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    Hey there,

    You don't have to go through this alone. If you are trying not to cut tonight, you can always reach out to us for someone to talk to. We encourage you to call or chat with us for immediate assistance. Let us know if we can help.

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    • Hey my name's Cathy and I'm 17. I turn 18 in 4 months but I was wondering if in the state of Texas if I would be able to move out. I've already asked my Guardian if I could move out but the answer was no. My parents passed away and I have lived with my uncle; he has been my legal guardian since I was three. Does me having him as my guardian and not my biological parent let me decide now that I'm 17 who I can live with? I will still be attending school when I move out because I only have one year left and I'd be with a family that can support me financially but I won't be on my own. Can i leave without my uncle reporting me? Them know I'm safe because I will leave a note letting them know. But I won't tell him in person because I'm afraid of what he might do because last time he got real angry and almost hit me. Please help thank you.

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      • ccsmod0
        ccsmod0 commented
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        Hey there,
        We found this reply to another posting that we thought could be of some use. If you have any further questions please feel free to give us a call.
        Originally posted by ccsmod14 View Post
        Re: Leaving at 17

        Hi there,

        Thank you for contacting us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like things have been pretty tough lately and we are glad that you reached out, we’re here to help the best that we can.

        So you shared that you have been experiencing emotional and sometimes physical abuse. You do not deserve to be abused by anybody, in any way. You deserve to feel safe in your own home. You have the right to make an abuse report. If this is something that you would like to do, or just talk more about, you can call us here at 1800runaway and we can either assist you in making a report, or just explore what that would look like. Another organization that can be helpful in this is Child Help USA at (800) 422 4453.

        We’re not legal experts here, but generally speaking if you leave without permission from your legal guardians, they have the right to make a runaway report. If a report is made, and the police find you, they just bring you back home. However, anyone that you stay with could potentially be charged for harboring. It sounds like your boyfriend and his family offer you a lot of support which is good, this could just be a potential risk. To find out more information on legalities, you can call your local police department and ask hypothetically what may happen. In some cases, 17 can be a bit of a gray area as far as how the police would proceed.

        Please do not hesitate to reach out to us again, we’re here to help. You can call us any time, we’re here 24/7 or chat us during the evening hours.

        Good luck and stay safe,
        NRS

    • I live with my grandma because my mom kicked me out and no one knows where my dad is. She's really verbally abusive, sometimes physically. She just punched a cake I was holding in my lap and it really opened my eyes. I need to get out of here but I'm
      scared shell call the police. What rights do I have?

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      • ccsmod6
        ccsmod6 commented
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        Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’ve been going through such a hard time, but we want you to know that we are here with you to support you. We want you to know that no one deserves to be abused, and you should not have to go through that.

        If you haven’t already, you could consider reporting the abuse you’ve been experiencing. If you’d like more information about abuse reporting, you could call Child Help at 1-800-422-4453. You could also call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) and we could help you file a report if you’re interested in that. If you feel unsafe at any time, you can also call 911 for immediate help.

        If you haven’t already, you could also consider reaching out to a trusted adult, teacher, or school counselor for help. Just so you’re aware, adults at your school are mandated reporters. That means that if they think there is abuse in your home, they would legally have to make an abuse report.

        We’re not legal experts here at NRS, but generally it is not illegal to leave home or runaway. However, your mom could file a runaway report, the police could get involved and bring you home, and the people you’re staying with could get in legal trouble. If you have other questions related to laws or your rights, we also have legal aid resources where you could call and ask a lawyer questions.

        There are many resources that could help you work through things with your mom, find a safe place if you’re in need of that, or help with anything else you may need. If you would like more information about resources, or if you’d like to talk more about what’s been going on, you can call us or chat with us online.

        Again, thank you for contacting us. You’ve been going through a hard time, but you’ve shown strength by enduring this and reaching out for help. If you ever need anything in the future please feel free to call us or chat with us online. We’re always here to listen and here to help.

    • I'm 16 turning 17 in November and I need to get out of my house, my parents are divorcing and they are emotionally abusive and I can't live with either. I plan on moving out when I turn 17 because I know it's legal but am I allowed to go out of state? I have family willing to take me in. I just need to know it is legal so I can do it, because I need to.

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      • ccsmod15
        ccsmod15 commented
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        Thank you for reaching out to us here at NRS. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time at home and thinking about leaving. We are sorry to hear that your parents are emotionally abusive. You don't deserve to be treated that way. If you feel comfortable, we are available here at NRS 24/7 to listen and talk with you to help figure out options that may be available to you. Regarding your question about whether or not it is legal to move out when you turn 17, we are not legal experts, but can provide some general knowledge on the topic. Generally speaking, the age of majority (when you can legally move out) in most states is 18. Running away is considered a status offense, meaning it is not a crime, but if the police locate you, they will return you home. Depending on where you live, some police departments may not take a runaway reports for youth who are close to turning 18. You can call your local police department during non-emergency hours and ask them how they handle runaway reports for 17 year olds. Thank you again for reaching out. If you would like to talk more about what you are going through, you can call us anytime at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us during our chat hours. Best of luck!

    • My boyfriend wants to move in and he'll be 17 soon.. his dad is very controlling and I don't think he'll allow him to leave. Is it okay if he leave without consent in Texas? Live in gun barrel city

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      • ccsmod1
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        Thanks for reaching out to us for help and support. It sounds like you really care about your boyfriend and want him to be safe. We are not legal experts, but we can provide some general information. **The age of majority in Texas, and the legal age to move out without parental consent, is 18. If he leaves before he turns 18, his dad could call the cops and have him brought back home. You or your family could get into legal trouble for harboring a runaway if he is living with you while reported as a runaway and if his dad presses charges. **We have sometimes heard that police in TX may not take runaway reports for 17 year olds or force them to go home, however this is not the same as it being legal for your boyfriend to move out. Also, this can vary based on location and it isn't consistent across the whole state of Texas. **If you want to know how the police in Gun Barrel City would handle his case in particular, you could call the non-emergency police number to ask. This should give you a better idea of what he would face if he were to come live with you, and whether you or your family could face criminal charges for taking him in. You can always give us a call if you have questions or need to talk through your situation. We are here 24/7 to take your call, and you can also chat with us online. We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.

    • I'm 17 and I'll be 18 in 6 months. If I get a job and leave home will the police force me to go back home? I live with my mother and the environment between us is very toxic. She constantly stresses me out and yells at me for no reason sometimes. I really want to leave and get out on my own because she only brings me down. Please let me know if I can leave home already.

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      • ccsmod15
        ccsmod15 commented
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        Thank you for reaching out. We are sorry to hear that things are so toxic between you and your mom. That has to be a stressful environment to live in.
        While we cannot give out legal advice, we can tell you that it depends on the police department in your area. Running away is referred to as a status offence, not a crime in most states, but the police may bring you home if your mom files a runaway report.
        We are available 24 hours a day if you would like to talk or chat more about your situation and explore options. It is a good idea to have a plan and think about where you will live and how you will support yourself if you decide to leave home.

    • I live in texas and I'm about to turn 17 and I wanna live with my boyfreind can they do anything about it in the state of Texas?

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      • Hi I'm 17 with my 2 week old daughter in Texas and was wondering if I'd be considered a run away if I left home now? My mom tries to keep me and the baby from the father who I've been with for a year and wants to be an active part of this baby's life.

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        • Reply:I live in texas and I'm about to turn 17

          Hello,
          Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

          While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission.
          A person under 18 that leaves home could find themselves reported as a runaway by a parent/guardian. This action could lead to the minor being returned home if found by police.
          Also, those they stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
          Does that make sense?

          NRS is here to listen and here to help.
          If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
          Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

          We hope to hear from you soon.

          Take Care,
          NRS
          Last edited by ccsmod4; 06-10-2017, 03:29 AM.
          Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

          National Runaway Safeline
          info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
          1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)
          Tell us what you think about your experience!
          https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

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          • Reply:


            Hello,
            Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

            We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
            It sounds like you are trying to have your baby’s father as a part of her life but you are having a problem with your mother agreeing to it. That’s too bad.
            It would be great if somehow she could see her way clear about things.

            Getting back to your question, while we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission.
            A person under 18 that leaves home could find themselves reported as a runaway by a parent/guardian. This action could lead to the minor being returned home if found by police.
            Also, those they stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
            We hope that make’s sense.

            If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
            Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

            We hope to hear from you soon.

            Take Care,
            NRS

            Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

            National Runaway Safeline
            info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
            1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)
            Tell us what you think about your experience!
            https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

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            • I'm 16 now, but I turn 17 in October 2017. I want to run away a few months after my birthday to live with my boyfriend. I'm still uncertain about it, but for the most part I want to do it. I want to leave because I'm tired of my parents controlling me so much, and my mom is becoming hostile towards me again. I get yelled at and slapped for small things by her. It's mainly her that is also making me want to leave. I feel restricted from a lot of things. I'm not allowed to go out with friends (especially guy friends), get a job, express myself, and date. The things holding me back though are my dad and the fact that if I get caught I'll just get beaten by my mom. I've been beaten by her before, and several of my friends have asked me why I don't call CPS. Well, I won't call them because my mom has worked for them before and there is no proof of her hitting me and we also live in a nice house. So if CPS comes, they'll think I'm just being a spoiled kid and my mom can easily lie to them. My plan, for running away, is to stay in this city with my boyfriend and finish my last 2 years of highschool (while also staying hidden from my parents somehow), move to one of the 2 other cities we have in mind, and from there I'll be working before moving to California with him once I'm done with school. I'm excited for it, but also REALLY nervous and scared. I've already told him I'd do it, but a part of me still hesitates. I'm so confused. He says that he'll be here for me no matter what and keep me safe and hidden from them for as long as possible. I trust him, but I don't know if I can really do this. My parents aren't bad, really. They're great, but I can't keep doing this anymore. I'm so stuck, and I can't deal with my mom anymore. I love them to death, but being too strict has backfired on them. I'm done.

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              • ccsmod16
                ccsmod16 commented
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                We are so glad that you felt able to reach out to us here at NRS. It takes courage to write down what you are going through and share it with people you don’t know. Thank you for sharing your situation. It is totally understandable that you feel overwhelmed and trapped in this situation and that you are trying to think of ways to get out of the house. You don’t deserve to be physically or psychologically abused, beaten, slapped or violated by your mother or anyone else.
                If you do decide to try to file a report with CPS, you can tell them exactly what you are telling us. You can explain to the CPS phoneworker that your mother worked for them, and that because of this you are afraid no-one will believe you. People at CPS know that many difficult things happen in families and that no family is perfect, even despite where the parents work or what they do. Another thing you can do is write down the dates and details of when you experience abuse; having a specific record can help when speaking up. Take photos if you are physically hurt. Having a staff member of a school or a parent of a friend call with you or for you may also help you in this process of being heard. Trying to stay in the same city and keeping enrollment at your school may be difficult to do if you have not filed with CPS or talked to other adults. You may want to consider what adults you feel you can trust with this information. Adults have had the chance to meet more people and learn about families, so it may be easier for some of them to believe you than it feels right now.
                Another thing to think about is that trying to live with your boyfriend and being hidden by him puts a lot of pressure on your relationship. Sometimes when a person is very isolated in their romantic relationship, they are more vulnerable to being controlled or experiencing relationship abuse. If you grow up in an abusive home, it can be harder to spot an abusive or controlling partner. We can talk about all of this with you if you are able to call us or chat with us online on our website when the chat is open and running.
                Again, we’re really glad that you reached out to us. It takes a lot to ask for help and you are trying to figure out your options, which his really good to see. If you would like to talk further about your situation, please do not hesitate to call or chat with us. We’re here to listen, here to help.

            • If u leave at 17 when I'm off probation for runaway before and I don't tell her where I'm at until I get to where I'm at and just up and leave can I get in trouble ? If I'm in a safe environment ?

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              • ccsmod0
                ccsmod0 commented
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                Hello,
                Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. It sounds like you are questioning what would happen if you runway once you have completed probation. Leaving home without parental consent (running away) is not a crime, so the police will not arrest you. If you do leave home without permission your guardian does have the right to file a runaway report. Running away is not a crime it is a status offence (something that only a minor can get in trouble for: truancy, buying cigarettes, etc.) this means that if you have any interaction with the police they will simply return you home. On the other hand the people that you are found to be staying with could face legal consequences that vary depending on your state. You can find out more about how runaway’s reports are carried out by contacting your local police department. If you would like we could contact your local non-emergency number for you or with you. Just give us a call and one of our trained liners would be happy to assist you.
                Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
                If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
                We hope to hear from you soon.
                Be safe,
                NRS

            • I'm 16 turning 17 next month . I stay with my mom and stepdad but my stepdad verbally and emotionally abuses me . I've gone to the mental hospital because​ of him two times already but after that, we don't go to counseling or anything . He gives me suicidal thoughts and I can't deal with him anymore he says the laws are on his side he always has me grounded and puts my mistakes as a way to tell everyone I'm a really bad person . He doesn't respect me or anything . My mom depends on him financially so she picks him over me . So I'm tired of being with them so I'm running away . Can I be empancipated in Texas even though I have no job or a place to stay right now ?

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              • ccsmod15
                ccsmod15 commented
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                Hi,
                Thank you so much for reaching out to us. It takes a lot of courage. The situation with your step-dad sounds very upsetting and no one deserves to be treated that way.
                You told us your step-dad was giving you suicidal thoughts. If you are thinking of harming yourself you can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. Their number is 1-800-273-8255. You could also call us, or if you would rather talk to someone in person, a school counselor is a great person to talk to.
                You mentioned that you are running away. We are not legal experts, but running away is a status offense and is handled differently from state to state and even county to county. You can call your local police station to see how they handle this. Additionally, the person you choose to stay with if you run away could be charged with harboring a runaway.
                If you are still thinking of leaving home, it is a good idea to think of a plan. This includes where you will go, how you will get there, and who you will stay with. You can call us at 1-800-786-2929 if you want to go through or make a plan with us. We want to make sure that whatever you choose to do is done as safely as possible.
                You also talked about becoming emancipated. We are not legal experts but emancipation can usually be a very difficult process because the minor must show the state they can provide financially for themselves and have their own place to live. If this doesn’t apply to you, you can call us and we can explore further options with you. If you have more questions about emancipation and would like to talk to a legal expert, you can call 214-744-5277; this is the number for Legal Services of North Texas.
                Thank you again for emailing us. It was a very brave thing to do. It sounds like the situation at home is very difficult, but you are very strong with how you’re handling it. Please don’t hesitate to reach out to us if you have any more questions.
                Sincerely,
                NRS

            • Hello so I'm 17 I have a 2 year old son, i live with my mom and things are not going so good she treats me bad calls me Hurtful names,etc...she hates my boyfriend because of his race so she treats him bad as well. My boyfriends mom said I could move in but I don't her to get in trouble because of me like my mother calling the cops on her or calling the cops saying I'm a run away. Could I move out with out her consent.

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              • Reply: Hello so I'm 17 I have a 2 year old son


                Hello,
                Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.
                It sounds like things are not going well at home right now and you are thinking about moving out with your child. We understand that sometimes things become frustrating.It can be tough being a young mom it can be helpful to feel the support from others.

                In most states 18 years old is the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. A person under the age of 18 leaving home without permission, a parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city.

                Generally speaking, a minor that encounters a police officer while reported as a runaway, may likely be detained until they can be returned home. You are right to consider that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows a runaway to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway.
                A good way to find out the laws in your area is to call the non-emergency number of your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth. For ex. Can you leave home at 17 without parental consent?

                NRS is here to listen and here to help.
                If you would like to speak more about your situation please reach out soon to NRS.
                To contact NRS call 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or live chat with us at www.1800Runaway.org

                Take care,
                NRS
                Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

                National Runaway Safeline
                info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
                1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)
                Tell us what you think about your experience!
                https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

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