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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. If you do opt to leave home or find yourself to be homeless you still have the right to your education under what’s called the McKinney-Vento act. This act guarantees you the right to stay in your original school and be provided transportation to and from school (to the extent possible), enrollment in a school in your area, receive free school meals and to receive services like educational supports and basic needs. To find out more about how to take advantage of the McKinney-Vento act we suggest calling your school directly.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hey, I am 16 years old I am having problems at home so I want to leave home. Can I do this and enroll in another school I can be able to facilitate my educational needs without parental consent.

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. If you would like to talk more in depth about options and other ways of going about your situation we would love to talk. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe, NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    hi my name is nathan i’m 16 and i want to leave i get blamed for everything and is called a dope head all the time by my mom and my grandma i want to live with my sister dad but my mom won’t let me and i can’t get my permit at all or a job because no one will give me a ride what can i do

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out to NRS. It sounds like your dad has been making you feel very unsafe at home which is not okay. You deserve to be treated in a way that makes you feel safe and supported. It must be really exhausting and overwhelming to be forced to work at your dad's store so much and it is unfair that he makes you do this. From what you mentioned, you have already been doing your best to advocate for yourself and prioritize your well-being.

    From what we know, runaway laws can vary and change in circumstances like yours where you are planning on leaving to live with another parent who has custody. This would most likely be more of an issue of custody, so your mom might have to go to court to have you live with her. Perhaps speaking to her or another family member will help you brainstorm a plan to be able to live with your mom. We want to help you decide on your next steps and discover your options, and we can better do that if we are able to talk more in detail about your situation. If you decide that you need to leave you can reach out to NRS anytime by phone or use our online chat services, so that we can better help you.

    Additionally, you can report the behavior that is making you feel unsafe at home. This can document why you don't want to live with him and possibly help your mom's case for getting more custody. If you decide to go this route, the national child abuse hotline can give you more information about the process and support you in starting the report. You can contact them at 800-422-4453 or go to www.childhelphotline.org.

    We are here 24/7 to listen and help at 1-800-RUNAWAY or 1800runaway.org. We look forward to hearing from you so that we can help!

    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi my name is Emily, Ive been living with my dad and my stepmom since I was 2 years old and I am currently 15. I turn 16 in June of next year. I would like to go live with my biological mom because ive always had problems with my dad and my stepmom. My dad owns 2 toy stores at a mall here in El Paso,TX and I work at one of them everyday after school and on weekends, and its been this way since I was 13. What I'm trying to say is that I'm tired of working all the time I never have time for myself and my parents never let me stay after school for anything. I've been really stressed and last year I was in such a bad place that I started using drugs. My dad and my step mom obviously thought that I was just being a rebel and acting out. My dad hardly hits me but when he does hits me really hard and it take weeks for my bruises to go away. In addition to this my dad already has an abusive background, he used to hit my biological mom and one time he even broke her arm, and when they got divorced my mom accused him of abusing her. I'm always getting in trouble for little thing my dad loves to exaggerate, another example can be that I am not allowed to date and during the summer my dad found out that I have a boyfriend and when he saw me he hit me really hard on my arm and my he meant to hit my ribs but I was covering them with my and I spent like 3 weeks with pain and really dark purple almost black bruises on my ribs and arm. When this happened I told my dad crying that I was going to leave with my biological mom, I told him that I couldn't take the emotional and physical abuse anymore. He got even more mad because I'm not even allowed to speak to my biological mom, even though she does have custody of me.
    This morning my dad found some pills that weren't even mine and my dad thought I was doing drugs again and he told me he is going to move me to a charter school and I really don't want that because its only 4 hrs and that would mean less time at school and more time at work with him. I really really really want to go live withy mom, I know ill be better off with her but my dad keeps saying that if I leave he WILL bring me back and that when he does bring me back home its going to be hell for me. I don't know what do anymore, please help me.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi,

    Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It must be hard to watch your friend suffer like this, and you are brave to have reached out to us for help.

    It sounds like your friend is being emotional abused and that life at home for her is very difficult. It’s important that both of you know that she does not deserve to be treated this way. It sounds like because of these difficulties at home, your friend is considering running away, and you are concerned with the legality of this. We are not legal experts, but we do know that when minors run away, their parents can file a runaway report and the police can make a good faith effort to bring them back home. Despite this, young people do run away. If your friend chooses to do this, it is important she considers how she will survive and stay safe, as well as what she might do in the event of a police response. Sometimes it can help to enlist other family members or friends’ parents that can help facilitate a discussion between the youth and their guardian. We can also be of help, even mediating a conference call between your friend and her Mom. Our number is 1-800-RUN-AWAY or we can be instant messaged at 1800runaway.org.

    We hope that you find some of this useful. Again, you demonstrate bravery in helping your friend. We wish you the best of luck on your journey. Reach out whenever!

    Sincerely,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hello, I live in the state of Iowa, my best friend is living in the most toxic family, worse than what mine was. I just helped her out of a mental breakdown that she has daily because of her mother. She attacks her like she is nothing and uses everything against her. She is 16, has a license and a car. She wants to leave but she is beyond scared too. I told her I would find a way to make it legal.. I need to be pointed in the right direction. Her mother would never sign off on Emancipation, which is difficult. If she stays with me or her cousin, does she legally have to go back home? Can she legally refuse to go home?
    Last edited by ccsmod8; 10-30-2019, 03:33 PM. Reason: Personal information included

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  • ccsmod6
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We’re sorry to hear that your mom has been treating you in such an unnecessarily cruel and hurtful manner. It is wildly inappropriate to try and make you eat off of the floor and it is unfair that she is imposing these rules for you about how you spend your money. Normally,so long as you are a minor in your state, your mom can call the police to file a runaway report if you leave without her permission. This usually allows the police to notify your guardian and then return you home if they encounter you. However, some states can be more or less lenient about these types of policies. We would be happy to discuss with you the particulars of your situation or what other options there might be. Please don’t hesitate to reach out to us on our 24/7 hotline 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

    Take care,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi my name is monica I'm 17 and I will be 18 on july 18th and was wondering if I can leave home with a good reason of emotional abuse or threats my mom has always been so rude to me like today she said I cant use no dishes in the house so I have to eat off the floor then she goes to my grandpa saying if he sees me eat any food that is hers in the house to call her or text her so if I cant leave now then there is no reason to be living like I have a job but my mom is forcing me to save it then the phone I bought she's telling me what to do with but it's my phone .... she said if u dont leave it home from school she's going to make me quit my job witch she wont do it because she cant make me

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  • ccsmod1
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

    We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if you do opt to leave your home your parents can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned home.

    We’re not legal experts here at NRS, so we can’t give you any legal advice regarding emancipation. Emancipation is an option in the state of Wisconsin but there isn't a specific statute about who can and cannot be emancipated. Emancipation can often be a lengthy and expensive process. You may want to speak with a legal aid group (they provide free or low cost legal advice) about emancipation qualifications and procedures. You can find a legal aid group near you by going to http://www.badgerlaw.net/.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I am 15 right now and I hate living with my family. I want to move out as soon as possible. The only problem is that I know my parents won't let me. If I move out without their consent, can I get arrested? I live in Wisconsin too. my boyfriend believes that I am emotionally abused, but how am I supposed to prove that? I really want to just run away now, but I'm afraid I'll be forced to return to my parents, and my parents will be super angry at me. I am scared of what they would do if I ran away and then had to return. Can I be legally forced to go home if I refuse? If I have to go to court or something will I need a lawyer? How will I pay for it? my boyfriend's mom said she would love to take me in too. could I go and live with her without my parent's consent? I really need to get out of this home I haven't seen my boyfriend in 6 months because of my parents. I really need help! PLEASE!

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  • ccsmod13
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out to NRS. You asked a really great questions. From what we know, if you leave home at 16 without permission your parents can report you as a runaway. You will not be arrested, but the police might return you home. However, runaway protocol can vary by police department. You can call the non-emergency number for your local police department and anonymously ask questions about their runaway protocol.

    You deserve to have a safe place to live and your parents' behavior is not okay. You do have the option to make a child abuse report to get a social worker involved to help. This can be a scary decision to make and you do not have to do it alone. You can contact the national child abuse hotline (800-422-4453 ; childhelphotline.org) for more support and information.

    We are here 24/7 and we want to be a support for you during this challenging time. Do not hesitate to reach out to talk more in detail about your situation and explore your options.

    Good luck,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I’m 16, my family life is not the best my parents drink 24/7 I have a safe place to move into. If I leave will the cops send me back home even tho I have a safe place and my parents are emotionally abusive. I live in Oregon btw

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  • ccsmod1
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hey Emily,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension - you shouldn't be abused in any way. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

    You mentioned some things about sexual harassment that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm, abuse, or anything inappropriatly sexual in nature is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

    We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but the age of majority (adulthood) in Michigan is 18, which means that you are considered a minor until then. If you do opt to leave your home your parent can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned home. Police response can vary a lot from location to location and generally speaking, the closer you are to turning 18, the more likely it is that the police may let you stay where you are. You can call out to your local nonemergency police line (usually you can just dial 311) to confirm local runaway response policy.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS
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