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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are struggling with a lot right now, and we want you to know that you are not alone. It is understandable to feel isolated and depressed with everything going on with COVID. If you need someone to talk to we are always here. Also if you need some mental health resources you can contact NAMI (national alliance for mental illnesses). They can be reached at 1800-950-NAMI.
    Also you are correct if your parents were to kick you out that would be considered neglect. You can file a report by calling Child help at : 1800-422-4453. You can also report this to your local police. We know you mentioned not wanting to live with your dad, if courts were involved last time they may be involved again. You can also talk to Child help about that because it is unlikely you would be sent to an abusive home if courts were stopping it last time.
    We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
    NRS

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    I’m 16 I live in Colorado I struggle and fight a lot with my mom and step dad. I have issues in the past with a abuse and I feel like my behavior has a lot to do with my past. I hate living in this house I always get told that I have have to do stuff in order to live in this house. With everything going on with COVID-19 I haven’t been able to see my friends or see anyone because my mom just had a baby. I feel trapped I feel like I’m constantly locked up in my house which makes my depression worse. I decided to sneak out and have fun with my friends without my mom knowing she found out and now I might be getting kicked out for good this time. I know that for me being 16 parents cannot kick their child out if they’re a minor it’s called child abandonment and it’s a crime. I’m scared I don’t want to live with my dad he has put his hands on me abused my mentally and physically. Cops were involved and court was as well but since I’m old enough to make the decision which parent I could stay with so I chose my mom but see the problem living here is I make mistakes I’m a teenager I want to have fun and see my friends and when I don’t get to I’ll sneak out and do it on my own time but now my mom and step dad are trying to make a decision if I’m being kicked out or not I’m scared I can’t live with my dad because of the past so where do I go what should I do in this situation of being kicked out and dealing with an abusive father? I mean is emancipation a chose for me?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hey there thanks for reaching out to NRS,
    It seems like you are feeling tired of being stuck inside due to COVID and frustrated with how your mom is treating you through this tough time. It’s understandable to feel upset that you don’t get to have contact with your friends or GF through all this. These are issues that everyone in the USA is going through right now. Humans deserve social contact with each other and it is hard to go through suddenly not getting to see your friends in school every day. You also don’t deserve to be yelled at by your mom when calmly asking can get the same result, or berated for your plan to go into the Army.
    As for what you do from here only you can decide that. Running away has risks that include Harboring a Runaway charge for those you stay with, a runaway report out on you and the police forcing you back home, or adversity on the streets. Running away isn’t necessarily illegal as it is a status offence so for your personal legal consequences police would just look to bring you back home.
    Some other options mostly revolve around finding ways to cope with the situation in another way, or finding other support to help you through this. These coping strategies could range from finding other outlets for your negative feelings, or attempting a conversation with your mom about the situation and how she or you could come together to work on how she approaches your chores, to finding a family or personal counselor to talk to and get through these difficult feelings. There might be a compromise in there for being able to see your friends as well if they come by your front yard or something like that so you can at least have some kind of contact with them. In the meantime it may be worth exploring alternative meet up options through video chats to scratch the social itch a bit and have support for how your parents are frustrating for you.
    If you did choose to runaway we are more than happy to see if there is a shelter in your area. We are also here to listen and explore coping mechanisms that you might find useful as we all get through this difficult new reality that is COVID. You can reach our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY or our online chat at 1800runaway.org.
    Good Luck,
    NRS.

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    Guest replied
    Hi my parents want to keep me home due to COVID in TN since I have been home they have been on me making evrything perfect in the house I have a job I’m 16. Also my mom will yell at me just to do simple stuff when she just has to tell me nicely also I haven’t been over to a friends house since COVID has happend with the exception of my gf who I will sometimes have to stay away for weeks at a time. I want to go move in with my gfs parents but I don’t want them to be charged. Also my dad is under control of my mom she has all the power and dangles it over him she could simply kick him out if wanted to also I’m supposed to be going into the army when I’m 17 by my choice and my mom will tell me I will get torchered and shot I really hate it here what should I do I’m really close to running away.
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  • ccsmod6
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    Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. While we are not legal experts we do have a great deal of experience working with youths in crisis. It is our understanding that, as you are a minor, you do not have the right to make contracts or own real estate. In all likelihood you would have to pay them and their names would be on the lease agreement or any contract that would be signed for the property.

    If you want to talk more about what is going on or if you have any other questions, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi i’m almost 16 and want to live on my own as soon as possible i’ve talked to my parents are they will give me the consent to live outside of their current home, if i find a place for myself would they have to be the ones to pay for it and i just pay them, or would i have the ability to pay for it myself?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like things are very stressful with your mother’s abusive behavior towards you. You deserve to live in an environment where you are treated with respect and we are sorry you’re going through this.

    Your safety and well-being is important and you don’t deserved to be mistreated. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation.

    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your mother may file a runaway runaway report and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    Be safe,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hello. I don’t know where to to start but I wanna love out. In about two days I’m gonna be 16. I’m being emotionally abused by my mother and wanna live with my boyfriends family. But I am scared if they get charged for me staying there. And I am scared if I will get sent with my dad. I am scared of what will my mom do to me. She’s been calling me names, have her favorites, does not let me out the house to socialize with anyone. My sibling get away with anything and i get the blame. I do not know what to do. I wanna leave at 16. I’ve read many articles about leaving. And I’m just wondering if the people I’ll be staying at will be charged. I don’t know what my mother will do to me and she’s bipolar. She has my life figured out. She does not support everything I do and gets mad for little things that aren’t noticeable. I am going back into depression and I don’t wanna say I’m thinking of suicide. I wanna leave this negative house and live in a positive place. What should I do.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hey there,
    Thanks for reaching out to NRS it seems like you are going through a lot at home and feel unsupported by your family. It is understandable to feel tired of being treated like that and want the situation to improve. Home should be a supportive place where you can be yourself and get help overcoming challenges instead of a place you feel uncomfortable in.
    If you were to leave home without permission at 16 your parents could file a runaway report. This is a status offence, so you wouldn’t be arrested by police, instead they would bring you back home to your parents.
    If you wanted to leave permanently that would either require CPS/DCFS to be involved and remove you from the home for abuse, or to become emancipated. Emancipation would essentially be you proving to the courts that you can fend for yourself as an adult, so usually has specific requirements that vary from state to state. Usually they require at least that you can be financially responsible for yourself.
    If you have more questions or just need someone to talk with you can always reach out 24/7 hotline at 1-800-786-2929 or chat with us at 1800runaway.org and click “chat”.

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    Guest replied
    So, for some reason it wouldnt post but anyways...i really want to move out of my parents home. I’m sick of my parents telling all my dumb secret mistakes and yell at for no reason like “why are you wearing a sweatshirt?!” Then roll their eyes at me. I’m tired of feeling like everything is my fault and that i feel like I dont belong here. Also, that i feel very self conscious about myself..and I’m tired of being ignored and told to “shut up” when i have something important to say. Overall I’m tired of getting treated like trash. Can i move out at age 16? I live in New York by the way.

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  • ccsmod4
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    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We would like to be of assistance to you if we can. It is times like these that would be nice to have a listening ear. It is also important that you remember to exercise self- care. You showed some by reaching out to NRS. Good for you. It sounds unfair that your mom does not listen or validate your feelings. You do not deserve to be treated this way by her. It’s not your fault that she chooses to behave in this manner. Your feelings are important and they matter.
    You deserve to be heard.

    NRS is here to listen and here to help.
    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat so that we might learn a little more about your situation and how we might assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I really want to move out of my moms house, I'm 16 and almost 17 and she invalidates my feelings all of the time and she makes me feel horrible just for being honest. I'm tired of feeling like I'm not important. I just want to be on my own. I have a job and she wont let me even stay home alone to make it to work (she goes to California a lot). i really need help, I'm so close to just leaving.

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi,I'm Dj I want to move out when I'm 15 so I can go live with me girlfriend but can I run away and not get in trouble?. I have a great life but as the oldest of my family I would like to move so I can just relax and enjoy my life I know I will have work to do overtime but I want to spend most my life with my girlfriend why I want to move out is because I don't have a great relationship with my mom or dad I right with them almost everyday and I'm getting tired of it.I think I'm being stupid but I think it would be better than fighting with my family.

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are doing through a difficult situation, and we are here to help.
    Leaving home can be a really big decision and it is great that you would have somewhere safe to stay. One option to consider would be to talk with your mother about your thoughts about moving out and see if you both can come up with an agreement. I may help to have your aunt present when you talk to her that way you have someone who can support you and help mediate the conversation.
    We are not legal experts but we do have some information that may help you in making a decision. If you were to leave home without permission your legal guardian does have the right to file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home. Because running away is not illegal you probably would not be arrested.
    We hope that this information may help with your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore more options, please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck in your situation.
    NRS
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