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  • I am 15, turning 16 in a few months. My parents are divorced and they went to court for me four years ago for custody. I live with my mom and I see my dad once a week on Saturday with the required supervison of my aunt. I want to know that if I leave my mom's when I turn sixteen if there would be anyway that she had to keep me until I'm eighteen. I want to live with my grandparents and dad but my stepdad told me that I legally had to stay with my mom until I turn eighteen. Could that be true? If so, is there any way that I can get around that to live with my dad and grandparents?

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    • ccsmod16
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      Hi!
      Thanks for reaching out and sharing a bit of what is going on at home. You mentioned wanting to leave home, and live with your dad and grandma. While we are not legal experts we can speak generally on this. Leaving home without permission from your parents as a minor is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This means your parents can report you as a runaway to the police. Again, you would not be arrested or charged with a crime because of this. It does mean your parents can ask police to return you home if they know where you are staying.
      Another option for alternative housing would be to get your parent’s consent to live somewhere else– maybe you should speak first to your dad and grandparents. We want to clarify that while parents can give consent to you leaving, they can also change their minds. We understand talking to parents about leaving home can be difficult. Maybe this conversation can be had with the family members that you would like to stay with.
      A legal resource that might help to answer your questions is https://www.lawhelp.org/
      If you would like to discuss these options further, feel free to reach out to us via our hotline number (1-800-786-2929), or through our chat line:
      https://na0messaging.icarol.com/Cons...d=254&cc=en-US
      Best of luck,
      The National Runaway Safeline

  • I am 16 wanting to move out I live in Kansas right now but I want to move to Nebraska I’m not sure with my mom will let is there anyway I can move without her permission I won’t be on this chat if anyone can help please text or call me ***********
    Last edited by ccsmod15; 04-16-2021, 12:26 AM.

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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • I am 16 I have been for a few months now and I have already been kicked out of my mom's house 12/13 times and right now is my 14th time she kicked me out because I wouldn't do "simple" things my chores not making jokes, not being a burden, not being depressed and putting a happy face on around everyone, etc. and basically "worship her" every time she kicks me out she sends me with my dad about 45 minutes away and i love him as a parent and everything and he's not doing anything wrong its just my mom still has complete control on me and everything i do over here too I can't go to school but im trying to, I cant have friends but i have friends, I cant have my drivers license but my dad wants to help me get one secretly we cant though without certain things like legal documents that my mom has, I can't have a phone, or listen to music because i will become evil apparantly which is just bullshii, ect. she's manipulative and good at playing with her emotions so that's how she controls everyone around me and how she use to control me and I wonder how i get away from all of that the manipulation the control she threatens me all the time that if i do any of the things she has banned she will call the cops on me and i will be sent to dt I don't know if she can do that or not she has already called them on me 3 times and I am really sick of it so my point is I don't know anything about running away if it's actually legal if I can get my drivers license with one parent, and how I could get my legal documents for school here I just want to feel normal and feel good.

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
      You have a legal right to attend school and if your mom is preventing that she could be in legal trouble for not doing so. It might be worth exploring truancy laws in your state or contacting a legal aid/lawyer about the situation. We are happy to try looking on your behalf.
      Each state has its own set of rules and fees for ordering certified birth certificates and other records. Rules, ordering instructions and fees for all 50 states, the District of Columbia and all other U.S states can be found here (http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/w2w.htm). Perhaps you can get in touch with your local county clerk’s office and they might be able to tell you a more solid answer on what documents are necessary to obtain your birth certificate. Other things that you can try is to contact the vital recorder office in your city and state to try to order a duplicate birth certificate or have another adult (usually family) help request one for you.
      National Network for Youth (NN4Y) state-by-state guide to ID, social security card, and birth certificate requirements: https://www.nn4youth.org/wp-content/...FINAL-2019.pdf

      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • i have the same reason with my mom , recently i ran away but they found where i was at so tonight im leaving again , im 16 years old and i dont want to be with my mom anymore

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    • ccsmod1
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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

      It’s important to consider all the possibilities that can occur if you leave home. You will need to plan out how you will cover basic necessities like travel, food, clothing, etc. If you have a place to go in mind, it’s good to see what the expectations of the living arrangement will be like; rules, the amount of time you’re allowed to stay, if you’re expected to contribute financially, etc. Living on your own can also bring about many safety risks. You will need to consider ways that you can protect yourself from physical harm as well as the possibility of sexual and labor exploitation. This can all influence your decision to leave.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you (like potential runaway/youth shelters), please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      Stay safe,
      NRS

      We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

  • I'm 15 and get emotionally abused by my mom and stepdad. They tell me they'll support me no matter what but freak out at the littlest things. They favor my brother over me, (Example: My mom wanted to go through my brothers phone and found porn, she freaked out but gave him his phone back at the end of the night. My mom didn't even ask for my phone till after I offered because I was talking to my friends late at night due to my insomnia, she looked through my phone and found texts from when I was freaking out because I thought my friend tried to kill themself and promptly asked me which friend it was. I told her I didn't remember then gave her a fake name to keep my friends privacy because my mom would've texted them paragraphs about how teen depression isn't real. I tried to be as honest as I could while keeping my boyfriend a secret because he's older than me, but by the end of the night my phone ended up crushed by my stepdad.) and never really care about me or my health. I was deprived of food for 3 days with my brother (Even though he ate during those 3 days and faked being sick) and I ended up puking, they gave us a piece of stale bread and a cup of soup. They constantly justify their actions by saying "My parents would do worse". My mom says I would never call CPS because they know how long it takes to get there and how long it takes to bury a body, I think it's jokes but I don't really think it is anymore.

    I want to get emancipated but I feel like if I proposed it to my parents I would be unsafe in the household. I don't want to runaway because they would file a runaway report and probably kill me when I got brought back. I currently have a green card at the moment and that is my only complication. I want to live with my boyfriend after my emancipation instead of being sent back to Canada. How could I go about this and keep my green card? I'm in the first few stages of the process, I have the card but it expires next year.

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    • ccsmod5
      ccsmod5 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thanks for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. Although you may not be a citizen, you still have rights like any other that protect you, reporting abuse does not mean you would be sent back to Canada. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody. Child Help is a great start if you would like more information but might not necessarily be open to making a report yet, they will help you understand what reporting abuse would bring generally.
      Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
      If your curious more so about legal issues, such as running away or being emancipated as a resident in the U.S., we can help you find some legal aid options to help guide you.
      If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • i was really young when they beat me up and was hit by a board and can i live with by brother when i am 16 How do i show proof of that? I don't have any marks

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
      Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
      If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best.
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • Hey I was just wondering if it’s Illegal to away at the age of 17 in Rhode Island and if my friends are 18+ would they get Arrested and charged??

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS
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