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    hi i was wondering if i got caught with a run away if i could get charges pressed on me

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do. It’s great to hear that your uncle supports you. If you go to stay at his house without prior permission from your parents, he could potentially be charged with harboring a runaway, which is a misdemeanor. Penalties for harboring a runaway vary from state to state, police officer to officer, and how your parents view the situation. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned home.

    You mentioned that life at home has been emotionally damaging and has led to some feelings of depression. Those kinds of feelings can be really overwhelming and you aren't alone. If you’d like some additional support, an organization that may be helpful is the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). You can contact them by calling 1-800-950-NAMI or you can text them by sending NAMI to 741741. Another agency that could be of great help is the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), they can help you locate low or no cost mental health care providers in your area. Their number is 1-800-662-4357 or you can go to their site at samhsa.gov.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Hi I’m 16 and I don’t want to live with my parents anymore because I feel so emotionally damaged and depressed. So I have reached out to one of my uncles and I would like to go with him. But the only problem is my parents would never let me. So I wanted to ask if I technically went and live with my uncle without my parents approval can my uncle get in trouble for that? And what will happen to me if I do that? Im just so scared and don’t live with my parents anymore. What do I do??

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  • ccsmod3
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    We appreciate you reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline. We know it takes a lot to reach out for support, and commend you for doing so. Generally speaking, the individuals who have legal guardianship of a minor are the ones who are responsible for that minor. It probably feels a little tricky because your mom is...your mom and you want to live with her, but if at any point guardianship was formally given to your brother and sister in law, it likely won't be as simple as leaving the house to live with your mom. It might be helpful for you to try and have a conversation with your brother and sister in law about living with your mom. If everyone agrees, an agreement can be documented and you can all follow it.

    However, it's possible they won't agree. If that happens, it's important to think about where you go from there. Do you specifically want to live with your mom, or do you no longer want to live with your brother and sister in law? If it's not just living with mom, is there anyone else you can live with that you brother and sister in law would agree to? If you want to just live with your mom, will she allow it even if your brother and sister in law say no? There are a lot of different factors that come into play here. If the police or courts ultimately get involved, it's possible that your mom could face legal repercussions. These vary by state.

    We hope that this information helps some, but if you have any additional questions, please feel free to reach out to us by phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY or through our chat at www.1800runaway.org. We're available 24/7, and always happy to help.

    Take care,

    NRS

  • ccsmod3
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    Thanks for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline. We know it takes a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you did. It sounds like you had a rough day with your mom and stepdad showing up to your job and arguing with you in front of your coworkers. Feeling like they took it way too far is understandable, especially if you were trying to do something nice for someone else. If you think moving out is the best option for you, but your mom won't let you leave, it might be a good idea to try and have a conversation with her about how you're feeling. If you find it challenging to talk with her one on one, it could help to have someone else there that you're comfortable with, like a family member, family friend, or even a therapist. If those aren't options for you, we can also help you plan that conversation and/or facilitate it with you.

    In thinking about leaving home, it's important to spend some time thinking about a plan. Consider thinking about where you will go, how you will get there, and how you'll provide for yourself. If you have someone you'd like to stay with, it's a good idea to talk your plan over with them to make sure they're okay with it. If your mom's permission is important to you, having a plan spelled out might be useful. She may also be more willing to let you leave if you can both agree on another place for you to stay, even if it's just for a cooling off period.

    Whatever you decide to do, we're here for you. Please feel free to give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us through our website at 1800runaway.org. We're available 24/7, and are always happy to help.

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    I am 16 years old, and i'm living with my brother and sister in law. they have guardianship of me. can i leave the house to live with my mom? and what are my options if the police get involved or court?

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    i’m 16 and i live with my mom and step dad ive always thought my mom had changed since being with him i’m always told i’m not grown and they put me down even when i try to get them to listen to my reason why, they don’t and today i work at KFC and they showed up to my job because my car wasn’t there but it wasn’t there for a reason i was helping my boyfriends mom with washing her clothes and we took her car all my co workers was watching them arguing with me and i think they took it way to far and i want to move out seeing it’s the best option for me i hate living here but i don’t think my mom will let me leave what should i do?

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,

    Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, it takes great courage to reach out and we are so glad that you have decided to reach out.
    You are going through a difficult time and we want you to know that you are not alone. You do not deserve to be treated the way you have been treated. Because you are a minor it is considered neglect whenever your mother kicks you out. You do have a right to report the neglect and the abuse. You can make a report by calling Child Help at : 1800-422-4453. You can also call or chat with us and we can help you with making a report.
    It is great that you have a job and that they are willing to help you. To find out more about the emancipation process you can call your local court house and they would be able to help you start the process. Keep in mind emancipation can take a few months and can sometimes be costly.
    We know you mentioned suicide and we want you to know that you are worth living and your life is valuable. If you are ever feeling suicidal or need someone to talk to there is always someone willing to help and willing to listen. Please reach out to The National Suicide Prevention Hotline at: 800-273-8255.
    We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are available 24/7 to listen and to provide support.
    Stay Strong,
    NRS

  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time right now, and we want you to know you are not alone.
    We are not legal experts but we do have some information on what could happen if you were to leave. Because you are considered a minor if you left without permission your legal guardian could file a runaway report. Running away is a status offense what that means is if you were found you most likely would not be in any legal trouble but you would be returned home to your legal guardian.
    We are sorry to hear that you have been abused, and you do not deserve to be abused. It is understandable to be afraid of telling people about the abuse, but we want you to know it is always an option. If you did want to report the abuse you can call Child Help at 1800-422-4453, you can also call us and we can help with an abuse report. Unfortunately, every case is different so it is hard to tell what would happen once you told CPS. In most cases they investigate within 72 hours of reporting. After that they can decide what services to provide such as counseling, parenting classes, or family supervision. If you are in danger they may find placement for you such as living with another family member. If you are in danger, please call 911.
    We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support to you. Best of luck!
    NRS

  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time right now, and we want you to know you are not alone.
    We are not legal experts but we do have some information on what could happen if you were to leave. Because you are considered a minor if you left without permission your legal guardian could file a runaway report. Running away is a status offense what that means is if you were found you most likely would not be in any legal trouble but you would be returned home to your legal guardian.
    We are sorry to hear that you have been abused, and you do not deserve to be abused. It is understandable to be afraid of telling people about the abuse, but we want you to know it is always an option. If you did want to report the abuse you can call Child Help at 1800-422-4453, you can also call us and we can help with an abuse report. Unfortunately, every case is different so it is hard to tell what would happen once you told CPS. In most cases they investigate within 72 hours of reporting. After that they can decide what services to provide such as counseling, parenting classes, or family supervision. If you are in danger they may find placement for you such as living with another family member. If you are in danger, please call 911.
    We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support to you. Best of luck!
    NRS

  • ccsmod2
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    Hello, thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand that it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what has been going on. We are so sorry to hear about your parents; our deepest condolences. Its seems as if you have endured a lot throughout the few years so we commend you for your strength and resilience. It must be hard dealing with your aunt being rude to you, as no one should have to experience that type of disrespect.

    We are not legal experts however we do have a lot of experience working with youth. If you would like to live with your grandparents, the courts may need to get involved. You would also need to get consent from your current legal guardians. You may like to consider having a conversation with your grandparents during your next visit about potentially living with them permanently. If you grandparents were okay with the agreement, they would need to reach out to both your aunt and uncle. You may also like to consider having a conversation with your aunt and uncle about your current living arrangement. If you would feel more comfortable, you could also have a trusted individual to mediate the conversation.

    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help you by telephone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice on the forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail, please call or chat us soon.

    We can be reached at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

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    Hi im 16 years old and i live in texas. My stepmom has been kicking me out for years but calls me in as a runaway, She has been threatening to kill me and has been hurting me physically and emotionally. If im a 16 year old in college can i runaway? Im looking into getting emanicapted. I have a job and they are aware of whats going on at home. They are willing to help me get out of that home. Ive thought about suicide but i would love to live my life. I dont have any family but the closest person to me is my coworker and she has offered to help me runaway. her boyfriend is a police officer and he wants to help as well. What should i do? Im scared to go home. All they do is hit me and force me to do things.

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    I am 16 years old and I am currently at a camp that has helped me understand how much abuse my parents have put on me. I want to go move out and live with my close friend that lives about 2 hour away from me Is that legal? What if im to scared to tell people that I was abused then what will happen? If i tell CPS about the abuse what will happen to my family? I only have 2 weeks to figure this all out but I am really scared to go back home but I don't want to get a runaway file on my name. Please help me.

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    Hey, I don't know if this is still active or not, but I want to know how I could legally live with my grandparents. I turned 16 in July. When I was 7, my mother died of cancer, so I had to live with people who I've been calling my aunt and uncle. I used to have to visit my father every Sunday at my grandparents house, which I loved. My dad passed when I was 10, and my grandparents took my aunt and uncle to court to get full custody of me. I said I only wanted visitation at that time, so now I get visitations with them once a month. However, I really want to live with them now. It seems like after my father passed away, and after the whole court situation, my aunt in particular, has been very rude to me. She has been getting in my face over the simplest things, I have been shoved up to the closet, but nothing really too physical. I want to go live with my grandparents, but I want to know if I could legally move there. I haven't had my phone since like 7th grade, because I get grounded over almost anything. I just feel like my anxiety spikes every time my aunt walks in the room. She just talks to me disrespectfully. Nobody else but my half sister notices how she treats me. And, to be honest, I can't emotionally handle this any more. I want to move to my grandparents house so bad. I'm not looking to run away, because they would just call the police and I would be returned home. I want to know if I legally have the option to live somewhere else. I can e-mail, but not call. Thank you in advance.

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out to us. It takes a lot of courage to ask for help especially with everything that is going on in your house. It is very stressful to be in a home where you are not getting your basic needs met. You deserve to be treated better and most certainly deserve to never be hit or threatened to be thrown out of the house. It makes sense that you want to be out on your own and setting up a safe place to live. Legally at 16 you are still a minor and your parents could file a runaway report if you left. If you had interactions with the police as a runaway, the police would be obligated to return you home if they felt you would be safe and cared for. Your boyfriend and his family probably would not get in trouble for giving you a place to stay, but harboring a runaway charges could always be a risk for them. If you call our 24/7 hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY or start a chat on our website 1800runaway.org, we can discuss options and resources in your area.

    We hope to hear from you soon so that we can help,

    Good luck,
    NRS
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