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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for taking the time to write us here at NRS and we appreciate you sharing a bit about your situation with us. While we are not legal experts, we can speak generally on this. 18 is usually the age you are able to leave home and choose where you live. Because you are still under 18, your mom can report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This means that your mom can still ask police to return you home if she knows where you are staying. There is a possibility police would not intervene because you are so close to turning 18 but this can vary by police department.

    We are glad to hear you were able to open up communication with your mom. If you would like to talk more about this or you need any support along the way, please don't hesitate to reach out again. We are available 24/7 by phone at 1-800-786-2929 and through live chat at 1800runaway.org.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hey I’m 17 years old I left home 6 months ago I been doing good on my own my question today is me & my mama finally made up but I’m scared she is going to force me back home I turn 18 in 2 months will I have to go back since I’ve been gone soo long & she hasn’t did anything.

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to NRS and we appreciate you sharing a bit about your situation with us. It sounds like you are feeling overwhelmed at home and you are thinking about leaving. You deserve to feel safe and supported no matter where you are leaving.

    We are not legal experts, but we can speak generally on this. If you leave home without permission as minor, your parents can report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offence. This means your parents can ask police to return you home if they know where you are staying. There is not a universal way that police handle runaway reports and it can vary by state and even by city. Some police might be more lenient with someone who is close to turning 18 and there is a possibility that they might not pursue a runaway report. You can call the non-emergency line for your local police department to learn more specifically how police in your area would respond to a runaway report.

    We hope this information is helpful. We are available 24/7 for immediate support by phone at 1-800-786-2929 and through live at 1800runaway.org if you would like to talk more about your situation. We are here to listen and help as much as possible.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I am 17, almost 18. I live with my dads ex wife and her new husband along with their 8 kids. I am not allowed to go out and do anything or see my real family. I constantly have to clean the house, while they depend on me. I’m the only who cleans the house. I also have to watch their kids while they go out and get drunk. I want leave and want to know if it’s legal to leave since I am not 18 yet. They only have custody of me and I have real blood related family that will take me in.

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us here at NRS. While we are not legal experts by any means, we can speak generally on this. Until you turn 18, your mother can report you as a runaway to the police if you leave without permission. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This means your mother can ask police to return you home if she knows where you are staying. Now, there is not a universal way that police respond to runaway reports. In some cases officers might be more lenient and not intervene with someone who is that close to turning 18. This can vary between police departments and even officers so there is not a necessarily a way to know for sure. You can anonymously call the local police department's non-emergency line to speak with an officer about this situation and receive more specific information. They would know best what might happen if your mom attempts to report you as a runaway.

    We hope this information helps. Please do not hesitate to contact us again by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or through live chat at 1800runaway.org if you need further support.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I live in California I am 17 turning 18 on November 6th it is two weeks away and I was going to wait until my birthday but I don't think I can. If I leave without my mother's consent can she still call the cops and force me to come back home.

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to NRS. While we are not legal experts, we can speak on this generally. Even though you are so close to turning 18, your parents are still legally responsible for you until your 18th birthday. If you leave before your birthday, they can still attempt to report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This means your parents can ask police to return you home if they know where you are staying. Now, some police are more lenient when young people leave home so close to turning 18. There is a possibility that police would not intervene in any way but we don't have a way to know for sure or to guarantee. The local police department would have the most accurate information regarding this. You can anonymously call the local non-emergency line to speak with an officer and ask how they would handle a runaway report in this situation.

    We hope this information helps. We truly want to be a support for you as you decide on your next steps. We are available 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible. Please do not hesitate to reach out again by phone or chat if you would like to talk more in-depth about your situation and explore your options. You can contact us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

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    Guest replied
    Okay so I have 27 days till my 18th but I don’t know if I can move out before then with my boyfriend my family is horrible and I kinda want to know I’m 17 rn Thomas I’m in Florida

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied

    Im 17 I turn 18 in November I have 2 children an live at home with my mother who is very toxic an also a drug user when she doesn't have her drugs is when she treats me an my kids the worse an recently she has a friend an is cruel when shes around because she thinks its funny an her friend laughs with her about it, I left a year ago an she called the cops on me they threatened to take my children away from me if I tried leaving again im 2 months from being 18 an tonight has been a horrible night for my children an i an i want nothing more then to leave first thing in the morning but im worried if ill get introuble because I'm still not 18 yet or if ill be fine because I turn 18 in two months?

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  • ccsmod4
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    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.
    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help.

    The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. Since you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: http://www.childhelplineinternationa...where-we-work/

    We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I’m 17 and turning 18 next June. I live in India .my parents have been forcing their religion onto me for 17 yrs. my parents got to know about my relationship with my bf who is from another religion. I don’t want to stay at home anymore on my 18th birthday will the police in India give me civil standby when I move out.
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 08-18-2020, 03:02 AM.

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if you do opt to leave your home your parents can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor (until your 18th birthday in 2 months). If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned home.

    It makes sense that you would want to start earning money and getting more independence when you are facing parenthood and it seems like your parents don't fully understand how important it is to you. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your parents so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

    We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

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    Guest replied
    I'm 17 right now and my birth is in 2 months and ill be 18 can I leave cause me and my girl friend is pregnant and I wont to get a job but my parents wont let me their try to hold me back and I just can take no more I need to start supporting my self and I know I can but they want let me do nothing

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. We know that stressors can be overwhelming at times and it sounds like you have turned to self-injury as a way to cope. It’s totally understandable that you would want to do something to give you a feeling of power and control when you may feel hopeless. To Write Love on Her Arms is an organization dedicated to supporting people who use this coping mechanism on their road to self-realization and recovery. You can check them out by going to https://twloha.com/. If you’d like some additional support, an organization that may be helpful is the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). You can contact them by calling 1-800-950-NAMI or you can text them by sending NAMI to 741741.

    We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if you do opt to leave your home your parents can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned home. Since you are so close to turning 18 the police may let you stay where you are but this policy varies greatly from location to location. You may want to call your local non-emergency police line by dialing 311 to verify local policy.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

    We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think
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