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  • RE: Can i leave my house?

    Hello,
    Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline forum.
    We’re sorry to hear about the constant fighting at home with mom. It sounds like she’s violated your privacy by looking through your phone and coupled with all the school troubles it sounds like things are overwhelming right now.
    We’re really glad to hear that your great grandmother is a source of support for you in this difficult time. Do you think you could ask her to help talk to your mom to convince mom to let you stay with her? Unfortunately we’re not legal experts here. Typically you’d need to have the permission of your legal guardian to live anywhere else but your home until you’re legally an adult (usually 1.
    If you’d like, you could try calling in here at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) and we’d be happy to have a conference call with you and your mother. We’d be able to help make sure your voice is heard and try to work out an alternative living situation or figure out a compromise between you and mom. It’s up to you, but our services are confidential and we’re available 24/7. If you’d just rather vent to someone who will listen, we’re here for that too.
    Thanks again for posting. It takes a lot of courage to ask for help. We’re hoping for the best for you.
    Take care,
    NRS
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    • RE: Can i leave my house?

      Hello,
      If you have contacted NRS today through another means (for example, live chat, email or bulletin) for the same issue, it would be helpful to let us know that you have already contacted us. NRS understands it takes courage to reach out for help; therefore, we would like to minimize the need for you to repeat your situation and avoid offering you duplicate services.
      Best of luck,
      NRS
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      • im 16 rn n ive ran away before but i was caught. im back at my moms n still nothings changed. same neglect, same depression. im from San Antonio tx n ive heard that when im 17 i can leave without parents consent. is is tru

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          Hey there,

          18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case. Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. However, in that case there may be services (family counseling, etc.) available to you as a youth in crisis/runaway but again, police procedures related to offering those services can be different based on your location or the details of your situation. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. One way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth.

          NRS
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          • I want to run away and live on my own. I'm 17

            So I'm 17 and I life at my house ain't working. I have a descent enough money manage myself and not have to rely on anyone else. I live in New Mexico so is there any law that says I can't

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            • Re: Leaving home at 17 in Texas

              Hi there,
              Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. It sounds like you are going through a tough situation. Sometimes living situations can get a little messy. Just as a disclaimer we are not legal experts, each state does things a little differently and sometimes even each county. With that said the legal age of adulthood in New Mexico is 18, what this means is in a general legal term you are not legally allowed to leave your legal guardians home unless given special permission. For the most accurate legal information it might help to call your local police department’s non-emergency line and ask them very general questions about how they might handle this kind of situation. If you did not feel like giving any personal information you could ask hypothetically.
              We hope this answers your question a little and would be more than happy to answer more if you need. Please feel free reach out to us at any time either at our toll free 24hr hotline or at our online live chat.
              Best of luck,
              NRS
              Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:




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              • leaving the house at 17

                Im 16 about to be 17 in march i live in houston tx my house environment aint that good right now with my father yelling and cussing all the time i supply cant take it , dont get me wrong i have it good but i dont like the fact how he doesnt treat me with the respect i need. Im a respectful kid who goes to school and keep my grades up with no trouble around my question is once i turn 17 can i leave my house?

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                • Please help me.
                  I live in Texas, I am 17 and I turn 18 in December, I'm only a junior in high school, but I can't take living here any longer. My mom married this man when I was 3 years old and he's the only dad
                  i have ever known; however, he doesn't even act like a dad. I can't have a pleasant conversation with him, any conversation we ever do have leaves me angry or in tears. I hate him so much, he's obsessive and controlling, and an overall jerk. He barely even lets me leave the house unless it is a school related event, so I just try to do as much school things as possible so I am never home. I hate coming here, it doesn't feel like a home, it feels like a jail. Being around this man makes me feel so uncomfortable. He is literally the reason I cry myself to sleep every night. He told me that if I try to run away he'll just call the cops and have them bring me back home and then if it happens again he'll call the cops again and have me put in this runaway center that feels more like a prison than anything else and it will go on my record. Is that true? Can they make me come back and then put me in a place like this? Can he have any control over legal matters considering he isn't even my dad?

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                  • My mom kicked me out last night I found a place to stay now she's saying she wants me back home and I do not want to go home what do I do? Can I legally stay at the new residence or do I have to go back to my parents ?? I'm 17 and will be 18 in a couple months

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                    • RE: Leaving home at 17 in Texas

                      Hi
                      Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline, we are sorry to hear that your mom decided to kick you out, we hope you know that this is not okay, and that you should have not have to deal with that.
                      However, it sounds like she is your legal guardian, if that is the case, she has the right to decide where you live, and if you decide not to return, she also has the legal right to file a runaway report, which could have the police being on the lookout for you, and get you to return home.
                      Hope this response is helpful, if you have any more questions, you can contact us here at the National Runaway Safeline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We can discuss this into further detail if you decide to give us a call, and we would be able to explore the situation more with you.


                      Best of luck,

                      NRS
                      Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

                      National Runaway Safeline
                      info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
                      1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)
                      Tell us what you think about your experience!
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                      • Leaving home at 17

                        I am turning 17 in a short amount of time, I live with my mother at this time and I live in San Angelo, Texas. I want to leave home because it hasn't gone very well in my life with my family. This has happened since I was younger. I am not allowed to even go down the street to my friends house or have a relationship with any girl. It has gotten to verbal abuse and I mentioned that I want to move out because my mother (and my dad formal US Marine who is in prison for illegal reentry to the US) and they, especially my mother, have said I couldn't because they just want to keep controlling me.
                        Its not only that, but my parents are always moving to places or are always in situations where I do not want to spend my life in, for example my dad Is in prison and if he gets deported, we will have to move to mexico for like literally the 7th time. We just leave everything and everyone behind and forget about it. I don't want to live like that just not knowing. We will most likely stay in San Angelo, TX though.
                        I am homeschooled and I have a job. I can certainly care for myself, so I am wondering if I can leave home at 17 without being forced to go back.

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                        • ccsmod2
                          ccsmod2 commented
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                          Hello,

                          Thanks for reaching out to us. You mentioned that you are working, so you seem pretty independent. 18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case. Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. However, in that case there may be services (family counseling, etc.) available to you as a youth in crisis/runaway but again, police procedures related to offering those services can be different based on your location or the details of your situation. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. One way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth.

                          Take care,
                          NRS

                      • i'm 17 and ambeing verbally abused and physically abused by my mom. i have somewhere to stay but my mom will go to extremes measures to make me come back. i've called the cops before about her beating me and the cop told her not to leave marks next time (she beat me with a piece of wood so hard i couldn't sit down for the next few days) what will happen if she calls the cops

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                        • ccsmod0
                          ccsmod0 commented
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                          Firstly, we want to say we aren’t legal experts, but we can give you some general information. From what you said, it sounds like the police are not responsive and have not been able to help with your situation. You do have the right to report the abuse to someone other than the police. By calling a child abuse hotline, you can report what has been going on and there are a few things that could happen. CPS will be notified of the situation and look over the report. Reporting would consist of calling a child abuse hotline of Child Help (1-800-422-4453) which is the national child abuse hotline. They will ask some detailed questions about what has been going on and the abuse. They will also ask some identifying information like your name, your mom’s name, your address, and things like that. This report will be passed on to CPS and then they will review it and there is a possibility of a few more things of happening. CPS would conduct an investigation coming to your home and asking questions and seeing what abuse is occurring. From there, your best interest will be put first meaning if they decide you can’t stay at home, they could remove you and put you with a family member or a foster home. Or, they could have your mom go to classes and meetings to help. These are a few things that could happen if you do decide to report the abuse and if the same lack of response happens, you can report the abuse as many times as you want as there is no limit of reports.
                          We also could report the abuse on your behalf. If you do call in at 1-800-RUNAWAY, and give us those details and identifying factors, we can make a report on your behalf as we are mandated to pass along the information if you do decide to give it to us. We are here to advocate and listen to you because you deserve to be listened to.
                          Lastly, we again aren’t legal experts, but if you do decide to leave home your mom could file a runaway report with the police. This means they will be looking for you with what information she gave them and try to return you home. Something you could do is explain to the police about the abuse because it does sound like you are afraid to stay with your mom and you feel in danger. Although each officer is different, you can always explain what is happening in your home and that they are mandated reporters as well and would have to pass along the information from you to CPS as well.
                          Again, we are really glad you reached out and you are really brave as it seems like you have been through a lot. Child Help is a great resource if you want to talk to someone about more specifics of reporting and again we ae always here to listen as well. We do care about you and hope to hear from you soon!

                      • 17 wanting to leave.
                        I'm a 17 year old in high school and my mom just passed away three weeks ago. I was stuck with my dad and I finally left yesterday since he and I do not get along and mental abuse occurs. I'm living with my friend now and still attending school everyday. I have toldy dad I am no longer living with him. Is there a way he can make me come back?

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                        • ccsmod15
                          ccsmod15 commented
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                          Hi there,
                          Hi There,

                          It sounds like you are in a really difficult situation with your dad, and we are very sorry to hear about your loss. You mention that since your mom passed away you’ve been living with your dad and that mental abuse occurs. You don’t deserve to be abused in any way, and we are here to support you and answer your questions the best we can. While we are not legal experts, generally you do have to be 18 to leave home without your legal guardian’s permission. If your dad is your legal guardian, he could file a runaway report with the local police. Running away is a status offence, meaning it is illegal to do because of your age but you cannot be arrested or charged, the police would likely return you home to your dad. If you are being abused at home, you do have a right to file an abuse report. One resource we’d like to give you is Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453. We are glad you are in a safe place with your friend right now and she is supporting you while you are going through this. It may be helpful to reach out for additional support at school, like the school social worker or guidance counselor. We are also here to support you, and we are available 24/7 to speak with you more in depth at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We also have a national database to provide you with any additional resources you may need such as counseling, legal aid, or youth shelters.

                          Best,
                          ~NRS

                      • I am 16 years old and I live in the state of Texas. I live with my mom and my sister. I feel like my mom really just doesn't care about me and she always makes me feels like crap. I don't know if my situation would emotional abuse and I was wanting to talk to someone about leaving home at 17

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                        • ccsmod6
                          ccsmod6 commented
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                          Hi,

                          Thanks so much for reaching out to us tonight. We are sorry to hear about what you’re going through. Your mom making you feel bad about yourself and making you feel like she doesn’t care about you sounds like a pretty hard thing to be going through. It must make you feel pretty misunderstood, and it’s understandable that you’re thinking of ways to leave that kind of situation.

                          We can’t define what abuse is for you. If you feel like you are being abused you have the right to call it that. When it comes to leaving home before the age of 18, normally that is not allowed. Running away isn’t illegal, but it is considered a status offense. This means that although you won’t be arrested or put in jail, your mom has the legal right to file a runaway report if you were to leave and the police would be looking for you and would more than likely bring you back home if they found you. You did specifically mention leaving when you turn 17, though, so it is important to note that not all police departments take runaway reports for 17 year olds. We would not know your exact police department’s protocol, so it would be best to reach out to them yourself via their non-emergency number to get a direct answer from them about that.

                          If you want to talk more about what you are going through please do not hesitate to reach out to us again at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are 24/7 and we are here to listen to what you have to say. One of our liners would be more than happy to talk to you more in depth about what you’re going through so you can get it off your shoulders and so we can see what else we can do for you.

                          We wish you the best of luck!

                      • Hello.
                        I'm 17 and I currently have a 2 month old baby girl. My boyfriend/fiance (18 yrs old) and I do not live together officially. Wherever one is at (either his house or mine) the other goes and sleeps over and we take the baby too. Currently my parents are getting divorced and my paternal grandfather died. My father left the house around 5 months ago and legally I live with my mother. She and I had a fight and now she won't let me take my baby to my boyfriend's house and I can only go to school and be at home with her supervising me. Also, my boyfriend can only come and see the baby, but not stay over. I have post partum depression and she is making it worse and isn't being considerate over my situation. I want to temporarily move out to my boyfriend's house while he and I go to school and work to save money and get a house of our own. She threaten to call the police and drag me and my daughter home with her. Also, she stated that if I wanted to go to Katy I couldn't take the baby with me because she helps me with her. I want to know what I can do to be able to move out with my daughter and live with her father. I can't go with my father because he is an alcoholic and abusive the majority of the time. Please give me advice on how to address the situation.

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                        • ccsmod0
                          ccsmod0 commented
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                          Hi,
                          We’re sorry to hear you’re having such a hard time with your family. It sounds like you’re really trying to be a responsible adult, taking care of your daughter while you go to school and you try to save money from work.
                          We’re not legal experts at NRS, but until you’re 18, you’re usually considered a minor. This means that if you did go stay with your boyfriend, your mom could call the police on you and they might make you return. However, as you pointed out, with your mom helping take care of your daughter, running away might put further stress on your relationship.
                          Have you considered trying counseling with her? Here at NRS we offer mediated conference calls where we would try to find a solution that works for both you and your mom. You might also want to call SAMHSA (The Substance Abuse & Mental Health Services Administration, 1-877-726-4727). They might be able to help you find local, in-person counseling. What about family friends or more distant relatives? Is there anyone that both you and your mom get along with who might be able to help you talk things out?
                          Another idea could be looking for a peer support group. Sometimes there are support groups for teens and new mothers. You’re always welcome to give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY and we can help look for options like that.
                          You’ve got a lot on your plate, but it sounds like you have a plan, so don’t give up.
                          Best of luck.
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