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  • ccsmod2
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello There,

    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. We are sorry to hear that you are going through a difficult time with your mom, and want you to know that you are not alone.

    You mentioned wanting to stay with your baby’s dad, we are not legal experts but do have some information. Because you are a minor you would need to get permission from your legal guardian if you do not get permission you run the risk of being reported as a runaway. What that means is it is a possibility that you could be returned home.

    You mentioned that your mother is not helping you or taking you to doctor appointments, this may be considered neglect and you do have a right to make a report. You can report this by calling Child Help at 1800-422-4453. You do not deserve to be neglected in any way.
    We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I’m 17 and pregnant and my mom isn’t doing anything for me while I’m pregnant. she’s not takin me to the doctors and she’s treating me like badly and I want to know if I can stay with the baby dad because he and his aunt does everything for me and our daughter ! PLEASE I NEED SOMEONE TO TELL ME SOMETHING !!!!

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  • ccsmod16
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    Hi,
    Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you have experienced years of erratic behavior by both your mom and your dad. It sounds like the things you have tried to make it better there just don't work on them. It's understandable to want to get out of there. It's understandable to feel like you are "the crazy one", but that is just your mind trying to make sense of a situation that is very erratic.
    It takes a lot of strength to have grown up like this and to have graduated, despite the lack of support. We hope you feel proud of yourself for that.
    As far as being able to leave, since you are still a minor and she has already threatened police and P.I.N.S., we would have to have a conversation with you to discover what other options you may have. Securing a job is an excellent first step so that at the very least, when you are 18, you'll be in a financial position to leave.
    We hope you will either chat us through this website, or call our hotline at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-runaway). We are here for you 24/7 to talk this over.
    Sincerely,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hello, I am 17 I just graduated high school. I’m trying to get out of my parents house as fast as I possibly can. I live in ny, I am 17 and my girlfriend is 18. Neither of us have jobs atm but we are both working on it. Personally I think there’s something mentally wrong with my mother and I know for a fact my father is a addict. I’ve tried everything I possibly can to make it easier but everything for last couple years has been hell. I try my hardest to get out of this house and go to my girlfriends, no matter how many times I try to get away I always get forced back by my mom. I understand some of the things she does but she’ll still force me to come home for absolutely no reason. Like today and yesterday for an example. I was at my girlfriends house across the road and she told me I had to be home last night because today is Father’s Day. Which I understand but then I get here and no longer then an hour after I get here my father takes off. Around midnight my mom ran off to “pick up my sister” just for me to wake up at 7 am to my mom dad and sister just getting home. Cause my mom picked up my sister and dragged her around all night to find my dad. I then fall back asleep and wake up later in the day to my dad gone again. Mind you it’s Father’s Day and I still haven’t seen him once. And my moms insisting I have to stay home and wait for him so we can go to “lunch” even tho I’ve been waiting for the last 6 hours I’m not aloud to go to my girlfriends house. And I guarantee if I did she would be running over right behind me making a scene. Cause she’s done that multiple times saying she’s going to call the cops and put me on p.i.n.s. She says the cop she’s going to call knows her so he won’t care about what I have to say just care what she has to say. Everyday I try and try and try and hope something will change. I feel like I’m trapped in this house with these crazy people that normalize bull******** behavior. (Sorry for my language) I just need out of this house as fast as I can and all I feel is stuck like there’s nothing I can do. Idk maybe my mom is right and I’m the crazy one.

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  • ccsmod10
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there, we're glad you reached out. It sounds like you have thoroughly thought things through and have made a plan where you feel safe and comfortable-- which is great!

    Technically your boyfriend can only be charged with harboring a runaway if your parent reports you as a runaway (which involves calling local law enforcement and reporting that you are missing from home). Then, if your boyfriend was discovered to be housing you without disclosing it to local authorities, he could face the misdemeanor of harboring a runaway. However, it sounds like you plan on staying in contact with your mom and keeping her abreast of your whereabouts, so it seems unlikely she would report you as a runaway.

    If you'd like any more support in this process, please feel free to reach out to us again. Whether it's for legal questions or emotional support, we're here to help as best we can. You can live chat us at 1800runaway.org or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hey, i turn 17 in July and my bf turns 18 in January. He’s going to get an apartment probably in February 2023, with one of his buddies. I would still be in my senior year and obviously we’d stay in the area and I have a car/pay for my own insurance, as I have a well paying job. I would be able to go to school everyday and help with the bills around the apartment. I also have great attendance and grades. I’m simply tired of my situation at home and have decided to move out fast since I was a kid. I live in SC and know that I wouldn’t face criminal charges/ wouldn’t be brought back home either. Applying for emancipation would take too long and my mom would never sign for me to leave, so running away is the only option. What I’m here to ask is if he could face any criminal charges for harboring a runaway? As I would try to keep in contact with my mom and she’d know who I was staying with.

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing what’s going on with us. It sounds like you’ve thought about some options for leaving home, primarily moving in with your long-distance partner. We’re not legal experts, but it may depend on the laws of your state and if your parents decide to report you missing—which your parent would still have the legal right to do as you are under 18. We unfortunately can’t tell you what to do, but we’d be happy to discuss more options to help ensure your safety if you’d like. Please feel free to reach out to us at 1(800) RUNAWAY, or you can chat with one of our crisis counselors online at 1800runaway.org. Take care, and we hope to hear from you soon!

    Sincerely,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi so I wanted to move out when I was 17 and move in with my boyfriend who recently turned 18 once he finishes Highschool I live in Ohio. And we been planning this for a while but my father doesn't know at the moment, which I was gonna tell him

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  • ccsmod2
    commented on Guest's reply
    Thanks for reaching out to us at the Runaway Safeline. Your situation sounds stressful and complicated for you.

    Generally, if you are underage and leave home without your parents’ permission, your parents can file a runaway report with the police, and they will return you to your parents’ home. The adult you stay with could get in trouble for harboring a runaway. In your case, if you left home to stay with your adult boyfriend, he could face some serious consequences. Would your parents consider letting you stay with a relative or trusted friend that might be more understanding of your situation? If not, then you may want to consider the trouble this could cause for your boyfriend, especially if there is any potential to jeopardize his immigration status.

    Once you turn 18, then it is legal for you to leave home and stay with him. While it may seem like a long time to wait, you and your boyfriend may decide that it is better to wait than to risk legal troubles for him.

    We are here to support you as you figure out what is best for your situation. It may help to discuss your specific details with us. Please feel free to call us or chat with us online at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929)/ 1800runaway.org if you would like to talk in more detail. Good luck!

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I came across this site, and im taking a shot in maybe getting a response. I'm in a hard situation where im in love with a older person but my family does not like him because he is different in culture and has some attitudes that i understand why he is like that. He has done a lot for me in which i have been there with him in every hard moment just that im between my family and a guy i love and do not want to leave him alone in this coutry.Which he has no family here. My family is religious and i do not know what to do.I plan leaving with him. but not sure if its the right time since im running out of time to decide.

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us here at NRS. While we are not legal experts we can speak on this generally. Your legal guardian is legally responsible for you until you turn 18 and would have some control in where you live. If you leave without their permission, they can report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This basically means your guardian can ask police to return you home if they know where you are staying.

    Leaving home as a minor can be challenging and we understand this must be a very difficult time. We want you to know you are not alone and we are here to listen and help as much as possible. We are available 24/7 for immediate support by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or through live chat at 1800runaway.org.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I am currently with living with my boyfriend. And my mom wants to call the cops on me for being here with him.

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  • ccsmod2
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello There,
    Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, it takes great courage to reach out and we are so glad that you have decided to reach out to us.
    It is understandable that you would want to move in with your girlfriend, and we are glad to hear that your mom has given you permission. We are not legal experts but we do have some information on the laws. Most likely if you were previously living with your mom and she gave you permission to leave, you would be legally allowed to live with your girlfriend.
    From our understanding your dad may be able to still file a runaway report. Usually the police may see this as a custody battle and require your mom and dad to go to court. To find out the best answer you could always call your local police department and ask them.
    We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here for you 24/7. Best of luck!
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I am 17 and I want to move in with my 18 year old girlfriend. My dad recently told me to pack my things and made me move in with my mom. My mom has given me permission to move in with my girlfriend. Do I need my dads permission too? And could my dad call me in as a runaway if I have my moms permission?

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  • ccsmod16
    replied
    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. Understand that it is difficult with your Mom at the moment and you would just like to leave. Perhaps trying to communicate with her and tell her your frustrations might help for the long term relationship.

    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    Be safe,

    NRS

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