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  • #61
    I am 17 and 5 months i live in virginia . i have a boyfriend who is 18 and will be 19 in 3 months . Could I leave home ? if i wanted to, could i leave home and live with him ? All without going to court. Does my guardian have control over me ?

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    • ccsmod13
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for reaching out to us here at NRS. While we are not legal experts we can speak on this generally. Your legal guardian is legally responsible for you until you turn 18 and would have some control in where you live. If you leave without their permission, they can report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This basically means your guardian can ask police to return you home if they know where you are staying.

      Leaving home as a minor can be challenging and we understand this must be a very difficult time. We want you to know you are not alone and we are here to listen and help as much as possible. We are available 24/7 for immediate support by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or through live chat at 1800runaway.org.

      Stay safe,
      NRS

  • #62
    Hi I'm turning 17 I want to move out with my boyfriends and his parents ,and I live in Washington state. There's has been serious issues between my parents and I, I would get mentally really hurt badly. If I tell them that I want to move out they would tell me that I can but there is no coming back. But what would happen if they changed there mind reporting to the police department saying that I'm a runaway?

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      Hi there,

      Thank you for taking to the time to reach out to us here at NRS. Leaving can be a big decision to make, but you would know better than anyone what is best for you. It sounds like you have some concerns about possible consequences if your parents attempt to report you as a runaway to the police. While we are not legal experts we can speak generally on this.

      The age of majority in Washington is 18 which is the age you are considered a legal adult with the legal freedom to choose where you live. If you leave without permission as a minor, your parents can report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This means your parents can ask police to return you home if they know where you are staying. Now, there is not a universal way that police respond to runaway reports. In some cases, police might not take a runaway report and might not intervene since you are close to turning 18. We suggest that any young person with this question call the non-emergency line for the local police department to ask an officer about their protocol regarding runaway reports. This can be done anonymously and the local police would have the most specific information about what could happen.

      We hope this information helps! If you would like to talk more about your situation or you have any more questions, please do not hesitate to reach out again. We are available for immediate help 24/7 through our hotline at 1-800-786-2929 or our live chat services at 1800runaway.org (click on the CHAT button on our website homepage).

      Stay safe,
      NRS

  • #63
    I am 17 and i live in dallas tx. Im in a toxic environment all my friends know and they want me to get out and so do i. i have a plan to have my bf come get me he is 18 and im going to stay at his house with his mom and then commute to my grandmothers the next day. i do online school so i have my computer. my grandmother supports me because she understands how toxic the enviornment is and with my mental issues its not safe for me to stay. is there any advice you can give me because this is happening tomorrow and i need to make sure ive got everything covered.

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      Hello,

      Thanks for reaching out to us. We are so sorry to hear that things at home with your family have been so difficult. It sounds like you’ve made a plan to leave, and you would like some feedback about your plan. We cannot tell you what to do, or even if what you are doing is right or wrong, but we can share information that might help you figure out your next steps.

      We are not legal experts, but from what we understand, in most states, a minor needs the consent of a parent or legal guardian to live somewhere else. If you leave without consent, your parent or legal guardian may be able to file a runaway report with your local police department. While it is not technically illegal for you to run away, it is considered a status offense in some states, and in many states whomever you stay with can be charged with harboring a runaway or aiding and abetting in the delinquency of a minor, both of which are misdemeanors. If possible, consider whether your grandmother can help you talk to your parent or legal guardian to get consent for you to leave if this is what you hope to do.

      All of this hinges on whether you are considered a minor in your state and, if so, whether your local police department would take the report. The best way to confirm whether your parent or legal guardian can file a report is to reach out to your local police at their non-emergency number or legal aid agency. Your local police can be reached at 214.671.3001. The Legal Aid of Dallas office can be reached at 214.748.1234. If you would like more information, or even if you just want someone to talk to, feel free to give us a call.

      We cannot tell you what to do, but we can do our best to help you explore your options as you figure out your next steps. You can reach us 24/7 by phone at 1.800.RUNAWAY (786.2929) or via chat by visiting our website www.1800runaway.org . We’re here to listen, here to help. Stay safe!

      -NRS

  • #64
    In Connecticut, is it okay for me (17) to move out with my boyfriend (1?

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    • ccsmod15
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.

      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

      Be safe,

      NRS

  • #65
    im 17 and live in very strict household and very controlling parents can my 18 year old boyfriend get in trouble if i runaway from home and go live with him he just turned 18 im from CO

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      Hi,
      Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation and we are glad you have contacted us for help.
      You asked about whether or not your adult boyfriend can get in trouble if you leave home to stay with him. Assuming you will leave without parental consent, it may be possible that your boyfriend could get in legal trouble for harboring a minor, or assisting a minor in their efforts to run away. While at your age, you are legally able to make your own decisions around sex and dating, when it comes to living arrangement, the story is different. You would need to procure parental consent to live with your boyfriend before you are a legal adult at 18.
      If you do it anyway, your parents or guardians may contact the police and report you. If you are reported, the police will make a good faith effort to figure out where you are and bring you back home. It is not illegal to leave home without consent as a minor; it is only a status offense, or something you are technically not allowed to do. If you want, you can call us and we can connect you with your local police department so you may anonymously ask them how they might respond to your exact situation. We can even call out to them with you. Just reach out at 1-800-RUNAWAY to start.
      We hope some of this information is helpful. We can also connect you with youth legal aid services in your area, if you want more answers to your specific legal questions. We hope that you make the decision that is best for you. If you need more help along the way, we are always here. We may be reached at 1-800-RUNAWAY or via instant message at 1800runaway.org.
      Stay safe and stay strong,
      NRS

  • #66
    Hi. I’m 17 years old. I live in ny state and I know the runaway state law is 18. But what if I ran away anyway? There’s constant fighting and negativity in the house and everything makes me really depressed and stressed. Would I get in trouble for running away because of that? Thanks.

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    • ccsmod13
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for taking the time to contact us here at NRS and we appreciate you sharing your situation with us. It sounds like there is a lot you are facing at home and it's been getting overwhelming. Wanting to get space from all of that stress is understandable. You mentioned wanting to know more about runaway laws and what could happen if you left. While we are not legal experts, we can speak generally on this. If you leave home without permission, your parents/guardians can report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This means your parents can ask police to return you home if they know where you are staying. You would not get into any legal trouble though.

      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #67
    Hi, I'm 20 years old living in Florida while my girlfriend is 16 years old living in Texas. We have been in a serious long distance relationship for over 3 years now (We met at age 12 and 16 years old). I'm working full time and making enough to financially support myself while my girlfriend is still in high school living with her mom (father passed away).

    My girlfriend and I have been talking about living together, possibly at our current age or when she turns 17 years old. However, we're worried her mom may not allow it and we've considered just having my girlfriend leave secretly. We are thinking about telling her mom afterwards and hope that her mom allows her to leave once we explained to her that she left with her boyfriend. Her mom does not know my age or that I am a few years older than her daughter but we're worried she will contact the police.

    I know that asking for permission would be the best way but we don't want to risk her saying no and not allowing us to continue our relationship when she finds out that we want to live together. I am writing this because I want to know if there are any legal risks since I am 20 and she is 16, we're concerned that I could get in trouble even though her mom has no idea about my age, and I would like to know what the best way to go about this because we are seriously considering moving in together.

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      Hey there. Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you took that step.

      The short answer to your question is yes--there are legal risks given your age difference, as well as the age difference in which the two of you began dating (assuming there was sexual contact). Sometimes people think that they're in the clear once the younger person in the relationship gets older, but that's not always the case. If you began having any sort of sexual contact with your girlfriend when she was 12 and you were 16, you could still face legal ramifications for that time. Beyond this, you're also at risk of facing legal consequences due to your current age difference as well. In Texas, the age of consent is 17. This means that even if you've had consensual sex with your girlfriend, it is considered statutory rape. To give you an idea of the consequences around that--a charge of indecency with a child is a second degree felony that can bring punishment of two to twenty years in prison (in Texas).

      In Florida it's a little different. The age of consent is 18, but there is a law that may exempt you called the Romeo & Juliet Law, which allows minors who are 16 or 17 to have sex with someone no older than 23. However, it's important to keep in mind that the laws apply to the state you're in at the time. And again, they can be applied to an incident that has already happened.

      The age of consent isn't the only potential legal issue that you could face. If she decides to leave home without her mom's consent, and you allow her to stay with you, you could also face charges based on harboring a runaway. These charges could be more extreme because she'd also be crossing state lines, and there are laws on harboring a runaway in both Texas and Florida.

      As the both of you continue to think things through, it's important to take all of the associated risks into consideration and weigh them heavily.

      If you'd like to talk in more detail, please feel free to reach out to us directly by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY, or by chatting with us live at www.1800runaway.org. We're available 24/7 and are always happy to listen, and to help.

      NRS

  • #68
    I'm 17 I turn 18 on the 28th of February and my just recently turned 20. We live in georgia but he's planning to move to oregon once I turn 18 so he can take me with him. But I'm not sure how much longer I can stay in this house it dosen't feel like a home and I have to go through hell and back everyday. If I leave georgia and go to Oregon b4 I turn 18 can I get into trouble or be forced back home?

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    • ccsmod15
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #69
    im from Texas and im 17 my boyfriend is 20 , im tired of my mom telling me stuff ,and making me feel less ,disliking my boyfriend and acting nice when he is around every weekend , can i go away and live with my boyfriend at mexico, but i will continue school , and starting a good life with him .

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    • #70
      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. Understand that it is difficult with your Mom at the moment and you would just like to leave. Perhaps trying to communicate with her and tell her your frustrations might help for the long term relationship.

      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

      Be safe,

      NRS
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      • #71
        I am 17 and I want to move in with my 18 year old girlfriend. My dad recently told me to pack my things and made me move in with my mom. My mom has given me permission to move in with my girlfriend. Do I need my dads permission too? And could my dad call me in as a runaway if I have my moms permission?

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          Hello There,
          Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, it takes great courage to reach out and we are so glad that you have decided to reach out to us.
          It is understandable that you would want to move in with your girlfriend, and we are glad to hear that your mom has given you permission. We are not legal experts but we do have some information on the laws. Most likely if you were previously living with your mom and she gave you permission to leave, you would be legally allowed to live with your girlfriend.
          From our understanding your dad may be able to still file a runaway report. Usually the police may see this as a custody battle and require your mom and dad to go to court. To find out the best answer you could always call your local police department and ask them.
          We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here for you 24/7. Best of luck!
          NRS

      • #72
        I am currently with living with my boyfriend. And my mom wants to call the cops on me for being here with him.

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        • ccsmod15
          ccsmod15 commented
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          Hi there,

          Thank you for reaching out to us here at NRS. While we are not legal experts we can speak on this generally. Your legal guardian is legally responsible for you until you turn 18 and would have some control in where you live. If you leave without their permission, they can report you as a runaway to the police. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This basically means your guardian can ask police to return you home if they know where you are staying.

          Leaving home as a minor can be challenging and we understand this must be a very difficult time. We want you to know you are not alone and we are here to listen and help as much as possible. We are available 24/7 for immediate support by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or through live chat at 1800runaway.org.

          Stay safe,
          NRS

      • #73
        I came across this site, and im taking a shot in maybe getting a response. I'm in a hard situation where im in love with a older person but my family does not like him because he is different in culture and has some attitudes that i understand why he is like that. He has done a lot for me in which i have been there with him in every hard moment just that im between my family and a guy i love and do not want to leave him alone in this coutry.Which he has no family here. My family is religious and i do not know what to do.I plan leaving with him. but not sure if its the right time since im running out of time to decide.

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        • ccsmod2
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          Thanks for reaching out to us at the Runaway Safeline. Your situation sounds stressful and complicated for you.

          Generally, if you are underage and leave home without your parents’ permission, your parents can file a runaway report with the police, and they will return you to your parents’ home. The adult you stay with could get in trouble for harboring a runaway. In your case, if you left home to stay with your adult boyfriend, he could face some serious consequences. Would your parents consider letting you stay with a relative or trusted friend that might be more understanding of your situation? If not, then you may want to consider the trouble this could cause for your boyfriend, especially if there is any potential to jeopardize his immigration status.

          Once you turn 18, then it is legal for you to leave home and stay with him. While it may seem like a long time to wait, you and your boyfriend may decide that it is better to wait than to risk legal troubles for him.

          We are here to support you as you figure out what is best for your situation. It may help to discuss your specific details with us. Please feel free to call us or chat with us online at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929)/ 1800runaway.org if you would like to talk in more detail. Good luck!

      • #74
        Hi so I wanted to move out when I was 17 and move in with my boyfriend who recently turned 18 once he finishes Highschool I live in Ohio. And we been planning this for a while but my father doesn't know at the moment, which I was gonna tell him

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        • ccsmod15
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          Hi there,

          Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing what’s going on with us. It sounds like you’ve thought about some options for leaving home, primarily moving in with your long-distance partner. We’re not legal experts, but it may depend on the laws of your state and if your parents decide to report you missing—which your parent would still have the legal right to do as you are under 18. We unfortunately can’t tell you what to do, but we’d be happy to discuss more options to help ensure your safety if you’d like. Please feel free to reach out to us at 1(800) RUNAWAY, or you can chat with one of our crisis counselors online at 1800runaway.org. Take care, and we hope to hear from you soon!

          Sincerely,
          NRS

      • #75
        Hey, i turn 17 in July and my bf turns 18 in January. He’s going to get an apartment probably in February 2023, with one of his buddies. I would still be in my senior year and obviously we’d stay in the area and I have a car/pay for my own insurance, as I have a well paying job. I would be able to go to school everyday and help with the bills around the apartment. I also have great attendance and grades. I’m simply tired of my situation at home and have decided to move out fast since I was a kid. I live in SC and know that I wouldn’t face criminal charges/ wouldn’t be brought back home either. Applying for emancipation would take too long and my mom would never sign for me to leave, so running away is the only option. What I’m here to ask is if he could face any criminal charges for harboring a runaway? As I would try to keep in contact with my mom and she’d know who I was staying with.

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          Hi there, we're glad you reached out. It sounds like you have thoroughly thought things through and have made a plan where you feel safe and comfortable-- which is great!

          Technically your boyfriend can only be charged with harboring a runaway if your parent reports you as a runaway (which involves calling local law enforcement and reporting that you are missing from home). Then, if your boyfriend was discovered to be housing you without disclosing it to local authorities, he could face the misdemeanor of harboring a runaway. However, it sounds like you plan on staying in contact with your mom and keeping her abreast of your whereabouts, so it seems unlikely she would report you as a runaway.

          If you'd like any more support in this process, please feel free to reach out to us again. Whether it's for legal questions or emotional support, we're here to help as best we can. You can live chat us at 1800runaway.org or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
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