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    Hi. I am 17 and going to be 18 in June. I want to move out with my boyfriend in May. I have had the police at my house numerous times. My step dad and i got into it one night when he found out that I was dating my manager and that he had gotten me a phone. I understand that he is 9 years older than me but he treats me so good. He doesn't yell at me or lay any hands on me. Everytime him and I have sex he always makes sure that I'm okay with that. Even during sex he makes sure that he isn't hurting me. But back to my step dad. The discomfort at home came from when I called the police on him for tpuching me and pouring water on my face when I was crying on the floor. The police didn't do anything about him abusing me. they pretty much just slapped him on the hand and told him not to do it again. Since then the police have been called 17 times. Every time nothing has happened. They keep telling me to suck it up and just forget about it until i'm 18. but i cant wait that long. My boyfriend told me that i could move out a month before i turn 18 and no one could do anything about it. Thoughts and Legal actions please? oh and i live in ohio if that helps

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    Re: Moving out a month before I'm 18

    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’ve been going through a really tough time, and we’re here to help you and support you in any way we can. We want you to know that no one deserves to be abused, and you should not have to go through that.

    That must be so hard to be having these conflicts and disagreements with your step dad. That sounds frustrating that nothing happens when you reach out to the police for help. If you haven’t already, you could consider reporting the abuse you’ve been experiencing. If you want more information about abuse reporting, you could consider calling Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453. Also, if you’d like more information or if you’d like help making an abuse report, you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929).

    We’re not legal experts here at NRS, but generally it is not illegal to run away from home. But your parents could file a runaway report, the police could get involved and bring you home, and the people you’re staying with could possibly get in legal trouble. Some police departments do not take runaway reports for 17 year olds. Each city and state can have different laws on running away. If you haven’t already, you could consider calling your local nonemergency police number to ask about their policies on running away. We also have a data base of legal resources that you could call to ask specific questions about laws.

    There are many resources that could help you get legal information, help you work through conflict with your family, or help you with anything else you may need. If you would like more information about resources or if you’d like to talk more about what’s been going on, you can call us or chat with us online.

    Again, thanks for contacting us. You’ve been going through a really hard time, but you’ve shown strength by reaching out for help. If you ever need anything in the future, please feel free to call us or chat with us online. We’re always here to listen and here to help.
    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

    National Runaway Safeline
    [email protected] (Crisis Email)
    1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)
    https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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    • #3
      Hi, Im 15 but Im currently in a relationship with someone that makes me very happy but my stepdad and mother don't approve of him so I have to keep our relationship a secret. My stepdad makes me extremely uncomfortable and I've told him numerous times that I don't like the way he talks to me. My mother never does anything to step up to him and lets him control everything in our lives. My boyfriend is about 3 years older than me (which is legal in Tennessee) so he already is getting a house. When i graduate high school I will only be 17 but I want to move in with him. About a month after I graduate I will turn 18 so I want to move in with him and he will be fully able to support me as he is going into the marines. I live in Tennessee and I'm not sure if I will be able to move in with him before I turn 18, is it possible for me to do that?

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      • ccsmod10
        ccsmod10 commented
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        Hi there,

        Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. From your email to us here, we can see that you have very similar questions to a lot of our callers and you’re looking for some answers. Now we aren’t legal experts by any means so we can only give you a general idea of what might happen to those that leave home without permission.

        It can be a little tricky at the age of 17, but there are some cases in which a police officer won't take a runaway report for someone that is 17. This is not the case all the time of course, but it is something that we have heard of happening before. But something to keep in mind is that though a police officer doesn't take a report it doesn't make it legal for minors to leave home before turning 18; which is the legal age of majority in most states. Like stated above it might not be actively search for a 17 year old. The only way to know for sure of that would be to reach out to your local non-emergency police and asking them hypothetical questions about leaving home or the state as a 17 year old and what would could happen at that point.

        Now if your parents did file a runaway report, they can choose to press charges on your boyfriend for harboring a runaway. Harboring a runaway is when that party are not giving accurate information on a runaway’s whereabouts. That could lead to a number of different legal issues such as misdemeanor charges (fines or jail charges). From what we know it isn’t something that typically happens, but it is in place to detour individuals from helping runaway minors from not returning home or lying on a runaway’s behalf.

        We hope this response was helpful! We certainly want to help you. If you give us a call on our 24/7 hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) we could help you find resources in your area and could potentially help you brainstorm a possible solution to the issues you are having. We would love to talk to you.

        Best, NRS

    • #4
      im 17 years old im 3 months from being 18 and im done being abuse by my drunk father and always being depressed, and abused by him and i have a place to stay at if i do move out but if i stay there any longer i dont think i can live much longer what do i do

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      • #5
        Hi there,

        First, we are sorry to hear you are being abused by your dad. That’s really tough and you don’t deserve that. Just so you know, you always have the option of filing an abuse report with your state’s Child Protective Services. We never tell anyone what to do, but that is your right. Let us know if you need more information on that.

        You ask what you should do. Well, a lot depends on what you feel is best for you, something only you can know for sure. If you decide to leave before 18, your dad could try to file a runaway report with the police. Running away isn’t a crime, but it is a status offense, which means you could be detained by police until they release you to your parents. Anyone you stay with, however, could be accused of harboring a runaway, which is a misdemeanor.

        That’s not to say you should or should not move out before 18. It’s possible your dad won’t try to file a report. Or that the police won’t take it as seriously because you are getting close to turning 18. So, we don’t exactly know what would happen. You could try calling the local police non-emergency number and ask them if they accept runaway reports for 17 year-olds. They may say they do, but it’s hard to say how seriously they will take the report because of your age. It’s kind of a grey area.

        One thing we would encourage you to do is to call us if you can. We are here 24/7 and are anonymous. Even if you just want to talk things through, that’s what we are here for. We also have a large database of resources like shelters, legal aid, and the like. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY.

        Please stay safe. You’re not alone. We are here for you!

        Best,
        NRS
        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

        National Runaway Safeline
        [email protected] (Crisis Email)
        1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)
        https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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        • #6
          Hi there, I’m currently 17 years old living in Chicago Illinois but I will be 18 in 2 months. I’ve been wanting to move out of my house since the age of 15. I’ve gone through a lot with my parents and I’m tired of always arguing with them I was wondering is there any way I can move out a month before my birthday?

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          • ccsmod15
            ccsmod15 commented
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            Hi there,

            Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems like you have dealt with a lot at home over the years, and as you approach 18, you are wanting to move out.

            While we are not experts on the law, we know that in Illinois, 18 is the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. Some police departments may be more lenient on youth that are 17, especially if they are about to turn 18, but this depends on the people working the case, so we cannot guarantee any one police response. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

            We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice on this forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

            Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
            If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

            Be safe,
            NRS

        • #7
          I’m 17 years old and I have 1 month and 3 days before I turn 18. I live in the state of Louisiana and every website I’ve seen has said that it is legal for me to move out and live with my boyfriends family. I was wondering if the police would try to get me to come back if I was to run away. I’m still in school, and I only have a few months before graduating. I want to get out now. Is there any tips or anything that could be given to me to help me through this time?

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          • ccsmod1
            ccsmod1 commented
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            Hey there,

            Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but you are considered a minor in Louisiana until you turn 18. Generally speaking, if you do opt to leave your home your parents (or whoever your legal guardian is) can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned home. Since you are so close to turning 18 the police may let your stay where you are but that varies a lot from area to area. It may be beneficial to reach out to your local nonemergency police line (you can usually just dial 311) to verify local runaway policy.

            If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

            Stay safe,
            NRS

        • #8
          I am currently 17 and my birthday is a month away, I have been going through a lot with family issues and want to leave ASAP. The only thing is I don’t want to get in trouble with the states what do I do?

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          • ccsmod13
            ccsmod13 commented
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            Hi there,

            Thanks for reaching out to NRS. It sounds like you are very close to turning 18 and you are wondering if there would be any consequences for leaving home. Generally speaking if you leave home without permission before you turn 18 (the age of majority in most states), your parents can report you as a runaway. Running away is not illegal and you would not face any legal consequences for doing so, however; if your parents know where you are they can ask that police return you home. The exception to this is that some counties do not take runaway reports for someone so close to turning 18. If you live in an area where police do not pursue runaway reports for someone your age, police would not likely not intervene if you left home. You can call your local police department's non-emergency number to ask anonymously about their runaway protocol.

            If you would like to talk more in detail about your situation or about your next steps, please do not hesitate to reach out again by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

            Stay safe,
            NRS
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