on with your mom and sister. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering. There are Transitional Living Programs that can provide resources you may find helpful, but you will likely need your mom's permission to be eligible before you turn 18.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    i'm really in a bad spot right now and i cant take living in my apartment anymore. Im currently 17 and will be 18 in around 9 months. I have no job or money (my family isn't well off at all) and my mom isn't that supportive of me having a job and my grades are horrible due to stress and depression so i'm at a loss. i've tried multiple times to get my mom to sign me up for therapy or to try and help me go to the dmv to get my driving permit/license or state ID . basic things i need to start up my life when i leave at 18 (although now its clear that i most likely will be leaving sooner than that). no words can describe how frustrating this is im trapped with my two younger siblings who make my life a living hell and not just in a "haha cmon its just your younger sister cut her some slack" my sister who is 14 is verbally and sometimes physically abusive and uses me whenever she gets the chance, she also makes fun of my disability and my eyesight? its the most obscure things she will point out and antagonize me for. my question is , without having any money is there a program that offers shelter to runaways in the anaheim area that can help set up a job for me??

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are so sorry to hear that your parents are not respecting your boundaries or creating an environment that you are comfortable living in. It makes sense that you want room to grow and that you want to leave.

    While we are not legal experts, we do have a great deal of experience working with runaways. It is not illegal to run away. Your parent/guardian could file a runaway report on you but this would NOT mean that you would get arrested or charged with anything. It typically does mean that the police could return you home if they encountered you and that would be that. Some police can be more understanding about what is going on at your home. In our experience, police will oftentimes return the youth back to their guardian almost no matter what. Police typically do not actively search for a runaway youth. However, they will go where the parent/guardian directs them if they know where you are staying. Additionally, police can sometimes be more lenient about runaway situations the closer you are to 18. You can attempt to calmly, respectfully, and persistently deny them consent to touch you or take you anywhere, and they may give up on trying to return you home. They also may not, in which case you should comply with what they tell you to do for your safety.

    If you want to talk more about what is going on and what your options might be, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I am 17 and 5 months, i live with my parents in California but they are mentally hurting me. And i have talked to them if i can live with my boyfriend because im not happy living with them because i feel controlled to make them happy all the time whether i like it or not. I have told them constantly that im not happy with the way they treat me and i explained to them why before and havent changed. At this point i dont think they will ever change. I have ran away twice before two years back, If i move out will i get my boyfriend or me in trouble with the police? I have applied to jobs to earn my own money to take care of myself. I dont even have privacy in my own room.

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. While we are not legal experts, we do have a great deal of experience working with runaways. It is not illegal to run away. Your parent/guardian could file a runaway report on you but this would NOT mean that you would get arrested or charged with anything. It typically does mean that the police could return you home if they encountered you and that would be that. Police typically do not actively search for a runaway youth. However, they will go where the parent/guardian directs them if they know where you are staying. Additionally, police can sometimes be more lenient about runaway situations the closer you are to 18. You can attempt to calmly, respectfully, and persistently deny them consent to touch you or take you anywhere, and they may give up on trying to return you home. They also may not, in which case you should comply with what they tell you to do for your safety.

    If you have any other questions or want to talk about anything else, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I turn 18 on the first of June. Can I move out/ “run away” 2 months before I turn 18... I live in Sacramento California?

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hello,

    Thanks for taking the time to write us here at NRS. We are not legal experts by any means, but we can speak generally on some of your questions. If you leave home WITHOUT permission from your mom then she can report you as a runaway. This is not illegal but it is a status offense. This means that if your mom knows where you are staying she can have you returned home by the police. However, if your mom gives you permission to leave then you would not be considered a runaway. As long as you are living somewhere safe with your mom's knowledge and consent, there would not be any police intervention. Once you reach the age of majority (18 in most states) you will be considered a legal adult. At this point you have the legal freedom to choose where you live and you do not need your mom's permission.

    We hope this information was helpful. We are here 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible, so do not hesitate to reach out again.

    You can contact us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

    We wish you the best,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Moving out when 17

    I currently live with my grandmother due to the situation at my moms house. I'm 18 in September, I have a job, and a place willing to take me in. My mom gives consent for me to move into this place, a family friends, and my grandma has no legal guardianship over me. Am I allowed to leave?

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  • ccsmod4
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    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway.
    The idea you had about a notarized letter sounds pretty good but you’ll probably need to at least have one of your parent’s to sign it stating you have permission to live independently.
    Another option and maybe not the favorite is to wait until your 18th birthday.

    For more specifics on the law, contacting the local non-emergency police or legal aid numbers may better at answering legal questions.

    If you would like to more about your situation, please contact NRS at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800runaway.org (Live chat).

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Planning to move out at age 17
    Hi, I live in LA and I'm wanting to ask if I can legally move out being 3 months away from turning 18. I am a high school graduate and I am currently applying for jobs. And I also about to go to college in a few weeks too. My mom is on board with me moving out. But my dad hasn't. Are there consequences? I am willing to be independent no matter what I need to do. I be willing to take full responsibilities. Do I need to go to a notary and make a letter and present it to the judge? In if I get emancipated am I allowed to make my own decisions? Before and after. My parents disagree of me that I can't be independent and I need their help. But I feel that I can make it work on my own.
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 01-18-2020, 01:01 AM.

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,

    (You can pass this information along to your friend, and she can always reach out to us directly.)

    You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

    Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

    Be safe,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi i was wondering if you are 17 (18 in 6 months) and have a child of your own can you move out legally with or without parents consent in California? I know a girl trying to move out with her baby and she is not sure how to go about this not being 18 quite yet, I moved out as an unaccompanied minor in another state after getting pregnant and was granted legal adulthood when baby was born, but im not sure if she can do this as well and if so what can i tell her to do to accomplish this? Thank you.

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe,
    NRS
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