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  • Hey I am 16 getting ready to be 17 in February and my mom mentally abuse's me and I want to go live with my boyfriend in Kentucky how cod I do that

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      We want to let you know that we are proud of you for reaching out for help. You should not have to feel like your mental health is being threatened in the home. You deserve to feel at peace and supported in your home.
      There are some questions we’d like you consider first before running away.
      • What else can I do to improve my home situation before I leave?
      • What would make me stay at home?
      • How will I survive?
      • Is running away safe?
      • Who can I count on to help me?
      • Am I being realistic?
      • Have I given this enough thought?
      • What are my other options?
      • If I end up in trouble, who will I call?
      • When I return home, what will happen?

      Does anyone else know about the mental abuse you have been experiencing (friend, teacher, relative, counselor or someone you trust)? Sometimes it may feel less scary knowing that we have other person to talk to about the abuse and how we are feeling. Have you considered talking to Child Protective Services (CPS)? If you would like to make a report or want information about abuse and your safety, then they can assist with that. CPS can assist with identifying, treating, and reducing child abuse and or neglect. They want to make sure efforts are made to protect and maintain your safety at home. You can make a report with CPS of any abuse and/or neglect if you would like. CPS will take the information and determine what their next step will be. You can ask them also what they will do next. The more information you can provide to CPS will help to build a case. Also anyone that knows about the abuse can make a report on your behalf. You can be made anonymous call to them if you would just like more information as to how they might handle the situation, so that your confidentiality is maintained. You can contact Child Help USA at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (422-4453) or you can view their website: http://www.childhelp.org/ for more information. But if you feel like you’re in immediate danger, then you should call 911.

      Justice for the Children is another service that is outside of the police and CPS. They are a national child advocacy organization to help you if there might be inadequate and/or failure to protect you from abuse or neglect. You can reach them at 1-800-733-0059 or you can view their website at: http://www.justiceforchildren.org .

      We are a 24/7 non-judging, anonymous and confidential crisis line. We are here to help process through situation, discuss option in more detail, provide local resources/referrals and assist in making conference calls to other services or agencies. We do want to let you know that if we get identifying information (age, city, state, address, phone number and name (s) of alleged abuser (s)), then we would be mandated to report abuse. Also we want to you know who are other mandated reporters, which means the following people/agencies by law would have to report any or alleged abuse/neglect: Social Services, teachers, counselors, doctors. However, we do not determine what is or is not abuse though. We want you to feel comfortable in calling us. Our number is 1-800RUNAWAY (786-2929). You are welcome to call at any time you are ready.  We look forward in hear from you and wish you the best. Please be safe in the mean time!

  • hi, im 15, im gonna b 16 in january, my dad sometimes hits me, less often now since i told the state, but he still does, he also hits my little sis and twin brother and i cant do anything abt it, my parents r also emotionally abusive to me as well, i have a safe place 2 go, and i need 2 get outta there or else i might actually kms, i almost have cuz of them b4, is there any way i can get out of there, i dont have a phone cuz my parents dont want me documenting when my dad hits me, and they allow my little sister 2 hurt me a lot, is there any way for me 2 get out of my house?

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      Thank you for contacting NRS – we understand that situations like this can be difficult to navigate. We are so sorry to hear about the physical and emotional abuse that you’re experiencing.

      We understand that you have reported the abuse that you are experiencing to the state. While we wish this helped your situation more, there are a few other options you might want to consider. If you are in school and feel comfortable doing so, you might consider talking to a teacher or guidance counselor about what’s happening at home. One thing you should consider is that teachers and guidance counselors are legally mandated reporters so if you tell them about abuse, they are required to do something about it (typically getting Child Protective Services involved for an investigation. You might also consider talking to them about some of the other things you’re struggling with such as considering hurting yourself or running away.

      You mentioned that you are considering running away. While we are not legal experts, here is some information that might help. In most states, it is illegal for a youth (person under 18 years old) to run away from home without parent/guardian permission. Any parent who realizes that their child is missing is urged to call the police and report their child as a runaway. Failure to report a runaway could result in charges of neglect in some states.

      Anyone who takes in a runaway youth without permission is also at risk for harboring a runaway. This means that anyone who you stay with could get in trouble for letting a runaway youth stay with them. We’re sorry that this system is extremely restrictive.

      If you ever feel in immediate danger, either from abuse or self-harm, we encourage you to call the police for immediate assistance – your safety is our top priority.

      NRS is here to help 24/7. Call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or online at 1800runaway.org. Best of luck.

  • i don't know a hole lot about this websitebut it looks good to me so my girl is 15 and her parents keep her locked up in her house im really worried about and i can only text her i really worried Cuz i was also on a call with her and her dad was trying to do sexual stuff to her i really want her to get out of that house and move in with me and my family but her parent wouldn't let her if she still moves out when she is 16 will my family get in trouble for keeping her i really need advice please and thank you

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      Hi,
      Thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. It sounds like you are really worried about your girlfriend based on her parents locking her up and hearing her dad want to do sexual stuff to her.
      It's understandable to want to have her come live with your family to be safe, but her parents have custody of her till at least 18 and can have police bring her back. What you can do is give her our contact info so she can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat us through this website which is www.1800runaway.org so we can support her and listen and help.
      We work best when we can have a conversation with the people most involved. We truly hope to hear from her soon.
      Sincerely,
      NRS

  • Hi I'm 16 going on 17 and I live in a small Oklahoma town but that's beside the point. So I am usually neglected and and am the recipient of emotional abuse but the final straw is that there is a dead tree in the back yard and once it falls it will land on my room. My family knows that it will hit my room and where I sleep but haven't taken it down. I feel so unsafe at this point that I'm sleeping in a corner on the floor by my door . I feel so unsafe here that I want to leave as soon as possible.

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      Hello! Thank you for reaching out to the NRS!



      We're sorry to hear about your struggles at home. We hear you, you should not be treated that way at home by your family and you deserve to be somewhere that makes you feel wanted and safe.



      If you feel like you are in imminent danger, you should call 911 to report your situation. Regarding the dead tree, perhaps one option that you can pursue is seeing if your city or county has a tree trimming program. If such a department exists, their services are likely free and you can give them a call to get more information. You also mentioned that you are neglected and are on the receiving end of emotional abuse -- we hear you and this is also a serious issue. If you want to pursue filing a child abuse report or just want to learn more about the process, we can help you with that at the NRS if you call 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us at 1800runaway.org. Finally, if you feel as though are going through difficult emotions alone or just feel overwhelmed mentally, a great resource is NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness. They have great support groups and chat lines there with people going through similar issues at https://www.nami.org.



      We wish you all the best and hope you will find these resources helpful. If you have more questions or just want to talk about your situation more with one of our representatives, once again, feel free to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us at 1800runaway.org.
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