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    I have set goals and accomplished them just to be pushed back by my parents. I was promised to stay at a mentally draining charter school for just one year and then attend a regular high school and that one year turned into my entire high school career. I was promised if i got into a good university i will get to dorm. I did and my won't allow me to dorm. I asked if i get a job if I can, i got a job and I still can't dorm. My manager only gives me 14 hours a week out of spite while everyone is earning a minimum of 20. My mom thinks that me going out once every three weeks is okay and if i ask for evry other weekend she says I am ungrateful and gets mad. Right now i am so close to ending my own life. I can't take setting goals for people to just knock me back down to the ground. I want to move out and create my own life and experience the struggle and rise of it all, Is there a way for me to move out, get a moderate job opportunity and build myself up from there.

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    RE: 18 and want to move out

    Thanks for reaching out to us for help. It sounds like you are in a verytough situation. It is understandable that you want to move out. You are feeling that your parents do not support your goals or give you enough freedom. That sounds very challenging. You mentioned you are thinking about ending your life. It takes a lot of strength to reach out for help, and we are so glad that you did. Your life has worth and our top priority is your safety. If you feel this is an emergency you could consider calling 911 for emergency assistance. We are here to listen and support you in any way that we can, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Hotline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time. You can also call us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you need to talk. You might also think about reaching out to a school counselor or a therapist. Sometimes depressed and suicidal feelings can linger even after you have left a situation where you were feeling unhappy and depressed. Getting support could really help give you stability and support as you move out.
    Since you are 18 you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to see if you can get more hours at work, or search for another job, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to help you find any resources that might be helpful and to support you in making a plan to deal with your situation. We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.
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