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  • Hello I am 17 and my grandmother ia my legal guardian, I want to get a job and a california ID but she wony give it to me and I cant bevome independent witbout my legal information like my Social Security Number, what do I do?

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      Thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like you are having a tough time. You stated that you wanted some information on trying to retrieve your legal documents. You can request your own documents without your grandmother’s consent. Also when you turn 18, in most states, you are considered an adult and can make your own decisions. To request a copy of a birth certificate in California: https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/w2w/california.htm. Thank you again for reaching out to us, and we hope this information has been helpful. If you’d like to discuss this anymore, please don’t hesitate to call us at the National Runaway Safeline. You can reach us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

  • Hi I’m 16 and will be 17 in april, my mother is very verbally abusive and I don’t know how much longer i’ll last. My sister (she is 20 in November) wants me to move in with her by June , And I’m planning on doing just that. I’ve already got a job to start saving up cash to be able to afford rent and will get a job where she lives before I move in with her. My name will not be on the lease of the apartment we are getting but I am worried... If I leave will my sister suffer any legal consequences? And I haven’t completed high school and was thinking I could enroll to a completely online high school while working. Is there anything I’m missing or should know?

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      Hi there,

      Thanks for reaching out to NRS. From what you mentioned your mom's verbal abuse is making you want to leave, but you have some concerns. Abuse of any kind is never okay and it sounds like you have been trying your best to prioritize your well-being. It is really admirable how resourceful and responsible you have already been.

      In general, if you leave without your mom's permission she can report you as a runaway. This basically means that she could have the police return you home. Although it does not happen often, there is a possibility your mom could press charges against your sister for harboring a runaway. However, in some cases police do not always pursue runaway reports when the individual is close to 18 and staying somewhere safe. The best way to know for sure what would happen is to call your local police department's non-emergency number to ask about their runaway and harboring protocols which can be done anonymously.

      We are here 24/7 to listen and help, so please do not hesitate to reach out by phone or chat anytime.

      Be safe,
      NRS

  • I am 17 and I live with my mothers ex boyfriend because she lives in Mexico. He isn’t my biological father or my stepdad just my moms ex boyfriend. Could I technically move out since he did adopt me and there isn’t any legal paperwork that claims him as my legal guardian.

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      Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We would be happy to do our best to answer any questions that you have.

      While we are not legal experts, we do have a great deal of experience working with runaways. It is not illegal to leave home. Your parent/guardian could file a runaway report on you but this would NOT mean that you would get arrested or charged with anything. It typically does mean that the police could return you home if they encountered you and that would be that. Police typically do not actively search for a runaway youth. However, they will go where the parent/guardian directs them if they know where you are staying. Additionally, police can sometimes be more lenient about runaway situations the closer you are to 18. You can attempt to calmly and respectfully deny them consent to touch you or take you anywhere, and they may give up on trying to return you home. They also may not, in which case you should comply with what they tell you to do for your safety.

      Considering your situation and how your mother’s ex-boyfriend is not actually your guardian, there is also a chance that the police may not take a runaway report from him. However, your mom, as your guardian, has the right to determine where you live. So if he has permission from your mom to take care of you, that may be enough for the police to act on a runaway report. That being said, we would be interested in talking to you more specifically about your situation in order to give you some more concrete info. If you want to talk more about what is going on, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

      Take care,
      NRS

  • please help me . This is my second letter. My mom starting to throw things at me now I'm afraid to be in my house officially. My dad didnt stop her either . Please get back to me at [email protected] please !

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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

      Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

      If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best

      We hope to hear from you soon.

      Be safe,
      NRS

  • Hi i was wondering if you are 17 (18 in 6 months) and have a child of your own can you move out legally with or without parents consent in California? I know a girl trying to move out with her baby and she is not sure how to go about this not being 18 quite yet, I moved out as an unaccompanied minor in another state after getting pregnant and was granted legal adulthood when baby was born, but im not sure if she can do this as well and if so what can i tell her to do to accomplish this? Thank you.

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      Hi there,

      (You can pass this information along to your friend, and she can always reach out to us directly.)

      You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

      Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

      Be safe,

      NRS

  • Planning to move out at age 17
    Hi, I live in LA and I'm wanting to ask if I can legally move out being 3 months away from turning 18. I am a high school graduate and I am currently applying for jobs. And I also about to go to college in a few weeks too. My mom is on board with me moving out. But my dad hasn't. Are there consequences? I am willing to be independent no matter what I need to do. I be willing to take full responsibilities. Do I need to go to a notary and make a letter and present it to the judge? In if I get emancipated am I allowed to make my own decisions? Before and after. My parents disagree of me that I can't be independent and I need their help. But I feel that I can make it work on my own.
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 01-18-2020, 01:01 AM.

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    • ccsmod4
      ccsmod4 commented
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      Hello,
      Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

      We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway.
      The idea you had about a notarized letter sounds pretty good but you’ll probably need to at least have one of your parent’s to sign it stating you have permission to live independently.
      Another option and maybe not the favorite is to wait until your 18th birthday.

      For more specifics on the law, contacting the local non-emergency police or legal aid numbers may better at answering legal questions.

      If you would like to more about your situation, please contact NRS at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800runaway.org (Live chat).

      Take care,
      NRS

  • Moving out when 17

    I currently live with my grandmother due to the situation at my moms house. I'm 18 in September, I have a job, and a place willing to take me in. My mom gives consent for me to move into this place, a family friends, and my grandma has no legal guardianship over me. Am I allowed to leave?

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      ccsmod13 commented
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      Hello,

      Thanks for taking the time to write us here at NRS. We are not legal experts by any means, but we can speak generally on some of your questions. If you leave home WITHOUT permission from your mom then she can report you as a runaway. This is not illegal but it is a status offense. This means that if your mom knows where you are staying she can have you returned home by the police. However, if your mom gives you permission to leave then you would not be considered a runaway. As long as you are living somewhere safe with your mom's knowledge and consent, there would not be any police intervention. Once you reach the age of majority (18 in most states) you will be considered a legal adult. At this point you have the legal freedom to choose where you live and you do not need your mom's permission.

      We hope this information was helpful. We are here 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible, so do not hesitate to reach out again.

      You can contact us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

      We wish you the best,
      NRS

  • I turn 18 on the first of June. Can I move out/ “run away” 2 months before I turn 18... I live in Sacramento California?

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    • ccsmod6
      ccsmod6 commented
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      Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. While we are not legal experts, we do have a great deal of experience working with runaways. It is not illegal to run away. Your parent/guardian could file a runaway report on you but this would NOT mean that you would get arrested or charged with anything. It typically does mean that the police could return you home if they encountered you and that would be that. Police typically do not actively search for a runaway youth. However, they will go where the parent/guardian directs them if they know where you are staying. Additionally, police can sometimes be more lenient about runaway situations the closer you are to 18. You can attempt to calmly, respectfully, and persistently deny them consent to touch you or take you anywhere, and they may give up on trying to return you home. They also may not, in which case you should comply with what they tell you to do for your safety.

      If you have any other questions or want to talk about anything else, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

      Take care,
      NRS

  • I am 17 and 5 months, i live with my parents in California but they are mentally hurting me. And i have talked to them if i can live with my boyfriend because im not happy living with them because i feel controlled to make them happy all the time whether i like it or not. I have told them constantly that im not happy with the way they treat me and i explained to them why before and havent changed. At this point i dont think they will ever change. I have ran away twice before two years back, If i move out will i get my boyfriend or me in trouble with the police? I have applied to jobs to earn my own money to take care of myself. I dont even have privacy in my own room.

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      ccsmod6 commented
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      Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are so sorry to hear that your parents are not respecting your boundaries or creating an environment that you are comfortable living in. It makes sense that you want room to grow and that you want to leave.

      While we are not legal experts, we do have a great deal of experience working with runaways. It is not illegal to run away. Your parent/guardian could file a runaway report on you but this would NOT mean that you would get arrested or charged with anything. It typically does mean that the police could return you home if they encountered you and that would be that. Some police can be more understanding about what is going on at your home. In our experience, police will oftentimes return the youth back to their guardian almost no matter what. Police typically do not actively search for a runaway youth. However, they will go where the parent/guardian directs them if they know where you are staying. Additionally, police can sometimes be more lenient about runaway situations the closer you are to 18. You can attempt to calmly, respectfully, and persistently deny them consent to touch you or take you anywhere, and they may give up on trying to return you home. They also may not, in which case you should comply with what they tell you to do for your safety.

      If you want to talk more about what is going on and what your options might be, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

      Take care,
      NRS

  • i'm really in a bad spot right now and i cant take living in my apartment anymore. Im currently 17 and will be 18 in around 9 months. I have no job or money (my family isn't well off at all) and my mom isn't that supportive of me having a job and my grades are horrible due to stress and depression so i'm at a loss. i've tried multiple times to get my mom to sign me up for therapy or to try and help me go to the dmv to get my driving permit/license or state ID . basic things i need to start up my life when i leave at 18 (although now its clear that i most likely will be leaving sooner than that). no words can describe how frustrating this is im trapped with my two younger siblings who make my life a living hell and not just in a "haha cmon its just your younger sister cut her some slack" my sister who is 14 is verbally and sometimes physically abusive and uses me whenever she gets the chance, she also makes fun of my disability and my eyesight? its the most obscure things she will point out and antagonize me for. my question is , without having any money is there a program that offers shelter to runaways in the anaheim area that can help set up a job for me??

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    • ccsmod0
      ccsmod0 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on with your mom and sister. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
      The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering. There are Transitional Living Programs that can provide resources you may find helpful, but you will likely need your mom's permission to be eligible before you turn 18.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS
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