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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for taking the time to contact us here at NRS and we appreciate you sharing your situation with us. It sounds like there is a lot you are facing at home and it's been getting overwhelming. Wanting to get space from all of that stress is understandable. You mentioned wanting to know more about runaway laws and what could happen if you left. While we are not legal experts, we can speak generally on this. If you leave home without permission, your parents/guardians can report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This means your parents can ask police to return you home if they know where you are staying. You would not get into any legal trouble though.

    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Hi. I’m 17 years old. I live in ny state and I know the runaway state law is 18. But what if I ran away anyway? There’s constant fighting and negativity in the house and everything makes me really depressed and stressed. Would I get in trouble for running away because of that? Thanks.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi,
    Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation and we are glad you have contacted us for help.
    You asked about whether or not your adult boyfriend can get in trouble if you leave home to stay with him. Assuming you will leave without parental consent, it may be possible that your boyfriend could get in legal trouble for harboring a minor, or assisting a minor in their efforts to run away. While at your age, you are legally able to make your own decisions around sex and dating, when it comes to living arrangement, the story is different. You would need to procure parental consent to live with your boyfriend before you are a legal adult at 18.
    If you do it anyway, your parents or guardians may contact the police and report you. If you are reported, the police will make a good faith effort to figure out where you are and bring you back home. It is not illegal to leave home without consent as a minor; it is only a status offense, or something you are technically not allowed to do. If you want, you can call us and we can connect you with your local police department so you may anonymously ask them how they might respond to your exact situation. We can even call out to them with you. Just reach out at 1-800-RUNAWAY to start.
    We hope some of this information is helpful. We can also connect you with youth legal aid services in your area, if you want more answers to your specific legal questions. We hope that you make the decision that is best for you. If you need more help along the way, we are always here. We may be reached at 1-800-RUNAWAY or via instant message at 1800runaway.org.
    Stay safe and stay strong,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    im 17 and live in very strict household and very controlling parents can my 18 year old boyfriend get in trouble if i runaway from home and go live with him he just turned 18 im from CO

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.

    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    Be safe,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    In Connecticut, is it okay for me (17) to move out with my boyfriend (1?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello,

    Thanks for reaching out to us. We are so sorry to hear that things at home with your family have been so difficult. It sounds like you’ve made a plan to leave, and you would like some feedback about your plan. We cannot tell you what to do, or even if what you are doing is right or wrong, but we can share information that might help you figure out your next steps.

    We are not legal experts, but from what we understand, in most states, a minor needs the consent of a parent or legal guardian to live somewhere else. If you leave without consent, your parent or legal guardian may be able to file a runaway report with your local police department. While it is not technically illegal for you to run away, it is considered a status offense in some states, and in many states whomever you stay with can be charged with harboring a runaway or aiding and abetting in the delinquency of a minor, both of which are misdemeanors. If possible, consider whether your grandmother can help you talk to your parent or legal guardian to get consent for you to leave if this is what you hope to do.

    All of this hinges on whether you are considered a minor in your state and, if so, whether your local police department would take the report. The best way to confirm whether your parent or legal guardian can file a report is to reach out to your local police at their non-emergency number or legal aid agency. Your local police can be reached at 214.671.3001. The Legal Aid of Dallas office can be reached at 214.748.1234. If you would like more information, or even if you just want someone to talk to, feel free to give us a call.

    We cannot tell you what to do, but we can do our best to help you explore your options as you figure out your next steps. You can reach us 24/7 by phone at 1.800.RUNAWAY (786.2929) or via chat by visiting our website www.1800runaway.org . We’re here to listen, here to help. Stay safe!

    -NRS

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    I am 17 and i live in dallas tx. Im in a toxic environment all my friends know and they want me to get out and so do i. i have a plan to have my bf come get me he is 18 and im going to stay at his house with his mom and then commute to my grandmothers the next day. i do online school so i have my computer. my grandmother supports me because she understands how toxic the enviornment is and with my mental issues its not safe for me to stay. is there any advice you can give me because this is happening tomorrow and i need to make sure ive got everything covered.

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for taking to the time to reach out to us here at NRS. Leaving can be a big decision to make, but you would know better than anyone what is best for you. It sounds like you have some concerns about possible consequences if your parents attempt to report you as a runaway to the police. While we are not legal experts we can speak generally on this.

    The age of majority in Washington is 18 which is the age you are considered a legal adult with the legal freedom to choose where you live. If you leave without permission as a minor, your parents can report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This means your parents can ask police to return you home if they know where you are staying. Now, there is not a universal way that police respond to runaway reports. In some cases, police might not take a runaway report and might not intervene since you are close to turning 18. We suggest that any young person with this question call the non-emergency line for the local police department to ask an officer about their protocol regarding runaway reports. This can be done anonymously and the local police would have the most specific information about what could happen.

    We hope this information helps! If you would like to talk more about your situation or you have any more questions, please do not hesitate to reach out again. We are available for immediate help 24/7 through our hotline at 1-800-786-2929 or our live chat services at 1800runaway.org (click on the CHAT button on our website homepage).

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi I'm turning 17 I want to move out with my boyfriends and his parents ,and I live in Washington state. There's has been serious issues between my parents and I, I would get mentally really hurt badly. If I tell them that I want to move out they would tell me that I can but there is no coming back. But what would happen if they changed there mind reporting to the police department saying that I'm a runaway?

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us here at NRS. While we are not legal experts we can speak on this generally. Your legal guardian is legally responsible for you until you turn 18 and would have some control in where you live. If you leave without their permission, they can report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This basically means your guardian can ask police to return you home if they know where you are staying.

    Leaving home as a minor can be challenging and we understand this must be a very difficult time. We want you to know you are not alone and we are here to listen and help as much as possible. We are available 24/7 for immediate support by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or through live chat at 1800runaway.org.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I am 17 and 5 months i live in virginia . i have a boyfriend who is 18 and will be 19 in 3 months . Could I leave home ? if i wanted to, could i leave home and live with him ? All without going to court. Does my guardian have control over me ?

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  • ccsmod15
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    It sounds like you are interested in emancipation. We are not legal experts, but we can help you get a general sense of how emancipation works. Our general understanding is some states offer formal emancipation statutes while others do not unfortunately. Laws vary depending on your location, but in many states a minor can petition the court for emancipation to take responsibility for their own care before they turn 18. Generally speaking, courts are wary about granting emancipation. In most cases, you would have to prove in court that you have an income and can care for yourself financially, and that you are able to live separately from your parents. It also helps to be in good standing at school. The court will also factor in the mental and physical welfare of your parents in order to establish your best interest. Usually your legal guardian would have to agree to this in court. Once you are emancipated, you can legally choose where you live, but you might still find that you cannot sign a lease or build credit until you turn 18. The emancipation process can take several months or up to a year, and may cost money in the form of court fees and other expenses. Usually, the best way to learn about emancipation in your state is to contact a lawyer. You may also find information at your county family court. We can look up legal aid resources that may be able to help you with the process. Please do not hesitate to call or chat if you have questions, need legal resources, or need to talk. We can explore your situation, go over all your options, and come up with a plan and resources to deal with your situation over the phone or on live chat. We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hello I am currently 16 years old, I was wondering if I were to get emancipated while cps is investigating, would that cause any issues for my grandmother who is taking care of me ?
    My mom chooses her boyfriend over hers kids and my grandma had reported it and tried to help us but it seems like cps is on my moms side I just want to be away from this

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello –

    Thank you for contacting us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We understand that it takes great courage to reach out. I’m sorry to hear that life at home has led you to want to run away, that sounds like a difficult situation to deal with.

    Having a place to stay to ensure that you are safe is very important. While we are not legal experts, running away is not considered illegal. However, since you are a minor, your guardians have the right to file a runaway report. With a runaway report, if the police find you they would return you home unless you express to them that you live in an unsafe environment. If you left home and decided to stay with a boyfriend, they could get in trouble for harboring a runaway. However, due to the McKinney Vento Act you also have the right to go to school regardless of your living situation. To learn more about the process of running away and being able to enroll in school without your legal guardian’s permission, you can also call the National Center of Homeless Education Hotline at 1-800-308-2145.

    If you would like to discuss the reasons as to why you want to runaway or you have any additional questions, please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat.

    We hope the information provided helps. Remember we are available 24/7 and can be toll-free reached at the number listed above. We are confidential, anonymous, and non-direct.

    Best Wishes
    ~NRS

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