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    so Im 15 years old and my mom has been jumping around from boyfreind since i was born. most of my familly is dead and the ones that i have left are crazy. so
    so my mom has been with a guy for a long time now and we moved in across the street from his grandparents (who have custody of his children) i have lived there
    for a while now and i have kind of replaced my old familly with a new one the other day my mom said she wanted to leave. the only problem is that if we leave I
    will never see them again. but shes selfish and doesn't care im just wondering if theres any way my step dad could have custody of me because to be honest
    my moms irresponsible to begin with is there any way he could sue for custody and theres a problem i forgot to mention there not actualy married there just together

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    RE: Can i stay with my stepdad if my mom leaves him

    First, we want to thank you for reaching out. It seems that you are in a complicate situations. It is understandable that you want to stay with your mom’s boyfriend because it seems that his family is providing you sense of closeness and security.
    About your question, we are not legal experts, so I cannot provide you a direct answer. However, our database has a lot of legal aid resources divided by areas. They provide no cost or sliding scale services. Unfortunately, we do not have your location, so we cannot supply those too you. If you decide to reach out to us over chat or phone, talk more and depth and provide us with your location we will be more than happy to help you with finding the best option.
    Again, we are really glad that you reached out to us. It is great that you are trying to take things in your hands and figure out your options. If you would like to talk further about your situation, please do not hesitate to call or chat with us. We are here to listen, here to help.
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    • #3
      So my friend is currently with her step-dad and her step dad has custody of her little sister. Her and his relationship was a girlfriend and boyfriend relationship. They were not married but now she is currently staying with the dad of her little sister. Her father is not with her at the moment. She wanted to know if it is possible to get away from the father of her sister to be with her mother and nothing will happen.


      • ccsmod9
        ccsmod9 commented
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        Hi there,
        Thanks for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline.
        It sounds like your friend is having a hard time with her step-father. We’re sorry to hear that but she sounds really lucky to have a friend like you looking out for her.
        We are not legal experts here. It would come down to custody. Whoever has legal custody can determine where a minor lives. If she’s been told to stay there by her legal guardian, if she left, she could be considered a runaway. The police could be involved if that happened.
        It sounds like a complicated issue. If you’d like, you or your friend are welcome to call us here and talk about this in more detail. We’re available 24/ 7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).
        All the best,

    • #4
      my mom wants to leave my step dad whom has raised me since I was two years old and I love him and i want to live with him if she leaves him can I live with him if she leaves since hes been more of a father to me then my biological father


      • ccsmod15
        ccsmod15 commented
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        Hi there,
        Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline; it takes a lot to reach out during stressful times. It sounds like you have a very strong relationship with your stepfather and that he cares a lot about you.

        Unless your stepfather has custody over you, staying with him instead of your mom might be a difficult legal process. One option you have is to talk to your mom about how you’ve been feeling. This conversation may lead to a sort of compromise, for example arrangements to see your stepfather more often than you might have. At the National Runaway Safeline, we offer conference calls where someone here moderates a conversation between the caller (youth) and their parent. These are found to be helpful in having difficult discussions as we make sure that the call is productive and respectful on both ends.

        If you have any questions going forward or want to talk again, know that our lines (1-800-RUNAWAY) are open 24/7 and that we are here for you. We can help explore more specific options and navigate your choices going forward.

        Good luck,
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