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  • #91
    im 17 and i was wondering if my dad hits me and i move out will i be taken back if they file me as a run away?

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    • ccsmod10
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      Hi there,
      Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It’s great that you were able to find out some information about our hotline. Hopefully we can help.

      You don’t deserve to be abused in any way. You’re always able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options as far as transferring custody. We also have legal aid resources in our database. While we’re not law experts, we can try to find one in your area, there may be legal ways for you to be able to move away from your family. We’re here to try to brainstorm options with you.

      If you feel like getting out of the house is the best option and you decide to run away, we can explain what usually happens. We’re not legal experts, but from our general knowledge, running away is not illegal. If you runaway, your dad can make a runaway report. The police don't always actively look for you, if they come across you, then they usually bring you home. If you explain to them that home isn't a safe place to be, they don't always return you right away. They're supposed to investigate it first. If you need somewhere to stay, we can also look for runaway shelters in your area as well.

      We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. You are always welcome to call into our 24/7 crisis center, or use our chatting services via our website.

      Be safe, NRS

  • #92
    So i am 17 years old turning 18 in 6 months. Ive been dealing with my parents being on me for the longest and im tired of it and my older brother is letting me stay at his house. i have a job and will be finishing highschool. Is it possible to move out without my parents permission?

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    • ccsmod3
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      Hi, thank you so much for reaching out. It sounds like you are under a lot of stress at home. It is ok to feel frustrated and want to leave, but there could be consequences.

      We aren't legal experts, but generally if you leave without your parents' permission, they would have the right to file a run away report since you are still a minor. But since you are so close to turning 18 the police may not even take the report. The best way to know would be to contact your local police department's non-emergency line. They would be able to answer the question of whether they would take a report for someone so close to turning 18.

      Thank you again for reaching out and feel free to do so again at any time. We are available 24/7 at 1800RUNAWAY.

  • #93
    Okay so Im 17 I'll be 18 in 6 months. I live with my grandmother but she is not my legal guardian. My legal guardian lives in Oklahoma. Am I able to move out without being considered a runaway?

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    • ccsmod9
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      Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS we know it can difficult to seek out help and try to find options before making any kind of decision. Our hope is to help in any capacity we can to help you solve the situation you find yourself in.
      So from hearing your story, since you are 17 you are still considered a minor and technically your guardian can file you in a runaway report. If the police were to find you they would take you back home to them. However because you are 17 and are only 6 months away from being 18 some police might not file a report since you are so close to age of majority. Again we are not legal experts so we can only share what we know. To conclude the probability of you being in any type of big trouble is minimal.
      Again we know that it took bravery to reach out and seek help. Know that we are here 24/7 and we are confidential so if you have any more questions or concerns you want to run by us feel free to call us at (1-800-786-2929) or online at (www.1800runaway.org) using our chat option.

  • #94
    I’m 17 and my parents want to move far from my girlfriend we been together for a long time and she struggles with anxiety and I have a job and a car and I have a bunch or
    f money saved up my parents won’t let me move out they say my little siblings will miss me or that I won’t succeed I’m in high school and my girlfriend said I can move in but idk what to do my parents won’t let me go

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    • ccsmod6
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      Hello –

      Thank you for contacting us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We understand that it takes great courage to reach out. I’m sorry to hear that your parents are putting you in a position to choose between your family and your girlfriend, that sounds like a very difficult situation to be in.

      We are non-directive and will never tell you what to do but there are a couple bits of information to help inform you. Running away is not illegal but since you are a minor, your guardians have the right to file a runaway report. With a runaway report, if the police find you they would return you home unless you express to them that you live in an unsafe environment. If you left home and decided to stay with your girlfriend, her family could get in trouble for harboring a runaway. However, due to the McKinney Vento Act you also have the right to go to school regardless of your living situation.

      To learn more about the process of running away or if you have any additional questions, please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat.

      We hope the information provided helps. Remember we are available 24/7 and can be toll-free reached at the number listed above. We are confidential, anonymous, and non-direct.

      Best Wishes
      ~NRS

  • #95
    Hi I’m 17 years old and I’m 3 months away from turning 18, I’ve been looking forward into moving out for some time. I have the financial means to support myself. I have a job and I work 45 hours every 2 weeks and I’ve already started making plans on how much I’d be spending on a one bedroom, and so far I have enough for myself...my question is... is it true that my mom can send the police after me ?

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    • ccsmod5
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      Hello,
      It sounds like you’re doing a great job working and planning for your independence. It’s also great that you decided to reach out to us for more information to help you make a more informed choice about what to do next. We’re not legal experts, but generally, while it’s not illegal to run away, a parent can file a runaway report for a minor with the police. In most, but not all states, this applies to anyone under 18. Depending on the state you’re in, this means that if the police come in contact with you or locate you, they will return you home if you’re considered a minor.
      If you’d like to talk more about your options, please give us a call 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY or send us a chat. We’re confidential and anonymous and would look forward to hearing from you.
      Wishing you the best of luck.
      -National Runaway Safeline
      1-800-RUNAWAY

  • #96
    Hi. Im asking this question for a friend. He just moved to California and his nothing has become emotionally and mentally abusive and they dint have food at the house. He is 16 will be 17 in a couple months.. If he ran and lived with his auntand his mother called the cops and claimed him as a run away what would happen?

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    • ccsmod9
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that your friend is faced with right now and you’re wanting to find a way to help them as they mentioned wanting to run away. It’s great that your friend has support and concern from you especially since this time is quite difficult for them.
      Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. We are here as support to help you and your friend through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      We’re here to listen and to help and hope you or your friend can reach out soon.
      Take care,
      NRS

  • #97
    Moving out at 17

    I will be 18 in 4 months and I want to move out from mom. She has physical custody of me and I want to live with my dad. I have shaky relationship with her and I'm not doing so well in school. What do I do? Im miserable!
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 11-30-2018, 04:00 AM.

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    • #98
      Reply: I will be 18 in 4 months

      Hello,
      Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

      We appreciate you taking the time to tell us about what’s going on.
      So it sounds like you are going to be 18 in four months but the relationship condition at home with your mom has you thinking about leaving sooner.
      Tough spot. One thing to consider is what your dad might have to say about you moving out sooner and what if any consequences you might face by doing so.
      You are right with thinking it through. Weighing the options is a good idea.
      We want you to know that we are here as support. Here to listen and here to help.
      We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      We hope to hear from you soon.

      Take care,
      NRS

      We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: Your Opinion Matters to Us

      Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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      • #99
        I’m 17 and going to be 18 in two months. Want to leave for a much needed break from my house. Just wanted to know if my parents could do anything considering I’m so close to being 18. I’ve talked to my mom about leaving but she’s told me she’d report me as missing. I have a place to go but was wondering what my parents could even do to force me back in their home? To give a quick explanation why I want a break is because my father is an alcoholic and can be emotionally abusive.

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        • ccsmod11
          ccsmod11 commented
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          Hi, and thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. Living with an alcoholic, emotionally abusive dad sounds beyond difficult - no one deserves to be harmed via any kind of abuse or by living in the type of environment you describe.

          It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway. In some states, 17 is considered a grey area and police may or may not take the runaway report. If the runaway report is filed, and you are stopped by or found by the police, you would be returned home (or told to go home). Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

          We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). Best, NRS
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