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  • ccsmod0
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that your grandson is faced with right now and you’re wanting to find a way to help them as they mentioned having been kicked out. It’s great that your grandson has support and concern from you especially since this time is quite difficult for them.

    Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. We are here as support to help you and your grandson through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    We’re here to listen and to help and hope you or your friend can reach out soon.

    Take care,

    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    My grandson was forced to move out, he is 16 and has always been very missed treated, unfortunately my son is his step father and my son could never really except him, his mother really missed treated him also, I live with the family and my relationship with my son is almost gone because I always stood up for my grandson, he is a wonderful person and all he wanted was to be loved, he is staying with a friend but he needs help so bad, I try to give him what I can but he needs so much more, is there any place he can get good help? Thank you a sad and desperate grandma

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  • ccsmod16
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    Hi,
    Thanks for reaching out; we are glad that you did. It sounds like things are really stressful for you at home due to arguing and drama and that you don't get listened to. It's not fair for you to be treated badly. The hard part about wanting to leave at 16 is whether your parents would send police to go get you and have you brought back. That is a possibility if they guess where you are.
    We hope that you will reach out to our live services to talk this over and to help you figure out your options. You can chat us through this website, or call our hotline at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY)
    We truly hope to hear from you soon.
    Sincerely,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I am 16 and I feel just not happy at home I feel like I don’t get listen too and I just get treated like ******** at times I just get mad every time I’m home bc of drama and arguing I wanna live with my boyfriend and his family bc I feel way better there then home which is weird bc I love my family but I can’t handle them at all idk what to do. I just feel broken

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  • ccsmod16
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi,
    thank you for reaching out; we are glad that you did. It sounds like things are really hard at home because you are so closely watched and controlled. We are very glad that you have your brother and boyfriend and his family for support.
    It's understandable to want to leave this situation, but without parent's consent, they can file a runaway report with police and have you returned if they know where you are.
    We help people best by talking with them, either through live chat via this website, or through our phone hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929). Both services are 24/7 and confidential to you. We truly hope to hear from you so that we can talk this through and help you identify what your options may be.
    Sincerely,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi there! I am currently 15 and will be turning 16 on Dec 8th. living at home is hard because it feels like I don't have any freedom. the only place I can go out without a family member is school. I have to go straight home every day. I can't have any friends, no boyfriend, no going out, no homecoming this weekend, and no phone. They treat me like a kid but give me reasonability for an adult. I want to move out when I turn 16 but I'm scared something bad will happen. I have my older brother who moved out because my family was treating him horribly. I have a choice to either move in with him or my bf. My bf's parents offered for me to stay with them if something happens. I'm not sure what to do.

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  • ccsmod16
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    [10:49 PM] Doug Edwards
    Hi, we are so glad you reached out to us for help. From your description, there are a lot of overwhelming issues in your life and it makes sense you are looking for a way out of your Aunt’s house. To answer your specific question, it does not seem like there would be any way for you to legally get an apartment before you are 18. That is not your only option; you may want to consider alternative youth housing or a transitional living program. From your post detail, you would qualify for both. You don’t deserve to be hit or emotionally abused. You have a right to be in a safe home.  There are programs and resources in your community that we can put you in touch with to see if we can find something that would work for you to get out of the house. We would like to get some specific details to be able to recommend those resources and to conference call them with you so we can make sure you get the help you need. You can get in touch with us anytime 24/7 either through a chat on our website or on a call to our crisis hotline at (800) RUNAWAY. Both are completely confidential. We also want to make sure that any mental health issues are addressed as part of whatever plan you have. We can help you assess what is going on and how best to address that in the short term. We hope to hear from you soon and remember if at any point you are feeling unsafe, either because of suicidal thoughts or from your Aunt, you can call 911 and they will help get you to a safe place. You can still call us after you call 911. Good luck.

  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello,

    You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

    If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

    Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.
    Take care,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hello, I am 14 turning 15 in November i live with my aunt, and every day she emotionally abuses me, and physically this have been going on since I was 7 at this point I feel depressed I get constant anxiety and i attempted suicide at 11 that's how bad it was then its slowed down now but i still hate it ive been hearing voices lately and seeing things I don't know why and last night when she wasn't home i left to a friends house just so i had someone to talk to so she came home went to my friend asked where i was she came to where I was them smacked me slammed my head in the truck then when we got home she kept punching me in the face and smaking me and beating me with a broomstick i dont know if i really can take it anymore can i legally buy an apartment at 16 or run away at 15

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,

    Thank you for contacting the Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are having a very difficult time with your child and that you are committed to their well being. We are not legal experts, but can provide the following first steps for you. You have an option to contact a local legal aide resource specific to your state, which may be a courthouse, or Advocacy Resource Center. You can also call the local police department non-emergency number to see what the regulations in you state are currently for runaway laws, if your child has run away and is now in another home. You can contact us directly if you’d like to talk to someone anonymously about more details of your situation. We can also assist with looking up local resources for you. You can use this link as a reference to begin with if you like: https://www.lawhelp.org/find-help/. You can reach us by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or live chatting with us through our website (www.1800runaway.org).

    Best of luck,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I’m a mother of 16 yr defiant child can I physically remove my child from someone else’s home

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  • ccsmod5
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out to us, we hope to help as best we can. You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your parent’s permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parent The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

    Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi im 16 we just moved to ******* and I didn’t wanna go cause my whole life was back in bc and I tried to convince my parents to not move or let me stay so I can finish school but they ignored me and I was wondering is there anyway I can go back to bc without my parents permission without getting arrested and what would I have to do to make this happen
    Last edited by ccsmod5; 09-08-2021, 07:41 AM. Reason: Confidentiality

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  • ccsmod2
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    Thank you for contacting National Runaway Safeline. It was brave of you to share what is going on at home. What you are going through is a lot for just one person to handle, and you don’t deserve to be going through any of this at all. It sounds like your mom has been abusing you not only physically, but emotionally as well. It is unfair that she is putting a lot of the responsibility on you. Please know that if you are feeling unsafe, we can always provide you with the resources you need. It might be a good idea to see if you are able to call in or chat online (1-800-786-2929 or www.1800runaway.org). We can help you find shelters or transitional living programs that help youth get on their feet. We can also help you report any abuse that is happening at home so that a caseworker will be notified to assess your situation.


    You mentioned you were also thinking about running away. Some information that might be helpful to keep in mind is that those who are younger than 18 typically cannot leave home without their guardian’s permission. So if you were to run away, your mom can call the police to file a runaway report. If that were to happen, they could look for you and bring you back home if found.




    You are going through a lot, and we appreciate you reaching out to us. Please feel free to contact us whenever is suitable for you as we are open 24/7. If you feel that you are in immediate danger, please do not hesitate to contact the police (911) to get immediate assistance.

    We hope to hear from you soon,
    NRS

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  • Guest
    Guest replied
    hi , i’m 16 years old. and i live in kentucky. i’m getting emotionally abused at home and physically abused too sometimes... i turn 17 in november. I have a safe place to go too right now but my mom won’t let me go. every time something don’t go her way we will argue and get into fights and she will always tell me to just leave and then when i start packing my stuff she tries to change her mind. last night she got on top of me hitting me and started pulling my hair out. i never hit her back because i don’t feel like i should ever lay a hand on my mom. but she doesn’t care about me at all. she doesn’t love me. she was telling me all these mean things calling me a whore and a slut and it hurts really bad. she also said i disgust her and she acts like she hates me. i’m the only one in the house that helps her clean gives her money when she asks for it. she even steals my money. i bought a car and it’s in her name and she won’t even take me to go get my permit or anything. she won’t even let me sell my own car. I want to sell it cause she never lets me drive it. she always drives my car around and dritys it up and makes me up gas in it and it’s not fair. i pay for everything that needs to be done ok that car and i’ve never drove it once. she doesn’t treat me right she treats me differently from everyone else. I do great in school i’m always on the honor roll and i’m a junior but i’m graduating early this year cause i’m trying to get my life started and get away from my mom. she puts me down and makes me feel like i’m not worth anything. i feel un wanted here and un safe all the time. my siblings went to night school and got bad grades all the time and they don’t get in trouble for it but i get in trouble for everything. i have a sister that sneaks out all the time and smokes and drinks and she even told my mom that h she doesn’t even get yelled at or hit for that. i’m so depressed here and im tired of it. she’s trying to prevent me from graduating early this year. and she’s so so controlling she’s trying to control my life and mess up my future and that’s not fair. i’m in nursing classes and i had a 3.9 GPA last year. and my gol for this year is to get a 4.3 or higher. i just want to be happy. but i can’t even be happy cause it depressing here. we don’t have any internet anymore and my mom is 15,0000 behind on our morage she’s struggling really bad and i feel terrible. but she always takes her problems out on me. we also don’t have air or heat anymore cause it went out. this is my last year and i need something to change. idk what to do here.
    im stuck. i’m begging for someone to answer me.

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