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  • #31
    Hi there:
    A friend of mine is a grandfather of two sisters. His son is the biological father and is completely AWOL and has given up his rights. The mother is in jail and has given up all rights. The girls (sisters) are officially wards of the state; one is in a group home (she's 13) and her older sister is 14 and lives with her uncle and aunt (younger brother of the bio Dad) and officially adopted the oldest girl. The uncle and aunt tried to adopt the youngest, as well, but she would not stay home, she is a victim of trauma and ran away daily.

    The youngest girl (in a group home at this time) has run away from her group home occasionally, and her last run away was around August 6th. To my understanding, she is still missing her grandfather just found out about that two days ago. His last contact with the group home staff and the DCS casemanager was that she was IN this group home. What is your recommendation for the grandfather or uncle and aunt (who have her older sister) to file a missing persons report with the police? Can or should they do that? What should they do when they have a granddaughter (niece) who once found and returned to the group home will start to plan to runaway again? My fear is that she is in harms way clearly right now as a 13 year old somewhere in Phoenix, Arizona. Please advise at your earliest.
    L. Sandbloom

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    • ccsmod3
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      Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are here to listen and help as best as we can. It sounds like you are going through a really tough time not having your youth home and being unsure of their safety. They are lucky to have someone that cares so much about them.

      One of the first options that can be important to explore is contacting your local law enforcement to file a runaway report. We are not legal experts here, but typically it is not illegal to runaway or leave home without permission. However, if a runaway report is filed, police that encounter a runaway youth will work to return them home when found. Keep in mind though, that the efforts made to search for runaway youth can vary from state to state or even within districts. Often it is up to the parents to advocate for themselves and keep track of the steps taken to find their youth.

      If you have a way to communicate with your child either email, text, phone, or social media you can inform them that we are offer confidential 24/7 support. We can try to locate some resources that could be of assistance, wherever they are located, to help keep them safe. If you do not have contact with your child, we also offer a message service where parents can call us to leave a message for their child. If the youth calls in, we can deliver this message. We also take messages from youth to their parents that we deliver as well. This can be a great option for you to express yourself in a safe, productive, and non-confrontational way. If you choose to utilize our message service, we encourage you to spread the word to anyone you think may be in contact with your child to increase the chances of your message being retrieved.

      Unfortunately we do not have a service that assists with locating youth, but there are agencies that offer to help in this way. One option is the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children which can be reached at 1-800-843-5678 or this link http://www.missingkids.com/home. You can also try Child Find at 1800-426-5678 or at this link http://childfindofamerica.org/. During a time like this, it can be important to remember your own self-care. Taking care of yourself and feeling heard can make an overwhelming situation more manageable. You can always call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY to talk or find additional resources.

  • #32
    so my friend has been in a group home for about 4 months or so and he turned 18 last week and we live in Alabama so I was wondering why is caseworker won’t let him come home because he’s legally an adult now. Is she lying to him or can he not leave the home until he’s 19 he’s really struggling there and wants to come home.

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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you and your friend are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of their only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission, however in Alabama the age of majority is 19 instead. If you are under 19 in Alabama and leave home the foster case worker may file them as a runaway and they may be returned home. Also, those they stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #33
    hi i was wondering if i can run away to my grandparents house and not get in trouble or them getting in trouble is it possible for me to stay there as well or would i have to return to the group home thank you

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    • #34
      Is it possible to run away from a group home at the age 17 about to turn 18 in 3 months and stay with my grandparents and they not get in trouble
      Last edited by ccsmod4; 09-08-2020, 02:11 AM.

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      • #35
        Hi there,
        Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

        We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
        While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent/guardian permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, they may file you as a runaway and if picked up by the police you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, contact the local non-emergency number to the police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
        We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

        Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

        If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

        Be safe and take care,
        NRS
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        • #36
          My group home won’t let me move out can they do that

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          • ccsmod15
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            Hey there,

            Thanks for reaching out to us. Generally speaking, if you have been placed in a group home and are under 18 you would need permission from whoever has custody of you to live elsewhere. You may want to talk to your caseworker about your situation and see what they have to say. We would like to help further bur really would need more details from you about your situation. The best way for us to help would be for you to either call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us via the chat feature at www.1800runaway.org. That way we can help you figure out what your options are. We also have a large database of resources, including legal aid if you would like to speak to a lawyer about what's going on.

            We hope this information helps. Please stay safe. We hope to hear from you soon

            All the best,
            NRS

        • #37
          I gave my group home 30 day notice I’m 28 years old and they refuse it

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          • ccsmod15
            ccsmod15 commented
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            Hi there,
            Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
            Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
            If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
            We hope to hear from you soon.
            Be safe,
            NRS

        • #38
          Hi there,

          I'm at a group home right now for Sober Living and I no longer want to be here. I would rather be happy back at home. I am 17 years olds and I am mature enough to handle myself in the real world. This sober house Im living at is terrible and I probably would be happier and less stressed if I just ran away. I'm not sure if they notify the police or not, but if they did- can I get in toruble?

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          • ccsmod16
            ccsmod16 commented
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            Hello –
            Thank you so much for reaching out to us! It sounds like this Sober Living group home is not working out for you. It seems like there must be a lot going on in your life if you’re thinking about leaving the facility. It’s great that you were able to find out some information about our hotline. Hopefully we can help.

            As far as getting in trouble for calling police – we are not too sure how every police office is going to react. We aren’t legal experts, and laws are different state-by-state. Typically happens in each state is if you are below the legal age of majority (18 in most states except Alabama and Nebraska [19 or upon marriage], and Mississippi [21]), your parents would have the right to file a runaway report when you would leave without permission. Since it’s only considered a status offense and not a crime to run away, the only thing that would happen is that the police will pick you up and bring you back home.

            Because this forum isn’t confidential (meaning that anyone can see our conversation), we greatly encourage you to reach out to us here so that we can talk one-on-one. Our staff members would be happy to talk to you about this further using email, our chat feature, or through our 24/7 hotline number (1-800-786-2929).
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