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    hi, im 16 and my parents are extremely overbearing and protective. they have no reason to act like this, since i do everything they ask, i keep good grades and keep up with everything i need to, yet they continue to emotionally abuse me. my friend invited me on vacation with her to florida for a few days, and my parents say that i cant save up enough money to pay for the plane ticket and they think that her 24 year old sister wont be responsible enough. i have a job and will have money for the plane ride, i just want to know if i go and they dont completely consent, could they call the police on me? what would happen? i want to go and have some fun for once without dealing with their judgment every 10 minutes.

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are having a difficult time and we want you to know that you are not alone.
    You do not deserve to be treated the way you have been being treated, and we are sorry to hear that you are going through that. This sounds like it can be abusive and you do have a right to make an abuse report. One option would be to contact Child Help at 1800-422-4453, and they would be able to help with a report. You can also always call or chat with us and we can help you with making a report.
    We are not legal experts but we do have some knowledge of what could happen if you left. From our understanding if your aunt has guardianship right now, she can decide where you can or cannot live. If you were to leave without her permission she could file a runaway report. If the police were to find you it is a possibility that they can bring you home. You can always contact your local police department and ask to get the best answer.
    We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore options please give us a call. We are here for you 24/7, we wish you the best of luck!
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hey my name is Jasmine and I am 16. My aunt has temporary guardianship over me and my mom has never signed off her rights to me. I live with my aunt, uncle, and little cousin. I don't want to live here anymore as my uncle is awful towards us and when he doesn't take his bipolar medication he gets worse and one time he was angry and broke a coffee table with only his hands. My aunt when she is angry has thrown things at me and called me a whore for having guy friends. My little cousin tells me to kill myself and gets extremely mean. He is 8 and I am 16, I know it sounds stupid but my family always babys him and makes it seem like hes in the right for treating me this way. I cant live with my mother because her husband sexually abused me and ive tried living with my grandparents but they were verbally abusive towards me and constantly put me down. My dad is a druggie and i havent spoke to him since around christmas. I live in Pennsylvania btw. My mom said it would be ok for me to live with my boyfriends family but my aunt says no. Does my aunt have a say in where i can live with temporary guardianship or is it up to my mother?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thanks for reaching out to NRS! It sounds like a lot is going on and it is seemingly overwhelming. You deserve to have some sort of freedom and not feel like you are living in a cage. It makes sense why you are feeling that way. Since you are 16, the police can get involved and bring you back to the home you are staying at for foster care. From what we understand, running away is a status offense. We are not legal experts, so we cannot get legal advice. If you are wondering exactly how it will be handled you can reach out anonymously to your local nonemergency police number and ask them. You can also call us and we can call out for you. Another thing we can do is help you make a plan and elicit options of places you can stay.
    If you are interested in talking further you can call us at 1800-RUNAWAY or chat with us at www.1800RUNAWAY.org. We are happy to help is any way we can. You are not in this alone.
    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    hey im 16 going to turn 17 in july. Im in foster care and my parents rights are token away. im not allowed to do anything they toke my phone away. I feel like im in a cage i hate living sometimes. I cant hang with friends or anything nor can i text them. I want to just get up and leave with my friends but will i get in trouble by the cops?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email and forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi I am currently 15 right now turning 16 on October 9th I also live in Utah and I have ran away before cuz I live in a toxic household I get blamed, yelled, and hit at for the littlest stuff ever and it’s honestly whatever but it’s been like this my whole life and I’m getting tired of it so tried I can’t take it anymore but when I left they took me home and I got in a lot of trouble with my dad and mom I don’t wanna be returned home or get anyone in trouble but how can I do that tho?

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi, we are glad you reached out to us. We are here to help youth in crisis especially those considering running away to develop a plan that works for their situation but most importantly that is safe. We are a non-directive agency which means we do not tell you what to do but help you understand and explore all your options while also making sure you know the risks along the way. We are completely confidential on all our communications with youth.

    It sounds like you have been thinking about running away for some time and that you have been working out details. We trust you that you have good reasons to want to run away. Our resources and knowledge is based on programs, laws and youth protective services based in the United States, so our ability to help you is limited.

    In general, we can tell you that airlines all have different rules allowing a minor traveling without a guardian especially across international borders. It is unlikely you will be able to get around their protocols to verify you are traveling with your guardian’s consent and arrangements that you are going to a safe situation with a responsible adult in the destination country.

    It will also be very challenging to get through passport control as the border agents are always looking for youth who are being trafficked or at risk of falling into a situation to be trafficked. Which leads up to the biggest safety concern with your plans and your precautions (like traveling with other youth, staying with families) that this situation is highly likely to expose you to human trafficking. Traffickers are always on the look out for youth from other countries as they are especially vulnerable. You and your friends would be exposed to dangerous situations in countries where governmental services and the police would have limited resources to help you and protect you. Traffickers are extremely good at appearing safe and helpful and making sure you are feeling very comfortable before they reveal their true motives and bluntly put-“trap you”. Unfortunately, there are traffickers and youth exploiters in every country and in every state of USA.

    We encourage you to look at options in your local community where you can get help resolving the problems with your current living situation. If you want to get specific legal advice for international laws on runaway youth in other countries you can contact www.childhelplineinternational.org . They can also help you access resources in your local community to get help for your specific situation.

    You can reach out to us through the forum or chat with us through our website anytime 24/7. Please make sure to let us know in any follow up that you already contacted us and that you need more information or help and that you reside in the UK. Good luck.

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    Guest replied
    16 year old and 17 year old looking to run away (Possibility of 16-17 old joining due to their home life as well).

    I'm still concerned about privacy so I don't want to share too much but please trust that we plan this for a good reason.

    We are looking to run away (preferably to another country) but a problem is that we cannot settle on a definite method/destination. There is no one we can go to and don't want to risk anyone a criminal offense. We have little money (100 pounds), and things are looking pretty dim since everything we do is monitored and controlled. We're both getting a bit desperate and are scared of doing something impulsive or never succeeding or going with this plan.

    We are exploring the idea of leaving for Poland (cheap flights and easy way to explain why we would like to travel there) and then travel around europe to our final destination.
    ​​​​We're also considering america, Hawaii which would be ideal due to how many poorer people live in the mofe rural areas and the tourism in the urban areas. (Easier for jobs but cheaper housing etc in the poorer areas hopefully.) Saint lucia was also an option but flights are ridiculously expensive.

    When we leave we considered babysitting as an option (16 year old girls seems like a safe choice, especially with experience.) And possibly renting rooms with 'safe' people, eg families and women. But we also considered cheap motels and shelters.

    Is there any country that is easy to get to and better ideal for runaways? Is there a cheap way to leave the UK? What documents do you need as a minor across borders/flights? How likely is it that the police will find you in the same country versus another?

    Looking forward to your response!!

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    We are glad you reached out to us for help. It must be very frustrating to have your Mom telling you such drastically different things. It sounds like you had a good plan to take care of yourself when your Mom threw you out. Just so you know, it is neglect for your Mom to throw you out. As your guardian she is legally required to take care of you until you are 18. She might have found that out and changed her mind.

    If you do decide to leave and your Mom does call the police, the police will take you back to your legal guardian (your Mom) as long as it is safe. You do have some options. We could explore ways to get your Mom to support you going to live with your boyfriend’s parents, to help make living with your Mom better for you or finding you a different living arrangement where the police would not take you back home. You can reach out to chat with us through our website or call our crisis hotline anytime 24,7 at 1 (800) RUNAWAY. Both are completely confidential. We are a non-directive agency-that means we will not tell you what to do but help you come up with a safe plan that feels right for you and looks at all your options.

    We hope to hear from you soon. Good luck.

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    Guest replied
    I am 16 and I love with my mom I fell asleep at my boyfriends house and she was pissed told me that she’s kicking me out and told me to think of her as dead she said I have to leave I’ve had it. My boyfriends parents are the nicest people ever and offered me a place I can stay but when I packed my bags my mom told me that I’m not going anywhere if I do she’s gonna call the police I was like you literally kicked me out and now I can’t go anywhere she said she’s going to pull me out of school then I’ll be homeschooled. I want to leave but I live in Wisconsin and I’m scared the cops are just gonna tAke me back and it will make everything worse. Help I don’t want to be here.

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for reaching out to us, we hope to help the best we can. It sounds like it’s been a bit overwhelming at your dad’s house. The easiest way to leave home is with your dad’s permission if he has complete custody over you. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your dad. If you need more info about guardianship, we can help find a legal aid in the area if you contact us through call or chat with us. If your mom has no legal custody your dad could report you as a runaway and you may be forced to go back home.

    The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

    Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

    Be safe,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi I’m 16 and sometimes I get so mad at my dad could j leave the house and have my mom pick me up without my dads permission.

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  • ccsmod1
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out, we know it takes a lot of courage and you should be proud of yourself for taking this step. No one should have to live in pain. If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

    We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

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    Guest replied
    i’m in pain please help me

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