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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like things with your dad are really hard at home. It must feel really bad to be told that you are not wanted. It sounds like you have the support of your boyfriend and his family. When things are hard it can be helpful to have the support of others who care about you. In thinking about leaving home, ultimately the decision is up to you. You know your situation best and what is safest. You could decide to stay at home until you are 18 or you could consider other options. At 17 you Dad is technically your legal guardian. If you decide to leave, he could still file a runaway report if he finds you gone.

    So that we can have more context to what you are asking, we encourage you to reach out to us by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. We can work with you to gather information that might be helpful so that you can weigh your options and make a plan.

    Best,

    NRS

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    I am currently 17 and I moved in with my dad about 4 years ago. Things with my dad have been a complete nightmare and we are always getting into fights and arguements. I ran away over the summer because of something that happened with my dad one night and he called the cops and they ended up bringing me home. My dad tells me constantly that he wants me gone and that he is kicking me out as soon as I turn 18. I have been so depressed living here and I honestly don't know how much more I can take. My boyfriend has told me that I can move in with him, and his mom is okay with it as well. What should I do? Is it a bad idea to move in with my boyfriend? Should I TRY and stick it out till I'm 18? Someone please help me?!

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. At NRS, we are not legal experts, but we can provide you with some general guidance. Before you turn 18, typically you are legally bound to your parents and could be returned home if the police were to pick you up after running away from home. When you turn 18, you are considered a legal adult and in most cases can make decisions about your whereabouts on your own. So that we can have more context to what you are asking, we encourage you to reach out to us by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

    Best,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi! I just have a question i turn 18 in about 3 weeks if my parents call the cops can they legally do something and will i get in trouble?

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for taking the time to contact us here at NRS. While we are not legal experts, we can speak generally on this. 18 is usually the age you are able to leave home without permission from your parents. If you leave as a minor, your parents can report you as a runaway to the police. If your parents know where you are staying, they can ask police to return you home. Even if you are returned home, you would not get into any legal trouble. Because you are just a few days away from turning 18 it is unlikely police would intervene at all, but it is still a risk. Once you turn 18, you will have the legal freedom to choose where you live without the risk of a runaway report.

    If you would like to talk more about your situation, please don't hesitate to contact us directly by phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY or through live chat at 1800runaway.org.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I’m 18 in 4 day’s January 23, can I leave and not get in trouble with the law.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi,
    Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are glad to hear you have a plan and we hope to support you in the best way we can.
    It sounds like you are might have an interest in moving out of your home at age 18. In the state of California, this would be legal, and you cannot be made to return home by the police. At the time you turn 18 in this state, you will be a legal adult and able to make your own decisions.
    We hope this helps, and we encourage you to call us if you have any more questions at 1-800-RUN-AWAY. Stay safe and stay strong.
    Sincerely,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hey I’m currently 15 I live in LA I currently in a relationship with someone 3 years older then me I’m currently in a super toxic house and no one here supports me me and my bf we’ve already talk and have plans we’re waiting until I’m 18 will there be any problems with the police? Or any problems?
    like to come back home even if I don’t want to?

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us here at NRS and we appreciate you sharing your situation. It sounds like there is a lot you are faced with at home and you are considering leaving as one of your options. Leaving can be a big decision to make so it was very resourceful to reach out for more information. While we are not legal experts we can speak generally on this. 18 is usually the age you are able to leave home without permission from your parents. If you leave home as a minor, your parents can report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This means your parents can ask police to return you home if they know where you are staying. Something else to consider is that a landlord likely not allow you to sign a lease. That means you would probably have to live with your friend without the landlord's knowledge which could be risky for you. We want to make sure you have the information to stay as safe as possible with whatever you decide to do.

    We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    We’re here to listen and to help as much as possible.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi I’m 17 and I love my family but I have very awful depression and my mom says the meanest stuff and my father is abusive I turn 18 in 6 months and me and my friend are gonna get an apartment can I leave without then being able to stop me I live in Maryland

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for taking the time to write us here at NRS and we appreciate you sharing a bit about your situation with us. While we are not legal experts, we can speak generally on this. 18 is usually the age you are able to leave home and choose where you live. Because you are still under 18, your mom can report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This means that your mom can still ask police to return you home if she knows where you are staying. There is a possibility police would not intervene because you are so close to turning 18 but this can vary by police department.

    We are glad to hear you were able to open up communication with your mom. If you would like to talk more about this or you need any support along the way, please don't hesitate to reach out again. We are available 24/7 by phone at 1-800-786-2929 and through live chat at 1800runaway.org.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hey I’m 17 years old I left home 6 months ago I been doing good on my own my question today is me & my mama finally made up but I’m scared she is going to force me back home I turn 18 in 2 months will I have to go back since I’ve been gone soo long & she hasn’t did anything.

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to NRS and we appreciate you sharing a bit about your situation with us. It sounds like you are feeling overwhelmed at home and you are thinking about leaving. You deserve to feel safe and supported no matter where you are leaving.

    We are not legal experts, but we can speak generally on this. If you leave home without permission as minor, your parents can report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offence. This means your parents can ask police to return you home if they know where you are staying. There is not a universal way that police handle runaway reports and it can vary by state and even by city. Some police might be more lenient with someone who is close to turning 18 and there is a possibility that they might not pursue a runaway report. You can call the non-emergency line for your local police department to learn more specifically how police in your area would respond to a runaway report.

    We hope this information is helpful. We are available 24/7 for immediate support by phone at 1-800-786-2929 and through live at 1800runaway.org if you would like to talk more about your situation. We are here to listen and help as much as possible.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I am 17, almost 18. I live with my dads ex wife and her new husband along with their 8 kids. I am not allowed to go out and do anything or see my real family. I constantly have to clean the house, while they depend on me. I’m the only who cleans the house. I also have to watch their kids while they go out and get drunk. I want leave and want to know if it’s legal to leave since I am not 18 yet. They only have custody of me and I have real blood related family that will take me in.

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  • ccsmod13
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us here at NRS. While we are not legal experts by any means, we can speak generally on this. Until you turn 18, your mother can report you as a runaway to the police if you leave without permission. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This means your mother can ask police to return you home if she knows where you are staying. Now, there is not a universal way that police respond to runaway reports. In some cases officers might be more lenient and not intervene with someone who is that close to turning 18. This can vary between police departments and even officers so there is not a necessarily a way to know for sure. You can anonymously call the local police department's non-emergency line to speak with an officer about this situation and receive more specific information. They would know best what might happen if your mom attempts to report you as a runaway.

    We hope this information helps. Please do not hesitate to contact us again by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or through live chat at 1800runaway.org if you need further support.

    Take care,
    NRS
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