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    I'm 16 and thinking of running away. I won't go into details but I feel like if I stay I'm going to turn suicidal. I've found some online places in the zip code right next to mine but some of the people I've talked to have said they might have to report me to CPS. How far do I need to go to stay away from them? I don't have any family that would hide me from them and they're all within the state anyway. I'm LGBT and my options are limited. Is it smart to go into the city to hide, or does that just mean a higher risk of getting reported? I don't know what to do. I'm not leaving yet, but I'm seriously considering it. I won't be stupid, but the longer I wait the more desperate I'm getting.

  • #2
    Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. You made a great first step to finding the help that you may need. It sounds like you are going through a lot and the people around you are not being supportive. You deserve to be treated with respect, to experience acceptance and to feel safe.

    We want you to know that you are strong for having gone through so much already. It is perfectly okay to deviate from what others or the common population believe to be “normal”. You’re bravery and resilience is so admirable. You are so strong for having gone through so much without having the acceptance that you do deserve for just being you. Remember that you are not alone. If you ever want to talk more about what you are experiencing or get additional support we are here 24/7 at 1800-RUNAWAY or our live chat service. The GLBT National Hotline at 1888-843-4564 is another option to gain great support from those that are familiar with the issues and experiences of those that are also a part of the LGBTQ community. You can access their website link bellow to utilize all the other possibly useful resources they have to offer: http://www.glbthotline.org/

    You mentioned that you were considering the options that may be best for you. By all means, if you do fear for your safety either now or in the future, do not hesitate to take the necessary steps to regain your safety. This may mean calling the authorities or possibly reporting the things you may be experiencing. Other options to think about may be other family members, friends, or a trusted adults that would be able to provide you with support or a safe place to stay. It is great that you thinking ahead. Should you feel like leaving home is best, it may be a good idea to think about how you will provide necessities for yourself such as food, clothing, showers, healthcare and other basic needs. You may want to also consider how your parent’s will react to you leaving without permission. We are not legal experts here, but typically as a minor (under the age of 1 you need permission from your parents to leave home. It is not illegal to runaway, but it would mean that your parents could file a runaway report with the police. This is usually done in an effort to try to return you home as the police are required to do so.

    If you can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or reach out through Live Chat we can try to find some youth shelters that may be near your city and state by utilizing our database of resources. We can also try to call out to shelters with you or on your behalf to advocate for you.

    Stay Strong,
    NRS

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    • #3
      I am experiencing the same thing I actually might turn suicidal if i stay I can’t explain everything but running away is my best option right now, i am 16 and a girl i live in the United arab emirates , girls here are treated like objects like things to sell and buy we have no privilege at all our life’s are owned by our parents or husbands if we ever get married we have no choices in life what’s so ever and a lot of more thing’s that I don’t want to get into, I’m willing to runaway out of the country as soon as possible, considering this COVID-19 that’s going on i know it will be much harder to settle in and have a life but its okay with me i know it will be better that being controlled and abused, i am not allowed to go anywhere but school or dentist appointments , but right now school is online and I don’t think i can get out of the house for much before they notice i am gone, i have talked to my friend and she thinks that me running away at 18 is better cause i will have more privilege and I don’t need my parents to sign on anything and I don’t need there permission but at the same time i am thinking of getting fostered, i want a foster family so i can feel safe and settled and not alone in this new country, so i feel like i have somewhere to go back to, i want to know how can i be an option for foster families, for families who are looking for a child to foster in there home i want to be an option,

      but of course there is the other scenario of me running away after 18

      i need to know which one is better me running away right now at the age of 16 or 18 when i don’t need the permission on my parents


      cause I really really want and need a new family that actually will love me and look after me, i have a-lot of mental health crisis of me feeling like i have no family or someone to come back to when i need support and I really need that, i need to feel like I belong somewhere like i have a home at heart.

      at the moment my money is not enough but if I actually find a family that is willing to foster me i will save money and see how i can buy a ticket i will do everything i can just to get out of here please give me you’re best advice.


      i tried calling you but it won’t ring this number is not available in my country, but if it’s possible i would really appreciate talking on zoom or any internet based platform to help me plan my runaway

      i am in a really dark place right now but im still surviving and trying my very best to do what’s best for me.

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        ccsmod15 commented
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        Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. We don't provide services through Zoom and our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. You can use this link to find a youth helpline in or near your country:

        https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/

        We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country. There are a couple other suggestions we have, however.

        One idea would be to get as much support around you through friends and anyone you trust that can help. Building a support network and connecting with others is so important, even if it's online support. You also might want to consider that your options might possibly increase as you get a little older in life. Of course, suicide is a very serious matter and we do hope that you will get help to deal with those thoughts and feelings. While we weren't able to find a counseling hotline dealing with suicide in UAE, we did find a resource based in Lebanon that you possibly could call. Here's a link to that:

        https://embracelebanon.org/embrace-lifeline/

        There's also a really great organization dealing with suicide and self harm that might offer some good suggestions on how to cope with difficult feelings. Here is a link we really hope you take a look at:

        https://twloha.com/

        We hope some of this information help and that you find the above resources helpful. Please stay safe. Things can -- and probably will -- get better.

        All the best,
        NRS
        Last edited by ccsmod15; 09-11-2020, 03:34 PM.
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